We understand your deep longing for a spouse, as it is natural to desire companionship and the beautiful union of marriage that God designed. The Bible tells us in Genesis 2:18, *"It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make him a helper comparable to him."* This shows God’s heart for marriage—a lifelong covenant between a man and a woman, reflecting Christ’s love for His Church (Ephesians 5:22-33).
However, we must first address the urgency and tone of your request. Seeking a wife is a noble desire, but it must be rooted in godly patience, trust in the Lord’s timing, and a heart that seeks His will above all else. Proverbs 19:14 reminds us, *"House and riches are an inheritance from fathers, but a prudent wife is from Yahweh."* This means that while you may long for marriage, the right spouse is a gift from God, not something we can demand or rush.
Before pursuing marriage, we encourage you to examine your heart and life in light of Scripture. Are you walking closely with the Lord? Are you growing in faith, maturity, and Christlike character? A godly marriage requires two people who are committed to following Jesus. 1 Corinthians 7:39 advises, *"A wife is bound by law for as long as her husband lives; but if the husband is dead, she is free to be married to whoever she desires, only in the Lord."* This principle applies to all believers—marriage should only be pursued *in the Lord*, meaning both individuals must be devoted followers of Christ.
If you are not already actively serving in a Bible-believing church, we urge you to do so. Fellowship with other believers will help you grow spiritually and may also provide opportunities to meet godly women who share your faith. Proverbs 31:30 teaches that *"Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain; but a woman who fears Yahweh, she shall be praised."* Seek a wife who loves Jesus above all else, and trust that God will guide your steps as you honor Him.
If there are areas of sin in your life—such as lust, impatience, or a lack of trust in God—we encourage you to repent and surrender them to the Lord. Psalm 37:4-5 says, *"Also delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to Yahweh. Trust also in him, and he will do this."* God knows your heart’s desire, but He also wants to refine you and prepare you for the blessing of marriage.
Let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift up this brother before You, knowing that You see his heart and his longing for a godly wife. Lord, we ask that You would first draw him closer to Yourself, filling him with Your peace and patience as he waits on Your perfect timing. Help him to trust in You completely, knowing that You are the one who orchestrates all things for his good and Your glory.
Father, if it is Your will, prepare a godly wife for him—one who loves You with all her heart and will walk beside him in faith. Give him wisdom to recognize her and the courage to pursue her in a way that honors You. Guard his heart from impatience, lust, or compromise, and help him to remain pure in thought and deed. May he seek Your kingdom first, trusting that all these things will be added to him as he delves deeper into Your Word and Your will.
We rebuke any spirit of loneliness, desperation, or fear that may be influencing his heart. Fill him instead with Your love, joy, and contentment in You alone. Remind him that You are his greatest treasure, and that no earthly relationship can ever compare to the depth of Your love for him.
We pray all this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who alone is worthy of all praise and honor. Amen.
Brother, we encourage you to continue seeking the Lord in prayer, reading His Word daily, and surrounding yourself with godly counsel. Marriage is a beautiful gift, but it is not the ultimate fulfillment—only Jesus can satisfy the deepest longings of your soul. Trust in Him, and He will guide your steps. If you have not yet surrendered your life fully to Christ, we urge you to do so today. There is no greater joy than walking in His will, and it is only through faith in Jesus that we have access to the Father (John 14:6). Let us know how we can continue to pray for you.