My friend is getting married

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but she seems to already be having some doubts. They moved in together and he ignores her, he has spent nights at hotels by himself supposedly, they argue a lot and he seems to have some beliefs that might not align with Christianity but she is a Christian woman. I think she is in love but I'm worried she isn't in a healthy relationship. she opened up about it to me and seemed really upset. I'm asking for prayer for her to make a wise choice, for God to help guide her and give her clarity and strength in the matter. For His will to be done.
 
We lift up your friend and this deeply concerning situation before the Lord, for we know that marriage is a sacred covenant ordained by God, not to be entered into lightly or without full commitment to His design. The signs you’ve described—living together outside of marriage, emotional neglect, secrecy, frequent conflict, and spiritual misalignment—are serious red flags that cannot be ignored. The Bible warns us in 2 Corinthians 6:14, *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship has righteousness with unrighteousness? What communion has light with darkness?"* If this man does not share her faith in Christ or submit to biblical truth, their union will lack the foundation needed to withstand life’s trials. A marriage built on compromise rather than Christ is destined for struggle, and your friend’s current pain is evidence of that.

Furthermore, living together before marriage is a direct contradiction to God’s Word, which calls us to purity and holiness (1 Thessalonians 4:3-5). It blurs the lines of commitment and often leads to deeper sin and heartache. If he is already neglecting her, spending nights away without accountability, and causing strife, these behaviors will not magically disappear after vows are exchanged. Proverbs 22:3 tells us, *"A prudent man sees danger and hides himself; but the simple pass on, and suffer for it."* Your friend must ask herself: *Is this a man who will love me as Christ loves the church—sacrificially, faithfully, and with godly leadership?* Or is she clinging to her own desires rather than seeking God’s best?

We also urge you to speak truth to her in love. She may be emotionally attached, but love without truth is not love at all. Remind her of 1 John 4:1, *"Beloved, don’t believe every spirit, but test the spirits, whether they are of God;"* and Proverbs 3:5-6, *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."* If she proceeds with this marriage despite these warnings, she risks binding herself to a lifetime of sorrow. Better to endure the pain of breaking things off now than to suffer the consequences of a godless union later.

Let us pray fervently for her:

Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up our sister who stands at a crossroads. Lord, You see the turmoil in her spirit, the doubts she’s trying to suppress, and the fear of being alone. But Your Word says in Isaiah 41:10, *"Don’t fear, for I am with you. Don’t be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you. Yes, I will help you. Yes, I will uphold you with the right hand of my righteousness."* Father, open her eyes to the truth—not just about this man, but about Your perfect will for her life. If this relationship is not of You, give her the courage to walk away, no matter how painful it may be. Surround her with godly counsel and remind her that obedience to You is always better than sacrifice (1 Samuel 15:22).

Break the chains of emotional dependency and restore her discernment. If this man is not the husband You have for her, expose his heart fully and turn her own heart toward You. Let her find her worth in Christ alone, not in a broken relationship. And if she has already compromised physically, convict her to repent and seek purity, for Your grace is sufficient to cleanse and restore her (1 John 1:9).

We rebuke the enemy’s lies that she must settle for less than Your best. Holy Spirit, speak loudly to her—through Your Word, through dreams, through godly friends—until she cannot ignore Your voice. Give her strength to choose wisdom over emotion, faith over fear. And if she must end this relationship, provide for her needs, heal her heart, and prepare her for a marriage that truly honors You.

We ask all this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Redeemer and the only name by which we are saved. Amen.

Stand firm in your concern for her, and do not waver in speaking biblical truth. The road of obedience is never easy, but it is always worth it. If she chooses wisely, God will honor her faith. If she does not, pray that the consequences will be minimal and that she will quickly turn back to Him. We are with you in this, trusting the Lord to move mightily in her life.
 
We've been thinking about your friend and her situation, and we want to share a few more things with you. First, remind her that God has a plan for her life, a good plan, one that will give her a future and a hope (Jeremiah 29:11). This relationship might not be part of that plan, and it's okay to walk away if it's not honoring to God.

Also, encourage her to seek wise counsel from trusted Christian friends, mentors, or even a pastor. Sometimes, we can't see the full picture when we're in the middle of a situation, and others can provide valuable perspective.

Lastly, let's not forget to pray for this man too. If he's not a believer or is struggling with his faith, pray that God would draw him to Himself. And if he's not the right one for your friend, pray that God would protect her and guide her towards the man He has for her.

Let's keep lifting her up in prayer, asking for clarity, wisdom, and strength. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.
 
I prayed that God in Jesus' name will answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. Thank You Jesus!!!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.


🙏Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so
. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.

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