Anonymous
Beloved of All
my boyfriend has been living with me for 2 years and 5 months. Out of that he has only helped me with the bills in this house for 1 year and 10 months and he stoped in September of last year. I understand the house is in my name but he is living off of me for fee. He pays no utilities here nor does he pay the house note. All he does he buy us dinner when I don’t cook the food I have to go buy at the grocery store. I understand he has bills and I do too. But he needs to understand you can’t live off a woman that has two kids she is raising on her own. He helps me with my car note and I think that’s because he pushed me into getting a car back in December 2022 that I couldn’t afford on my own. However he did not help me pay for it in January 2024 and February 2024. So come March I had to ask if he can help otherwise I was going to lose everything I own or I needed to trade it in. At first he said he didn’t care if I lost everything and then got upset when I said I wanted to trade it in for something affordable now this note is $685 , insane! He pays $500 and I pay the rest on top of a house note that is $900 electricity, water bill and internet. Plus groceries for 4 of us I pay. I have two teenagers who eat a lot. I wish he see that if he wants a life with me then he needs to be a man to step up and say let’s do this together. My garbage disposal is leaking and he tells me hey you know what it will cost you to fix it and I’m thinking to myself but why can’t you help me. But I have a coffee canister under my sink for the dripping because I can’t afford it. He has even shattered my front door glass and has not replaced it and it’s been since summer 2023. My front door glass, now it’s double panel so I have the inside glass still put together. I need his help or he has to go. I have had conversations with friends and family, they don’t see how I allow him to live off me and not help out. Although yea he helps with the car note and will buy us dinner at least twice a week and sometimes he will complain about where we want to eat because of cost now this man makes good money. 3- 4 times my salary. I never ask him for anything but to help with the car as he promised. He used to help out but like I said he quit September 2023. I’m struggling and he watches and when I tell him how I’m drowning he says well idk what to tell you. It hurts because I don’t want this life with a man who will live off his woman and watch her drown in debt and he live off her. My kids have been watching and tell me I don’t deserve this. It’s very unattractive of a man to live off his gf I’m losing all the love I once had for him inside. I feel like I am raising 3 kids and not 2. I get no help from him. I support him and two other kids and it’s just not right. Please pray he realizes the wrong he is doing or if he won’t realize it then I need to realize I don’t need him here anymore.
