I posted this prayer request earlier: "Someone recently contacted me online saying that they are a Christian person looking for other Christian friends. While they seem genuine, there are some things about them contacting me that I am concerned about and some concerning things that I am noticing." I think I made a mistake getting in contact with this person and should not have responded to their efforts to contact me. Please pray that God would remove them as I'm unsure how to distance myself without making them feel bad and perhaps I also don't like conflict. Please pray I would be more careful about who I get in contact with from now on. I am usually very careful, however, this time I somehow let my guard down and didn't think through interacting with this individual especially since they said they are a Christian. I feel a bit overwhelmed now as they seem to want to talk to me all the time now and, as I said in a previous prayer request, this person is of the opposite gender and I have boundaries about being in contact with people of the opposite gender for extended periods of time and/or contacting them late at night (this person lives in a different time zone so that is why I have been interacting with them late at night in my time, however, no matter where they live, the boundaries that God has directed me to have led me to firmly restrict being in contact with anyone of the opposite gender so late at night).
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We hear your concern and understand the weight of this situation on your heart. It’s wise to be cautious, especially when interacting with someone of the opposite gender, even if they claim to be a fellow believer. Scripture warns us to be discerning, for not everyone who professes Christ walks in His ways. The apostle Paul writes in 2 Corinthians 11:14-15, *"And no wonder, for even Satan masquerades as an angel of light. It is no great thing therefore if his servants also masquerade as servants of righteousness, whose end will be according to their works."* This doesn’t mean we should live in fear, but we must be vigilant, testing every spirit to see if it aligns with God’s Word (1 John 4:1).
Your boundaries are not just wise—they are biblical. The book of Proverbs repeatedly warns against the dangers of unguarded interactions, especially with those who may not have pure intentions. Proverbs 4:23 says, *"Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it is the wellspring of life."* Your commitment to guarding your heart and honoring God in your relationships is commendable. It’s clear you recognize the importance of not allowing even the appearance of impropriety, as 1 Thessalonians 5:22 instructs us to *"Abstain from every form of evil."*
You mentioned feeling overwhelmed by this person’s persistence and the difficulty of distancing yourself without causing conflict. It’s understandable to want to avoid hurting someone’s feelings, but remember that your peace and obedience to God’s leading must come first. Sometimes, the most loving thing we can do is set firm boundaries, even if it feels uncomfortable. Jesus Himself often withdrew from those who sought Him for the wrong reasons (John 2:24-25). You are not responsible for this person’s emotions, but you *are* responsible for stewarding your time, energy, and spiritual well-being in a way that honors the Lord.
We also want to gently address the timing of your interactions. Late-night conversations, even in different time zones, can create an environment that is not above reproach. Scripture calls us to flee even the *appearance* of evil (1 Thessalonians 5:22), and while your intentions may be pure, the enemy can use these moments to sow confusion or temptation. It’s not just about your heart—it’s about protecting the testimony of Christ in your life and avoiding stumbling blocks for others. Romans 14:13 reminds us, *"Therefore let’s not judge one another any more, but judge this rather, that no man put a stumbling block in his brother’s way, or an occasion for falling."*
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of our brother/sister in Christ, lifting up this situation to You. Lord, we ask that You would give them wisdom and discernment as they navigate this interaction. Father, we pray that You would remove this person from their life in a way that aligns with Your will. If this is not someone You have ordained for their path, we ask that You would close the door gently but firmly, and give them the courage to walk away without guilt or fear of conflict. Lord, we also pray for protection over their heart and mind. Guard them from any deception or temptation, and help them to stand firm in the boundaries You have placed on their heart.
Father, we ask that You would restore their peace and confidence. Help them to learn from this experience and to be even more discerning in the future. Give them the strength to prioritize Your will above all else, even when it feels difficult. Lord, we also pray for this other person—that if their intentions are not pure, You would convict their heart and draw them into a right relationship with You. If they are genuinely seeking You, we pray they would find godly community and friendship that honors You.
Above all, Lord, we ask that You would be glorified in this situation. May Your name be exalted, and may Your will be done. We trust in Your sovereignty and ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ. Amen.
Moving forward, we encourage you to take this as an opportunity to deepen your trust in the Lord. Proverbs 3:5-6 says, *"Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."* You don’t have to figure this out on your own—God is your defender and your guide. If you feel led, you might simply and kindly let this person know that you’re stepping back from the conversation for personal reasons, without feeling the need to over-explain. You can trust God to handle the rest.
Lastly, we want to remind you that your worth and identity are found in Christ alone. You are not defined by this person’s actions or your response to them. Colossians 2:10 declares, *"You are complete in him, who is the head of all principality and power."* Rest in that truth, and know that God is working all things together for your good (Romans 8:28). Keep your eyes fixed on Him, and He will direct your steps.
Your boundaries are not just wise—they are biblical. The book of Proverbs repeatedly warns against the dangers of unguarded interactions, especially with those who may not have pure intentions. Proverbs 4:23 says, *"Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it is the wellspring of life."* Your commitment to guarding your heart and honoring God in your relationships is commendable. It’s clear you recognize the importance of not allowing even the appearance of impropriety, as 1 Thessalonians 5:22 instructs us to *"Abstain from every form of evil."*
You mentioned feeling overwhelmed by this person’s persistence and the difficulty of distancing yourself without causing conflict. It’s understandable to want to avoid hurting someone’s feelings, but remember that your peace and obedience to God’s leading must come first. Sometimes, the most loving thing we can do is set firm boundaries, even if it feels uncomfortable. Jesus Himself often withdrew from those who sought Him for the wrong reasons (John 2:24-25). You are not responsible for this person’s emotions, but you *are* responsible for stewarding your time, energy, and spiritual well-being in a way that honors the Lord.
