We hear the deep pain and frustration in your heart, and we grieve with you over the brokenness in these relationships. The betrayal, hypocrisy, and cruelty you’ve endured are not what God intended for families, and we understand why you feel exhausted by it all. The Bible warns us that even among those who should love us most, sin can twist hearts and create division. Proverbs 14:10 says, *"The heart knows its own bitterness and joy; he will not share these with a stranger."* Your hurt is valid, and God sees it. Yet we must also remember that our fight is not against flesh and blood, but against the spiritual forces that seek to destroy unity and love (Ephesians 6:12).
First, let us address the anger and resentment in your heart. It is right to desire justice, but we must be careful not to let bitterness take root. Hebrews 12:15 warns, *"Looking carefully lest anyone fall short of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and many be defiled by it."* The pain you carry is real, but holding onto resentment will only harm *you*—not those who wronged you. Jesus commands us to forgive, not because our offenders deserve it, but because *we* need the freedom it brings. Colossians 3:13 says, *"bearing with one another, and forgiving each other, if any man has a complaint against any; even as Christ forgave you, so you also do."* Forgiveness does not mean what they did was acceptable; it means you release them to God’s justice and refuse to let their sins control your heart any longer.
You mentioned your sister, who claims to be a "First Lady" (a title often given to a pastor’s wife), yet her actions do not reflect Christlike love. This is a grievous thing. James 3:1 warns, *"Let not many of you be teachers, my brothers, knowing that we will receive heavier judgment."* If she is in a position of spiritual influence, her behavior is not just a personal failing—it is a stumbling block to others. But remember, her hypocrisy does not negate your responsibility to respond in a way that honors God. Romans 12:17-19 says, *"Repay no one evil for evil. Respect what is honorable in the sight of all men. If it is possible, as much as it is up to you, be at peace with all men. Don’t seek revenge yourselves, beloved, but give place to God’s wrath. For it is written, 'Vengeance belongs to me; I will repay, says the Lord.'"*
You also mentioned financial struggles, praying that "E" would pay off his debts so you both can enjoy life. Money is a common source of stress, but we must trust God’s provision rather than placing our hope in circumstances changing. Philippians 4:19 assures us, *"My God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus."* If debt is a burden, seek wisdom in stewardship (Proverbs 22:7) and trust that God can provide even in lack. But be cautious—do not let financial strain or the desire for comfort become an idol. Matthew 6:33 reminds us, *"But seek first God’s Kingdom and his righteousness; and all these things will be given to you as well."*
Now, let us speak plainly about your request to be "sent where you are wanted and needed." It is understandable to want to escape pain, but we must be careful not to run *from* hardship without seeking God’s will *in* it. Jonah tried to flee from God’s calling, and it led to greater trouble (Jonah 1-4). Instead of asking to be removed from difficult people, ask God to show you how to love them *as He loves you*—not because they deserve it, but because Christ loved you while you were still a sinner (Romans 5:8). That said, if these relationships are toxic and continually pull you into sin or bitterness, it may be wise to create healthy boundaries. Proverbs 22:24-25 warns, *"Don’t befriend a hot-tempered man, and don’t associate with one who harbors anger, lest you learn his ways, and ensnare your soul."*
Lastly, we notice that while you prayed earnestly, you did not invoke the name of Jesus Christ. There is no other name under heaven by which we are saved (Acts 4:12), and it is only through Him that we have access to the Father (John 14:6). If you have not surrendered your life to Christ, we urge you to do so. True peace and forgiveness come only through Him. Romans 10:9 says, *"that if you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved."* If you *have* trusted in Christ, then we encourage you to pray *in His name*, for He is our mediator before God (1 Timothy 2:5).
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**Let us pray together:**
Heavenly Father, we lift up our sister to You, knowing that You see every tear she has cried and every wound inflicted by those who should have loved her. Lord, the pain of betrayal and hypocrisy is deep, and we ask You to heal her heart. Remove the bitterness, Lord, and replace it with Your peace that surpasses understanding. Help her to forgive, not in her own strength, but by the power of Your Spirit. Remind her that vengeance belongs to You, and that You will repay what is due (Romans 12:19).
Lord, we pray for the family members who have hurt her. Soften their hearts, convict them of their sin, and bring them to repentance. If they claim to know You, expose their hypocrisy and draw them to true godliness. For those who are unsaved, Lord, save them! Let them see their need for Christ and turn from their wicked ways.
Father, we ask for wisdom in financial matters. Provide for every need according to Your riches in glory. Help "E" to be a good steward, and if debt is a burden, give them a plan and the discipline to overcome it. Let our sister trust You, not circumstances, for her joy and security.
Most of all, Lord, reveal Yourself to her in this season. If she does not know You, save her! If she does, deepen her faith. Show her how to love as You love—without hypocrisy, without grudges, and without fear. If boundaries are needed, give her the courage to set them in a way that honors You.
And finally, Father, we pray all this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Savior and Redeemer. There is no other name by which we can approach Your throne, and we thank You for the access we have through Him. Let Your will be done in her life, for Your glory. Amen.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
