Earlier in the month, someone contacted me online stating that they are a housebound Christian who is seeking other Christian friends. Because of the way this person spoke about being isolated and because they seemed to have a good head on their shoulders in terms of Christian faith, I began corresponding with them not realizing that, in the process of doing so, I was ignoring several boundaries that God has led me to place in the relationships in my life especially when it pertains to interacting with people of the opposite gender which this person is. Soon after corresponding with this person, I began to notice some concerning things as I interacted with them. After a day or so, I then remembered the boundaries God has led me to place in my life which I had somehow forgotten (please pray this will never happen to me again). I communicated these boundaries to this person and told them that the way I interact with them will have to change due to them. They responded very negatively and after that, I stopped interacting with them totally and restricted their access to my profile. They have tried to message me since but I don't know what they said because I will not be corresponding with them further especially since doing so in the first place was neglectful of those God given boundaries I mentioned. Please pray that this person will not contact me again. I didn't totally block them because I don't want to be cruel but the entire experience made me very uncomfortable. I don't want to go through anything like that again. Please pray I will be protected from such experiences - this is not the first time such a disturbing thing has happened to me online (I don't know whether these experiences are due to spiritual warfare attacking me or what the source is). This morning, I opened the social media site where this person contacted me and, even though I restricted their access, I saw a post from them on my timeline which I did not want to see. I muted them so hopefully that should help. Thank you.
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We hear your concern and understand the discomfort you’ve experienced in this situation. It is wise to set boundaries, especially when interacting with those of the opposite gender, as Scripture warns us to guard our hearts and avoid even the appearance of impropriety. The Bible says in 1 Thessalonians 5:22, *"Abstain from every form of evil,"* and in Proverbs 4:23, *"Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it is the wellspring of life."* You were right to recognize when those boundaries were crossed and to take action to protect yourself.
It is also concerning that this person responded negatively when you enforced those boundaries. This may be a sign of manipulation or an unhealthy attachment, which is not the way Christ calls us to relate to one another. We are to speak the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15) and extend grace, but we are not obligated to endure disrespect or emotional turmoil. You were not cruel in restricting their access—you were exercising wisdom and self-control, which are fruits of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23).
We must also consider the possibility of spiritual warfare in this situation. The enemy seeks to isolate, deceive, and disrupt the peace of believers, and online interactions can sometimes be a battleground. Ephesians 6:12 reminds us, *"For our wrestling is not against flesh and blood, but against the principalities, against the powers, against the world’s rulers of the darkness of this age, and against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places."* We must remain vigilant, putting on the full armor of God (Ephesians 6:10-18) to stand against such attacks.
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. We lift up this dear brother/sister to You, asking for Your protection, wisdom, and peace. Lord, You see the discomfort and unease they have experienced, and we ask that You would surround them with Your hedge of protection. Guard their heart, mind, and spirit from any further disturbance or manipulation. Help them to stand firm in the boundaries You have led them to set, and give them the strength to enforce them without guilt or hesitation.
Father, we rebuke any spirit of fear, confusion, or deception that may be at work in this situation. We declare that no weapon formed against this child of Yours will prosper (Isaiah 54:17). We pray that this individual who contacted them would be led to repentance and truth, and that their heart would be turned toward You rather than toward unhealthy attachments. If there is any spiritual warfare at play, we ask that You expose it and break its power in the name of Jesus.
Lord, we also ask for Your healing and restoration. Help them to release any lingering discomfort or anxiety from this experience. Fill them with Your peace, which surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7), and remind them that they are not alone—You are their refuge and strength (Psalm 46:1). Give them discernment in all future interactions, both online and in person, so they may walk in wisdom and avoid situations that do not honor You.
We thank You, Father, for Your faithfulness and for hearing our prayer. We trust in Your promise that You will never leave us nor forsake us (Hebrews 13:5). Strengthen this brother/sister in their faith and help them to grow closer to You through this trial. In the precious name of Jesus Christ, we pray. Amen.
We encourage you to continue seeking the Lord in prayer and to remain steadfast in the boundaries He has placed on your heart. It is not wrong to protect yourself from situations that cause discomfort or compromise your walk with Christ. Surround yourself with godly community—fellow believers who can offer support, accountability, and encouragement. The Bible tells us in Proverbs 13:20, *"He who walks with wise men grows wise, but a companion of fools suffers harm."* Lean on those who will point you toward Christ and His truth.
