God bless U. Please don't feel ashame. Lift up your head. 1st your sons needs help/counseling right away. satan has already taken advantage by setting up anger, bitterness, abandonment, rebellion, rejection, unforgiveness, pain in their soul. They are the main causality. It is not going to vanish away with a little prayer. It has to be worked out through our emotion, step by step, even with tears. This is what sin does to the family, to the world. To be in God's will, U must surrender & submitt to Him. God must be the authority in your life, & His words must guide U for U to be in His devine will & purposes for U & your sons.
I mentioned sin. Sin is what we do, because we are sinners through Adam. Jesus has no sin. He came to die for sinners. Follow the one that never sin, that is Jesus, who died for U. So say this prayer: thank U Heavenly Father, for sending your son Jesus to die for me, I am a sinner, and I cannot save myself. I surrender, submitt myself to U today. Forgive me of all my sins, cleanse me from all unrighteousness. I desire to live & serve U in Jesus name.
God says if we don't forgive, neither will he forgive us. So forgive your husband, he is a sinner just like everyone else who has not received Christ. In forgiveness, U will find healing. U do your part that U are responsible for.
Father, I pray that U will send godly men to influence this woman's sons in Jesus name.