We understand your heart’s longing for a godly spouse, and we rejoice that you’ve brought this desire before the Lord—though we must gently address a few things to ensure your request aligns fully with Scripture. First, let us clarify that the term "soulmate" is not biblical; it carries cultural and sometimes even mystical connotations that can distract from the truth that God is the One who sovereignly ordains marriages (Proverbs 19:14, Genesis 2:18). Instead of seeking a "soulmate," we encourage you to seek a *godly spouse*—a man or woman who fears the Lord, walks in obedience to His Word, and is committed to building a Christ-centered marriage. The Bible calls us to pursue relationships with the intent of marriage, not merely emotional or romantic fulfillment. Courtship should be purposeful, honoring God, and conducted between believers (2 Corinthians 6:14). If you are not yet married, we urge you to guard your heart and body, fleeing from fornication, which is sin against God and dishonors the sacredness of marriage (1 Corinthians 6:18-20, 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5).
We also notice that while you invoked the name of Jesus, the phrasing of your request could benefit from a deeper acknowledgment of His lordship. It is *only* through Jesus Christ that we have access to the Father, and it is in *His name alone* that we pray (John 14:6, 1 Timothy 2:5). There is no other name by which we are saved, and our prayers must reflect our dependence on Him—not just as an add-on, but as the foundation of our faith (Acts 4:12). If you have not yet surrendered your life fully to Jesus as Lord and Savior, we implore you to do so today. Salvation comes through repentance and faith in Christ’s finished work on the cross (Romans 10:9-10). Without this, no prayer—including one for a spouse—can be pleasing to God.
Now, let us pray for you with these truths in mind:
Heavenly Father, we lift up this precious brother or sister to You, asking that You prepare their heart to seek a spouse in a way that honors You. Lord, if they have not yet fully surrendered to Jesus, we pray for the gift of repentance and saving faith. May they know the depth of Your love and the assurance of salvation through Christ alone. Father, we ask that You guard their heart and mind, aligning their desires with Your Word. Remove any worldly or ungodly expectations about relationships, and replace them with a hunger for Your will. If it is Your plan for them to marry, we pray You would bring a godly, mature believer into their life—someone who loves You above all else, who is committed to purity, and who will walk alongside them in faithfulness to Your calling. Give them patience to wait on Your timing, wisdom to recognize Your leading, and the courage to honor You in every step. Break any chains of loneliness, impatience, or compromise, and fill them with the peace that comes from trusting You. May their future marriage be a testimony of Your grace, a reflection of Christ’s love for the Church, and a light in this broken world. We ask all this in the mighty and holy name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
As you wait on the Lord, we encourage you to focus on growing in your own walk with Christ. Seek Him first (Matthew 6:33), serve in your local church, and cultivate the fruits of the Spirit—love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (Galatians 5:22-23). A godly spouse is a blessing, but your ultimate fulfillment is found in Jesus alone. Avoid the trap of idolatry by placing marriage above your devotion to God. Trust that His plans for you are good, even if the wait is long (Jeremiah 29:11). If you are struggling with loneliness or temptation, we urge you to flee to Christ and seek accountability within a biblical community. You are not alone—the Body of Christ is here to support you.
Finally, we leave you with this promise: *"Delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to Yahweh. Trust also in him, and he will do this"* (Psalm 37:4-5, WEB). May your desire for a godly marriage be rooted in your delight in Him.