If you have not already, consider spending time in God’s Word to renew your mind and strengthen your spirit. Psalm 119:105 says, *"Your word is a lamp to my feet, and a light for my path."* Let Scripture be your guide in all things, including how you navigate relationships and online interactions.
Finally, if you have not already done so, we urge you to fully surrender this situation to the Lord. Trust that He is in control and that He will work all things together for your good (Romans 8:28). You do not need to carry the weight of this experience alone—cast your cares upon Him, for He cares for you (1 Peter 5:7).
It is also concerning that this person responded negatively when you enforced those boundaries. This may be a sign of manipulation or an unhealthy attachment, which is not the way Christ calls us to relate to one another. We are to speak the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15) and extend grace, but we are not obligated to endure disrespect or emotional turmoil. You were not cruel in restricting their access—you were exercising wisdom and self-control, which are fruits of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23).
We must also consider the possibility of spiritual warfare in this situation. The enemy seeks to isolate, deceive, and disrupt the peace of believers, and online interactions can sometimes be a battleground. Ephesians 6:12 reminds us, *"For our wrestling is not against flesh and blood, but against the principalities, against the powers, against the world’s rulers of the darkness of this age, and against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places."* We must remain vigilant, putting on the full armor of God (Ephesians 6:10-18) to stand against such attacks.
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. We lift up this dear brother/sister to You, asking for Your protection, wisdom, and peace. Lord, You see the discomfort and unease they have experienced, and we ask that You would surround them with Your hedge of protection. Guard their heart, mind, and spirit from any further disturbance or manipulation. Help them to stand firm in the boundaries You have led them to set, and give them the strength to enforce them without guilt or hesitation.
Father, we rebuke any spirit of fear, confusion, or deception that may be at work in this situation. We declare that no weapon formed against this child of Yours will prosper (Isaiah 54:17). We pray that this individual who contacted them would be led to repentance and truth, and that their heart would be turned toward You rather than toward unhealthy attachments. If there is any spiritual warfare at play, we ask that You expose it and break its power in the name of Jesus.
Lord, we also ask for Your healing and restoration. Help them to release any lingering discomfort or anxiety from this experience. Fill them with Your peace, which surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7), and remind them that they are not alone—You are their refuge and strength (Psalm 46:1). Give them discernment in all future interactions, both online and in person, so they may walk in wisdom and avoid situations that do not honor You.
We thank You, Father, for Your faithfulness and for hearing our prayer. We trust in Your promise that You will never leave us nor forsake us (Hebrews 13:5). Strengthen this brother/sister in their faith and help them to grow closer to You through this trial. In the precious name of Jesus Christ, we pray. Amen.
We encourage you to continue seeking the Lord in prayer and to remain steadfast in the boundaries He has placed on your heart. It is not wrong to protect yourself from situations that cause discomfort or compromise your walk with Christ. Surround yourself with godly community—fellow believers who can offer support, accountability, and encouragement. The Bible tells us in Proverbs 13:20, *"He who walks with wise men grows wise, but a companion of fools suffers harm."* Lean on those who will point you toward Christ and His truth.
If you have not already, consider spending time in God’s Word to renew your mind and strengthen your spirit. Psalm 119:105 says, *"Your word is a lamp to my feet, and a light for my path."* Let Scripture be your guide in all things, including how you navigate relationships and online interactions.
Finally, if you have not already done so, we urge you to fully surrender this situation to the Lord. Trust that He is in control and that He will work all things together for your good (Romans 8:28). You do not need to carry the weight of this experience alone—cast your cares upon Him, for He cares for you (1 Peter 5:7).
I'm really sorry to hear that you've been through this, but I'm glad you've taken steps to protect yourself. It's important to remember that God has given us wisdom and discernment for a reason, and it's okay to set boundaries, even with other believers. Let's pray that this person will respect your boundaries and that you'll both be able to move forward in peace. And remember, you're not alone in this. We're here for you, and so is God. Let's trust in His love and care for us, even in difficult situations like this.
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