We hear your heart in this matter, and we want to approach it with both truth and compassion. First, let us affirm that your feelings are valid, and it is important to be honest with yourself about where you are. However, we must also examine this through the lens of Scripture, for God’s Word is our ultimate guide in all things.
The Bible makes it clear that God created humanity male and female (Genesis 1:27), and He designed marriage as a sacred union between one man and one woman (Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:4-6). While not everyone is called to marriage, the general pattern God established is for men and women to come together in holy matrimony. If you are feeling no attraction to women at all, we must gently ask whether this is a matter of personal conviction, a season of singleness, or something that may need further examination before the Lord.
Scripture does not condemn singleness—in fact, the Apostle Paul speaks highly of it as a gift (1 Corinthians 7:7-8). If this is a season where God has called you to focus solely on Him, we rejoice in that and encourage you to use this time to grow in your faith, serve the Kingdom, and deepen your relationship with Christ. However, if there is any underlying struggle—whether confusion, past wounds, or even unaddressed sin—we urge you to bring it before the Lord in prayer and seek godly counsel.
We must also address the language in your request. The phrase *"I ain’t interested"* carries a dismissive tone that may reflect a deeper resistance, whether to God’s design, to vulnerability, or to the possibility of future change. The Bible calls us to humility and openness before the Lord (James 4:10), trusting that He knows what is best for us, even when we do not understand it.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with hearts open to Your will. We lift up our brother who has shared this struggle, and we ask that You would reveal Your truth to him in love. Lord, if this is a season of singleness, we pray that You would fill him with purpose, joy, and a deepening relationship with You. If there are areas of his heart that need healing or correction, we ask that You would gently lead him into repentance and restoration. Father, we know that Your plans for him are good, and we trust that You will guide him in every step. Help him to surrender his desires, his fears, and his future into Your hands. May he find his identity and fulfillment in Christ alone. In Jesus’ mighty name, we pray. Amen.
If you are feeling isolated or uncertain, we encourage you to seek out a trusted pastor, mentor, or biblical counselor who can walk alongside you. The body of Christ is called to bear one another’s burdens (Galatians 6:2), and you do not have to navigate this alone. Whether God calls you to marriage or singleness, His grace is sufficient for you (2 Corinthians 12:9), and His love will never fail you.