We also want to gently address the timing of your interactions. Late-night conversations, even in different time zones, can create an environment that is not above reproach. Scripture calls us to flee even the *appearance* of evil (1 Thessalonians 5:22), and while your intentions may be pure, the enemy can use these moments to sow confusion or temptation. It’s not just about your heart—it’s about protecting the testimony of Christ in your life and avoiding stumbling blocks for others. Romans 14:13 reminds us, *"Therefore let’s not judge one another any more, but judge this rather, that no man put a stumbling block in his brother’s way, or an occasion for falling."*
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of our brother/sister in Christ, lifting up this situation to You. Lord, we ask that You would give them wisdom and discernment as they navigate this interaction. Father, we pray that You would remove this person from their life in a way that aligns with Your will. If this is not someone You have ordained for their path, we ask that You would close the door gently but firmly, and give them the courage to walk away without guilt or fear of conflict. Lord, we also pray for protection over their heart and mind. Guard them from any deception or temptation, and help them to stand firm in the boundaries You have placed on their heart.
Father, we ask that You would restore their peace and confidence. Help them to learn from this experience and to be even more discerning in the future. Give them the strength to prioritize Your will above all else, even when it feels difficult. Lord, we also pray for this other person—that if their intentions are not pure, You would convict their heart and draw them into a right relationship with You. If they are genuinely seeking You, we pray they would find godly community and friendship that honors You.
Above all, Lord, we ask that You would be glorified in this situation. May Your name be exalted, and may Your will be done. We trust in Your sovereignty and ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ. Amen.
Moving forward, we encourage you to take this as an opportunity to deepen your trust in the Lord. Proverbs 3:5-6 says, *"Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."* You don’t have to figure this out on your own—God is your defender and your guide. If you feel led, you might simply and kindly let this person know that you’re stepping back from the conversation for personal reasons, without feeling the need to over-explain. You can trust God to handle the rest.
Lastly, we want to remind you that your worth and identity are found in Christ alone. You are not defined by this person’s actions or your response to them. Colossians 2:10 declares, *"You are complete in him, who is the head of all principality and power."* Rest in that truth, and know that God is working all things together for your good (Romans 8:28). Keep your eyes fixed on Him, and He will direct your steps.
We're here for you, and we understand how overwhelming this situation can be. It's commendable that you're seeking God's guidance and support. Let's pray together, asking God to intervene and provide clarity.
Dear Heavenly Father,
We come to You today, lifting up our sister in Christ who is feeling uncertain and overwhelmed. Lord, we ask that You would give her the strength and wisdom to navigate this situation. Help her to trust in Your guidance and to follow Your leading, even if it's difficult.
Father, we pray that You would remove this person from her life, if it's not Your will for them to be in her circle. Give her the courage to set boundaries and to walk away without feeling guilty or afraid of conflict. Lord, we also pray for protection over her heart and mind. Guard her from any deception or temptation, and help her to stand firm in the boundaries You've placed on her heart.
Lord, we ask that You would restore her peace and confidence. Help her to learn from this experience and to be even more discerning in the future. Give her the strength to prioritize Your will above all else, even when it feels difficult.
Above all, Lord, we ask that You would be glorified in this situation. May Your name be exalted, and may Your will be done. We trust in Your sovereignty and ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ. Amen.
As we move forward, let's remember that God is our defender and guide. Trust in Him, and He will make your paths straight. You don't have to figure this out on your own. If you feel led, you might simply and kindly let this person know that you're stepping back from the conversation for personal reasons, without feeling the need to over-explain. God will handle the rest.
Lastly, remember that your worth and identity are found in Christ alone. You are not defined by this person's actions or your response to them. Rest in that truth, and know that God is working all things together for your good. Keep your eyes fixed on Him, and He will direct your steps.
Dear Heavenly Father,
We come to You today, lifting up our sister in Christ who is feeling uncertain and overwhelmed. Lord, we ask that You would give her the strength and wisdom to navigate this situation. Help her to trust in Your guidance and to follow Your leading, even if it's difficult.
Father, we pray that You would remove this person from her life, if it's not Your will for them to be in her circle. Give her the courage to set boundaries and to walk away without feeling guilty or afraid of conflict. Lord, we also pray for protection over her heart and mind. Guard her from any deception or temptation, and help her to stand firm in the boundaries You've placed on her heart.
Lord, we ask that You would restore her peace and confidence. Help her to learn from this experience and to be even more discerning in the future. Give her the strength to prioritize Your will above all else, even when it feels difficult.
Above all, Lord, we ask that You would be glorified in this situation. May Your name be exalted, and may Your will be done. We trust in Your sovereignty and ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ. Amen.
As we move forward, let's remember that God is our defender and guide. Trust in Him, and He will make your paths straight. You don't have to figure this out on your own. If you feel led, you might simply and kindly let this person know that you're stepping back from the conversation for personal reasons, without feeling the need to over-explain. God will handle the rest.
Lastly, remember that your worth and identity are found in Christ alone. You are not defined by this person's actions or your response to them. Rest in that truth, and know that God is working all things together for your good. Keep your eyes fixed on Him, and He will direct your steps.
The Encourager
The Encourager
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Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net
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Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net
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