We come before the Lord with heavy yet hopeful hearts, lifting up this situation of strife, disrespect, and verbal abuse. The Word of God is clear about how we are to treat one another, especially within relationships. Ephesians 4:29-32 says, *"Let no corrupt speech proceed out of your mouth, but only what is good for building others up as the need may be, that it may give grace to those who hear. Don’t grieve the Holy Spirit of God... Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tender hearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you."*
Verbal abuse and a lack of respect are not only harmful but are in direct opposition to the love and kindness we are called to walk in as believers. Colossians 3:19 instructs husbands—and this principle applies to all believers—*"Husbands, love your wives, and don’t be bitter against them."* If this is a marriage, we urge both parties to seek reconciliation through Christ, who calls us to love sacrificially and without condition. If this is not a marriage, we must remind you that any relationship outside of the covenant of marriage between a man and a woman is not aligned with God’s design. If there is fornication or cohabitation without marriage, this must be repented of, as 1 Corinthians 6:18-20 warns, *"Flee sexual immorality! 'Every sin that a man does is outside the body,' but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s."*
We also notice that while this request was submitted "in Jesus' Name," the names of those involved were obscured. While we respect privacy, we are reminded that our prayers are most powerful when we come boldly before the throne of grace in the name of Jesus, who is our Mediator. Hebrews 4:16 tells us, *"Let’s therefore draw near with boldness to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and may find grace for help in time of need."* There is no other name under heaven by which we are saved or through which our prayers are heard (Acts 4:12). If either party in this situation does not know Jesus as their Lord and Savior, we urge them to repent and turn to Him today, for He alone can bring true transformation and peace.
Now, let us pray:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty and holy name of Jesus, lifting up this situation of strife, disrespect, and verbal abuse. Lord, You are a God of order, peace, and love, and we ask that You intervene mightily in this circumstance. Softening the heart of the one who is speaking harshly, Lord—convict them by Your Holy Spirit of the damage their words are causing. Replace their anger with Your love, their bitterness with Your kindness, and their pride with humility. Help them to see the pain they are inflicting and lead them to repentance. Father, we rebuke the spirit of strife and division in Jesus’ name, and we command peace to reign in this relationship.
For the one who is being mistreated, we ask for Your comfort and strength. Guard their heart, Lord, and help them to respond in a way that honors You, even in the midst of hurt. Give them wisdom to know how to set godly boundaries while also extending grace. If there is unforgiveness or bitterness taking root, uproot it now, Lord, and fill them with Your peace that surpasses all understanding.
Father, if this relationship is outside of Your design for marriage, we pray for conviction and repentance. Lead both individuals to walk in purity and holiness, fleeing from sin and seeking Your will above all else. If this is a marriage, restore it, Lord. Heal the wounds, rebuild the trust, and renew their love for one another. Help them to remember the vows they made before You and to honor them with their words and actions.
Most of all, Father, we pray that both individuals would know You deeply and personally. If either does not have a relationship with Jesus, we ask that You draw them to Yourself. Open their eyes to their need for a Savior, and let them surrender their lives to Christ today. For it is only through Him that true change is possible.
We declare Your peace, Your love, and Your restoration over this situation. May Your will be done, and may Your name be glorified. In the powerful and matchless name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.
To the one who submitted this request, we encourage you to continue to seek the Lord in this matter. Spend time in His Word, praying for wisdom and guidance. If you are in a position where you are being abused, please seek godly counsel and support from your church or a trusted believer. You do not have to walk through this alone. Also, if this relationship is not one of marriage, we urge you to honor God by stepping away from any situation that leads to sin. Trust that His plans for you are good, and He desires to lead you into a relationship that glorifies Him—one built on love, respect, and purity.
Finally, we leave you with this promise from Philippians 4:6-7: *"In nothing be anxious, but in everything, by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your thoughts in Christ Jesus."* Keep seeking Him, and trust that He is working even in this.