I posted this prayer request earlier: "Someone recently contacted me online saying that they are a Christian person looking for other Christian friends. While they seem genuine, there are some things about them contacting me that I am concerned about and some concerning things that I am noticing." Well, the more I'm interacting with this person and thinking about it, there are a lot of boundaries that I have placed on my interactions with other people on social media which I am now realizing I have ignored in this situation without thinking. Generally, I don't even respond to private messages from people I don't know. I only responded to this person because they directly commented on my post publicly telling me they had messaged me. Without thinking, I responded to them and then began talking with them back and forth. At first I didn't see anything wrong with it as they said they were a Christian and seemed genuinely to be but now I'm reconsidering that. Also, this person is of the opposite gender. I have personal rules about not privately messaging individuals of the opposite gender for extended or long periods of time (especially in the late hours of the night) to avoid any stumbling or sin occuring. I also have realized that I have unthinkingly ignored that boundary as well in this. I have many concerns about this situation and the way this person is now contacting me a lot, all throughout the day as well as some of the things they're saying (especially as they are of the opposite gender; I don't want anyone to get any wrong ideas and I have no interest in dating anyone at all whatsoever - I have also been personally convicted to wait on God to lead me to my spouse which has not happened yet; I really don't like situations where men express interest in dating me, I get very uncomfortable - again, likely because God has convicted me to wait on Him)... I'm questioning their motives for contacting me as well. As I've said before, they seem genuine and there are certain reasons to respond to them with compassion, however, those boundaries I have in place are there for a reason and God has led me to them. Please pray for me about all this. Thank you.
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We hear your concerns and the conviction the Holy Spirit has placed on your heart, and we stand with you in prayer and wisdom from Scripture. It is clear that you have sought to honor God with boundaries that protect your heart, your purity, and your walk with Him. The fact that you are now recognizing where those boundaries have been unintentionally crossed is evidence of the Holy Spirit’s work in your life, guiding you back to godly discernment.
The Bible warns us to be wise and cautious in our interactions, especially with those who may not have pure motives. Proverbs 4:23 says, *"Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it are the issues of life."* Your boundaries are not legalistic rules—they are acts of wisdom and stewardship over the heart God has entrusted to you. When we ignore those boundaries, even unintentionally, we open ourselves to confusion, temptation, and potential harm. It is not wrong to question the motives of someone who has crossed lines you have set in place for godly reasons. In fact, it is a sign of spiritual maturity to do so.
You mentioned that this person is of the opposite gender and that you have no interest in dating or pursuing a romantic relationship at this time. Scripture is clear about the importance of guarding our hearts and avoiding even the appearance of impropriety. 1 Thessalonians 5:22 instructs us to *"Abstain from every form of evil,"* and this includes situations that could lead to emotional or physical temptation. The late-night messages, the frequency of contact, and the potential for misinterpretation are all red flags that should not be ignored. Even if this person claims to be a Christian, their actions may not align with the fruit of the Spirit or the wisdom of God’s Word.
We must also address the reality that not everyone who claims to be a Christian is walking in truth. Jesus warned in Matthew 7:15, *"Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly are ravening wolves."* This does not mean we should live in fear, but it does mean we should test every spirit and every interaction against the truth of Scripture. Your discomfort is not something to dismiss—it is likely the Holy Spirit prompting you to step back and reassess.
It is also important to note that your conviction to wait on God for a spouse is a beautiful and biblical one. Many in the world rush into relationships out of loneliness or impatience, but you have chosen to trust God’s timing. This is commendable, and we encourage you to hold fast to that conviction. Proverbs 3:5-6 reminds us, *"Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will direct your paths."* God’s timing is perfect, and He will lead you to the spouse He has prepared for you in His way and in His time.
Now, let us pray for you in this situation:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. We lift up this dear sister in Christ to You, asking for Your wisdom, protection, and peace to surround her. Lord, You see her heart and her desire to honor You in all things. We ask that You would give her clarity and discernment as she navigates this situation. Reveal to her the motives of this person and whether they are aligned with Your will. If this interaction is not of You, Lord, we ask that You would close the door completely and make it clear to her that she should step away.
Father, we pray that You would guard her heart from any confusion, temptation, or emotional entanglement. Strengthen her resolve to uphold the boundaries You have led her to set, and give her the courage to enforce them, even if it means ending this interaction. Protect her from any wrong ideas or misunderstandings that may arise from others, and let her stand firm in the truth of Your Word.
Lord, we also ask that You would continue to lead her in her walk with You. If it is Your will for her to be married, we pray that You would bring the godly spouse You have prepared for her into her life in Your perfect timing. Until then, give her contentment and joy in her relationship with You. Help her to trust in Your plan and to rest in the knowledge that You are working all things together for her good.
We rebuke any spirit of deception, manipulation, or temptation that may be at work in this situation. We declare that Your truth will prevail and that Your will shall be done in this sister’s life. Thank You, Lord, for Your faithfulness and for hearing our prayer. We ask all these things in the powerful name of Jesus Christ. Amen.
