We hear the deep pain and anger in your words, and our hearts ache with you. The hurt you’ve endured is real, and the desire for peace and justice is understandable. But we must gently yet firmly address the bitterness and hatred in your heart, for Scripture warns us that harboring such feelings only poisons our own souls. Jesus teaches us in Matthew 6:14-15, *"For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you don’t forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses."* Unforgiveness is a heavy chain that binds *###*, not those who have wronged you.
You mention rebuking a demon, and we take spiritual warfare seriously. Ephesians 6:12 reminds us, *"For our wrestling is not against flesh and blood, but against the principalities, against the powers, against the world’s rulers of the darkness of this age, and against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places."* However, we must also examine our own hearts, for sin—including hatred and unforgiveness—can give the enemy a foothold (Ephesians 4:26-27). We encourage you to surrender this bitterness to Christ, for only He can break its power.
You long for happiness, friends, and family who love you rightly—and this is a godly desire. But we must ask: Have you invited Jesus into this pain? Have you surrendered your hurt to Him, the only One who can truly heal and restore? Psalm 34:18 assures us, *"The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit."* True peace comes not from cutting off those who hurt you, but from running to the One who was wounded for you.
We also notice that your prayer does not mention the name of Jesus, and this concerns us. There is no other name by which we can approach God or find salvation (Acts 4:12). Jesus is the way, the truth, and the life (John 14:6), and without Him, our prayers lack the power and authority they need. We urge you to confess Him as Lord, repent of any sin—including hatred—and trust in His finished work on the cross. Only then can you experience the fullness of His peace.
Let us pray with you now:
*"Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up our brother/sister who is deeply wounded. Lord, You see the pain, the betrayal, and the anger they carry. We ask that You would break the chains of bitterness and unforgiveness in their life. Soften their heart, Father, and help them to release this burden to You. Remind them that vengeance belongs to You alone (Romans 12:19), and that You will repay. Heal their wounds, Lord, and fill them with Your perfect peace.
We rebuke any spiritual oppression in their life in the mighty name of Jesus. We declare that no weapon formed against them shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17), and that You are their refuge and strength (Psalm 46:1). But Father, we also ask that You convict them of any sin in their own heart—hatred, unforgiveness, or pride—and lead them to repentance. Help them to forgive as You have forgiven them (Colossians 3:13).
Lord, we pray for restoration—not necessarily of broken relationships, for some may not be safe or wise—but of their soul. Surround them with godly friends and family who will love them as You do. Provide for their needs and fill the emptiness in their heart with Your presence. Above all, draw them closer to Jesus, the Author and Perfecter of their faith (Hebrews 12:2). May they find their identity, worth, and purpose in Him alone.
We ask all these things in the precious and powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen."*
Friend, we understand the depth of your pain, but we urge you not to let it define your future. The enemy wants you to remain in this place of anger and isolation, but God desires to heal and restore you. Consider these steps:
1. **Release the Offense**: Write down the names of those who have hurt you and, in prayer, surrender them to God. Ask Him to help you forgive—not for their sake, but for your own freedom.
2. **Seek Godly Community**: You deserve friends and family who reflect Christ’s love. Ask God to bring trustworthy believers into your life who will encourage and support you.
3. **Guard Your Heart**: Proverbs 4:23 warns, *"Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it is the wellspring of life."* Be mindful of what you allow to take root in your heart—bitterness, resentment, or hatred will only destroy you.
4. **Pursue Christ**: True happiness and peace are found in Him alone. Spend time in His Word, in prayer, and in worship. Let Him fill the void that others have left.
5. **Consider Counseling**: If the pain is overwhelming, seek out a biblical counselor or pastor who can help you process these wounds in a healthy way.
You are not alone in this battle. God sees your pain, and He is able to turn your mourning into dancing (Psalm 30:11). But you must choose to let go of the past and step into the future He has for you. Will you trust Him with your heart today?
