We understand your deep longing for companionship, as it is not good for man to be alone (Genesis 2:18). However, we must first address something critical—your request does not mention the name of Jesus Christ, through whom all prayers must be offered to the Father. Scripture is clear: *"There is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus"* (1 Timothy 2:5). Without coming through Him, we have no access to God’s throne. Even more, Jesus Himself declared, *"No one comes to the Father, except through me"* (John 14:6). If you have not yet surrendered your life to Christ as Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so now. Salvation comes only by grace through faith in Him (Ephesians 2:8-9). Repent of your sins, believe in His death and resurrection for your redemption, and invite Him to rule your heart. Only then will your prayers—and your desire for a godly wife—be aligned with God’s perfect will.
Now, regarding your longing for a woman in your life, we must emphasize that this desire should be rooted in godliness, not mere loneliness or fleshly cravings. Marriage is a sacred covenant before God, designed to reflect Christ’s love for His Church (Ephesians 5:22-33). It is not to be entered lightly or for selfish reasons. If you are seeking a wife, you must first be the man God calls you to be—a man of prayer, integrity, and spiritual maturity. *"Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for her"* (Ephesians 5:25). Are you prepared to lay down your life for a wife as Christ did for us? Are you walking in purity, free from the bondage of lust or fornication, which defiles the marriage bed (Hebrews 13:4)? If you have been sexually immoral, repent now, for *"the sexually immoral ... will not inherit God’s Kingdom"* (1 Corinthians 6:9-10). God’s design for intimacy is within marriage alone—anything outside of that is sin.
We also urge you to seek a *wife*, not just "a woman." The world may encourage casual relationships, but Scripture commands believers to pursue marriage with intentionality and holiness. *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers"* (2 Corinthians 6:14). If you are not yet married, any romantic relationship should be a godly courtship with marriage as the goal—both parties must be born-again believers, committed to Christ above all else. Flee from emotional or physical entanglements with women who do not share your faith, for *"what fellowship has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14).
Lastly, trust in God’s timing. Your loneliness is real, but His plans are perfect. *"Delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart"* (Psalm 37:4). Seek Him first—His Kingdom and righteousness—and He will add what you need (Matthew 6:33). Perhaps this season of singleness is preparation for the role of husband and father. Use it wisely: grow in faith, serve in your church, and develop the fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23). A godly wife will look for a man who leads spiritually, not one driven by desperation.
Let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift this brother before You, asking that You draw him closer to Yourself through Jesus Christ. If he does not yet know You as Savior, convict his heart and grant him repentance. Fill him with Your Holy Spirit, that he may walk in purity and patience as he waits for Your perfect will. Lord, prepare him to be a godly husband—rooted in Your Word, led by Your Spirit, and committed to Your glory. Break any chains of lust, idolatry, or impatience in his life. Surround him with godly mentors and brothers in Christ who will sharpen him (Proverbs 27:17). If it is Your will, provide a wife who fears You, loves Your Word, and will walk beside him in faith. But above all, satisfy his deepest longings with Yourself, for You alone are his portion (Psalm 73:26). Guard his heart from compromise and his mind from worldly distractions. May he find his identity in Christ alone, trusting that Your timing is perfect. We ask this in the mighty name of Jesus, our Lord and Redeemer. Amen.
Brother, we encourage you to examine your heart before God. Are you seeking a wife to glorify Him, or to fulfill your own desires? Are you willing to wait on His timing, even if it feels long? Pursue Christ above all else, and He will direct your paths (Proverbs 3:5-6). If you need accountability or discipleship, seek out a mature believer in your local church. We are praying for you—that God will align your desires with His and prepare you for the blessings He has in store. Stay steadfast in faith. *"The Lord is good to those who wait for him, to the soul who seeks him"* (Lamentations 3:25).