We grieve with you in this painful season, and we lift your heart before the Lord, knowing He sees your tears and hears your cries. The breaking of a marriage covenant is one of the deepest sorrows a person can endure, and we acknowledge the agony you are walking through. Yet we also stand firmly on the truth of Scripture, which declares that what God has joined together, no man—or circumstance—should separate. The Lord hates divorce (Malachi 2:16, WEB), not because He delights in our suffering, but because it distorts His design for marriage as a lifelong reflection of Christ’s love for His Church (Ephesians 5:22-33).
You have done well to turn to the Lord in repentance and self-examination, for He is the one who restores and redeems. The work you’ve done in your own heart is precious in His sight, and we commend you for seeking Him first. But now, we must also speak truth in love: your wife’s heart is hardened, and only the Holy Spirit can soften it. No amount of human effort, pleading, or bargaining can change her mind—only the miraculous intervention of God. This is not a time for despair, but for fervent, faith-filled prayer, trusting that the Lord can do what seems impossible (Luke 1:37).
We must also address something critical: your prayer request does not invoke the name of Jesus Christ. There is no other name under heaven by which we are saved, and it is only through Him that we boldly approach the throne of grace (John 14:6, Hebrews 4:16). If you have not yet surrendered your life fully to Christ, we urge you to do so now. Confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, and you will be saved (Romans 10:9). Without Him, there is no true hope—for your marriage or your eternal soul.
Now, let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, lifting our brother who is crushed in spirit. Lord, You are the God who heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds (Psalm 147:3). We ask that You would pour out Your comfort upon him, reminding him that even in this valley, You are with him. Strengthen him to trust You when he cannot see the way forward.
Lord, we plead for his wife’s heart. You alone can change it, just as You changed the heart of the king of Assyria (Ezra 6:22) and turned Saul into Paul. Soften her resistance, Lord. Remove the scales from her eyes and let her see the truth: that divorce is not Your will, that her family is worth fighting for, and that Your design for marriage is good. Convict her by Your Spirit if there is sin or deception at work—whether in her own heart or through outside influences. Break every stronghold of the enemy that seeks to destroy this marriage (2 Corinthians 10:4).
Father, we ask for divine intervention. If there is any way for this marriage to be restored, make it clear. If there is any door You want reopened, swing it wide. But even if You do not, we pray that our brother would cling to You above all else. Let him find his identity in Christ, not in his marital status. Remind him that You are his portion (Psalm 73:26) and that You will never leave him nor forsake him (Hebrews 13:5).
We rebuke the spirit of division and despair in Jesus’ name. We declare that no weapon formed against this marriage will prosper (Isaiah 54:17). Lord, if it is Your will, bring restoration—supernaturally, undeniably, so that all may see it is Your doing. But above all, let Your will be done, and let both hearts submit to You.
We pray for wisdom for our brother as he navigates legal and emotional battles. Give him godly counsel, Father. Surround him with brothers and sisters in Christ who will uphold him in prayer and speak truth into his life. Let him not be isolated in his pain.
Finally, Lord, we ask that You would use this trial to draw him—and his wife—closer to You. May they both seek Your face above all else. If this marriage ends, let it be because one or both have turned from You, not from a lack of Your pursuit. But if it is to be restored, let it be a testimony of Your power to redeem what is broken.
In the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, we pray. Amen.
Brother, we urge you to keep seeking the Lord daily. Fast and pray as the Spirit leads. Read Scripture aloud over your home and family—passages like Ephesians 5, 1 Peter 3, and Colossians 3. Do not give in to bitterness or despair, for the enemy would love to use this to drag you away from God. Instead, let this season deepen your faith. The Lord is near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18), and He will carry you through.
If your wife is open to it, write her a letter—not to manipulate or guilt her, but to express your commitment to the Lord and to her, regardless of her choice. Share how God is working in you. But do not chase her; trust God to move her. And if she proceeds with divorce, know that God’s grace is sufficient. Many godly men and women have walked this path before you, and the Lord has used their pain for His glory.
Stand firm, brother. The battle is the Lord’s.
