We hear your heart and we join with you in the name of Jesus Christ to lift your family before our Heavenly Father, for you are carrying a heavy burden of disunity, betrayal, anger and sadness since your father passed away.
We grieve with you over the shouting, yelling, crying and insults that have replaced honest communication, and over the ungratefulness and fighting for control and authority that has followed your loss. The Lord sees this torment and He desires to bring healing and peace. We are reminded that a house divided cannot stand, and scripture calls us to pursue unity. Ephesians 4:31-32 says Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander, be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you. And Psalm 133:1 says See how good and how pleasant it is for brothers to live together in unity.
We also hear your concern that your family feels exterminated and that generations will die without reconciliation, and we gently rebuke speaking a curse of extermination over your family. Our words have power and we are called to speak life and blessing, not death. Proverbs 18:21 says Death and life are in the power of the tongue; those who love it will eat its fruit. Instead of agreeing with the lies of the enemy that your family is destroyed beyond repair, we agree with God's promise that He can redeem and restore. Joel 2:25 says I will restore to you the years that the swarming locust has eaten. We rebuke all Satan's lies around your life and family in the name of Jesus Christ, for the enemy comes to steal, kill and destroy, but Jesus came that we may have life abundantly as in John 10:10.
We pray for your mother who is suffering with suicidal thoughts and a toxic tongue and a negative environment. We take these thoughts very seriously and we ask God to surround her with His protection and comfort. The Lord is near to the brokenhearted. Psalm 34:18 says Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit. And Psalm 147:3 says He heals the broken in heart, and binds up their wounds. We pray that God would guard her tongue and bring healing to her heart, for James 3:10 says Out of the same mouth comes blessing and cursing. My brothers, these things ought not to be so. We encourage you to continue to show honor to your mother as Exodus 20:12 commands, while also lovingly encouraging her to seek help and to speak life, and to stay close to her with prayer and, if needed, with trusted pastoral and professional support for her despair.
We are blessed by your forgiving heart, as you said you are forgiving them each day because they do not know what they are doing, just as Jesus prayed in Luke 23:34 Father, forgive them, for they don't know what they are doing. That forgiveness reflects Christ in you. Colossians 3:13 says bearing with one another, and forgiving each other, if any man has a complaint against any; even as Christ forgave you, so you also do. We pray that this forgiveness will soften hearts toward repentance and honesty, and that God will bring conviction and healing where there has been dishonesty, betrayal and ungratefulness.
We also lift up the practical burdens you mentioned, the expensive flights, the distance that makes family reunion difficult, the financial help you have offered that was not received well, and the missing information and lack of provision. We pray that God will provide for every need according to His riches. Philippians 4:19 says My God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus. And we pray for wisdom in how you give and help, that you may do so with boundaries and grace, not enabling, but showing Christ's love without being consumed by resentment.
We hear that your spouse unfortunately does not like your family and you feel you cannot force anything. We honor marriage as God designed it, and we understand the tension when a spouse and extended family are estranged. Genesis 2:24 says Therefore a man will leave his father and his mother, and will cling to his wife, and they will be one flesh. Your marriage covenant comes first, and we pray that God will give you and your spouse unity, mutual respect and love, and that He will soften your spouse's heart toward your family while also giving you wisdom not to force but to entrust your family to the Lord in prayer. Ephesians 5:33 calls husbands to love their wives and wives to respect their husbands, and that love and respect can become a testimony to your extended family.
We thank you for praying in the name of Jesus Christ and for holding to Acts 16:31 Believe in the Lord Jesus Christ, and you will be saved, you and your household. There is power and access only through Jesus. John 14:6 says Jesus said to him, I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me. And Acts 4:12 says There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved. We cling to that promise for your household.
We pray together now.
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the name of Jesus Christ and we lift this dear family to You. Lord, You see the torment, the disunity, the anger and the sadness that has plagued them since their father passed. We ask You to rebuke the works of the enemy and silence every lie of Satan that says this family is exterminated or beyond hope. We speak Your life, Your mercy and Your peace over them. Heal their hearts, Lord, bring honesty where there has been deception, and humble each heart to repentance. Forgive their disobedience and mistakes and teach them to forgive one another as You have forgiven us. Protect their mother, Lord, deliver her from suicidal thoughts and from the power of a negative and toxic tongue, fill her with Your hope and surround her with Your loving kindness, and provide for her and for the brother's family daily needs. Provide, Father, for finances, for the means to reunite if it is Your will, and give wisdom for every offer of help. Restore the years that have been lost, for You are rich in mercy. Guard this marriage, bring unity between husband and wife, and let Your love reign in this home. We trust that even after death we will be reunited with our loved ones in heaven through faith in Jesus, and we rest in Your promise to save households who believe. Heal our souls, Lord, and let Your will be done in this family. In the name of Jesus Christ we pray, amen.
We encourage you to keep forgiving, keep praying, keep speaking blessing over your family, and keep entrusting them to the Lord who is able to do far more than we can ask or imagine. Romans 12:18 says If it is possible, as much as it is up to you, be at peace with all men. Continue to be at peace as far as it depends on you, and let God do the work only He can do in their hearts.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, the way You want me to know You. So that I will trust You with my life and anyway that You move in my life. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, lean not to my own understanding, acknowledge You in all my ways, and allow You to direct my footsteps and actions. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do. 