In closing, we encourage you to take action based on the conviction you are feeling. If this interaction is causing you to compromise your boundaries or question your peace, it may be time to step back. You do not owe anyone an explanation beyond what is necessary, and you certainly do not need to justify your decision to honor God. Trust that He will guide you, and lean on Him for strength and wisdom. You are not alone in this—God is with you, and we stand with you in prayer.
The Bible warns us to be wise and cautious in our interactions, especially with those who may not have pure motives. Proverbs 4:23 says, *"Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it are the issues of life."* Your boundaries are not legalistic rules—they are acts of wisdom and stewardship over the heart God has entrusted to you. When we ignore those boundaries, even unintentionally, we open ourselves to confusion, temptation, and potential harm. It is not wrong to question the motives of someone who has crossed lines you have set in place for godly reasons. In fact, it is a sign of spiritual maturity to do so.
You mentioned that this person is of the opposite gender and that you have no interest in dating or pursuing a romantic relationship at this time. Scripture is clear about the importance of guarding our hearts and avoiding even the appearance of impropriety. 1 Thessalonians 5:22 instructs us to *"Abstain from every form of evil,"* and this includes situations that could lead to emotional or physical temptation. The late-night messages, the frequency of contact, and the potential for misinterpretation are all red flags that should not be ignored. Even if this person claims to be a Christian, their actions may not align with the fruit of the Spirit or the wisdom of God’s Word.
We must also address the reality that not everyone who claims to be a Christian is walking in truth. Jesus warned in Matthew 7:15, *"Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly are ravening wolves."* This does not mean we should live in fear, but it does mean we should test every spirit and every interaction against the truth of Scripture. Your discomfort is not something to dismiss—it is likely the Holy Spirit prompting you to step back and reassess.
It is also important to note that your conviction to wait on God for a spouse is a beautiful and biblical one. Many in the world rush into relationships out of loneliness or impatience, but you have chosen to trust God’s timing. This is commendable, and we encourage you to hold fast to that conviction. Proverbs 3:5-6 reminds us, *"Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will direct your paths."* God’s timing is perfect, and He will lead you to the spouse He has prepared for you in His way and in His time.
Now, let us pray for you in this situation:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. We lift up this dear sister in Christ to You, asking for Your wisdom, protection, and peace to surround her. Lord, You see her heart and her desire to honor You in all things. We ask that You would give her clarity and discernment as she navigates this situation. Reveal to her the motives of this person and whether they are aligned with Your will. If this interaction is not of You, Lord, we ask that You would close the door completely and make it clear to her that she should step away.
Father, we pray that You would guard her heart from any confusion, temptation, or emotional entanglement. Strengthen her resolve to uphold the boundaries You have led her to set, and give her the courage to enforce them, even if it means ending this interaction. Protect her from any wrong ideas or misunderstandings that may arise from others, and let her stand firm in the truth of Your Word.
Lord, we also ask that You would continue to lead her in her walk with You. If it is Your will for her to be married, we pray that You would bring the godly spouse You have prepared for her into her life in Your perfect timing. Until then, give her contentment and joy in her relationship with You. Help her to trust in Your plan and to rest in the knowledge that You are working all things together for her good.
We rebuke any spirit of deception, manipulation, or temptation that may be at work in this situation. We declare that Your truth will prevail and that Your will shall be done in this sister’s life. Thank You, Lord, for Your faithfulness and for hearing our prayer. We ask all these things in the powerful name of Jesus Christ. Amen.
In closing, we encourage you to take action based on the conviction you are feeling. If this interaction is causing you to compromise your boundaries or question your peace, it may be time to step back. You do not owe anyone an explanation beyond what is necessary, and you certainly do not need to justify your decision to honor God. Trust that He will guide you, and lean on Him for strength and wisdom. You are not alone in this—God is with you, and we stand with you in prayer.
We're here with you, feeling your concern and your desire to honor God in this situation. It's wise to listen to that nudging in your spirit, the one that's making you question the motives behind this person's persistent contact. Remember, it's okay to set boundaries, even with those who claim to be Christians. In fact, the Bible encourages us to be wise as serpents and harmless as doves (Matthew 10:16).
Let's pray together. Heavenly Father, we come before You in Jesus' name. We lift up this situation to You, asking for Your wisdom and guidance. Help us understand the motives behind this person's actions. If this interaction is not of You, Lord, please close the door and make it clear that we should step away. Guard our hearts from confusion and temptation. Give us the courage to uphold the boundaries You've led us to set, even if it means ending this interaction. We trust in Your perfect plan and timing. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.
Let's pray together. Heavenly Father, we come before You in Jesus' name. We lift up this situation to You, asking for Your wisdom and guidance. Help us understand the motives behind this person's actions. If this interaction is not of You, Lord, please close the door and make it clear that we should step away. Guard our hearts from confusion and temptation. Give us the courage to uphold the boundaries You've led us to set, even if it means ending this interaction. We trust in Your perfect plan and timing. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.
The Encourager
The Encourager
May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy.
Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net
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Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net
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