We understand the ache in your heart as you long for reunion with your fiancé, and we lift you both before the Lord with compassion and truth. The temporary separation you’ve undertaken for spiritual growth is commendable, as it reflects a desire to honor God above even your deepest earthly desires. Yet we also recognize how painful this season must feel, especially when your heart yearns for the one you love. Let us first anchor this request in Scripture, for God’s Word must guide our steps—not just our emotions.
The Bible tells us in **1 Corinthians 7:39**, *"A wife is bound by law for as long as her husband lives; but if the husband is dead, she is free to be married to whoever she desires, only in the Lord."* While you are not yet married, this principle underscores that any union—even an engagement—must be *"in the Lord."* Your relationship should point both of you closer to Christ, not distract from Him. Temporary separation for spiritual refinement is wise if it aligns with this goal. However, we must also ask: *Is this separation truly leading you both toward holiness, or has it become a test of patience without clear purpose?* Proverbs 3:5-6 reminds us, *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."* If this time apart is to bear fruit, it must be surrendered to His will—not just your longing for reunion.
Now, we must address something critical: you mentioned your *fiancé*, but we do not see the name of Jesus Christ invoked in your request. Beloved, there is no other name under heaven by which we are saved, and it is *only* through Jesus that we have access to the Father (John 14:6, Acts 4:12). If your fiancé is not a brother in Christ—or if your relationship is not rooted in shared faith—then the foundation is unstable. **2 Corinthians 6:14** warns, *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* A godly marriage requires *two* believers fully submitted to Christ. If this is not the case, we urge you to seek the Lord’s wisdom about whether this relationship aligns with His will. If your fiancé *is* a believer, then this separation should be a time of *joint* pursuit of God—not just individual growth. Are you both praying together (even apart), studying Scripture, and seeking accountability? Or has the distance created spiritual drift?
We also gently ask: *Has this separation revealed any areas of sin that need repentance?* For example, if physical intimacy crossed boundaries before marriage, this time apart should include confession and a commitment to purity (1 Thessalonians 4:3-5). If resentment or idolatry (putting the relationship above God) has taken root, now is the time to uproot it. **Psalm 139:23-24** says, *"Search me, God, and know my heart. Try me, and know my thoughts. See if there is any wicked way in me, and lead me in the everlasting way."* Let this be your prayer—not just for reunion, but for *holiness*.
Finally, we must challenge the assumption that reunion *must* happen. While your heart’s desire is understandable, God’s will may differ. **Proverbs 19:21** says, *"Many are the plans in a man’s heart, but Yahweh’s counsel will prevail."* If this relationship is of God, He will restore it in His timing and for His glory. If not, He will redirect your steps—and His plans are always good (Jeremiah 29:11). Your ultimate calling is not to marriage, but to *Christ*. If He withholds this desire, will you still praise Him?
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**Let us pray together:**
Heavenly Father, we lift our sister before You, acknowledging that her heart is heavy with longing. Lord, You see her tears and the depth of her love for her fiancé, and You care deeply (1 Peter 5:7). We ask for Your wisdom to flood her mind and Your peace to guard her heart (Philippians 4:7). If this relationship is Your will, Lord, then knit their hearts together in *Your* timing and *Your* way. Remove any sin, selfishness, or idolatry that would hinder Your work in them. If there has been physical or emotional compromise, convict them and lead them to repentance. Holy Spirit, reveal to them separately—and together—whether this union honors You.
But Father, if this relationship is *not* Your best for her, give her the strength to surrender it fully to You. Replace her fear with trust, her sorrow with joy in You alone. Remind her that You are her first love (Revelation 2:4) and that no earthly relationship can satisfy like You can. Prepare her for whatever You have ahead—whether reunion, redemption, or a new path entirely.
We rebuked any spirit of fear, impatience, or worldly desire that would distract her from Your voice. Let her seek You *first* (Matthew 6:33), and let her fiancé do the same. If they are to marry, let it be a covenant that glorifies Christ—a marriage built on prayer, purity, and shared mission. If not, let her walk away with gratitude for the lesson and hope for the future You’ve planned.
Most of all, Lord, draw her closer to *You* in this waiting. Let her find her identity in being Your beloved daughter, not in being someone’s fiancée. We ask all this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Savior and Redeemer. Amen.
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Sister, we encourage you to spend this time apart in *active* pursuit of God. Fast, pray, and immerse yourself in Scripture. Seek mentorship from a godly married couple in your church. Ask the Lord to show you *why* He has you in this season—is it to refine your trust in Him? To expose hidden sin? To prepare you for something greater? Journal your prayers and watch for His answers. And remember: **delay is not denial**. God’s timing is perfect, even when it’s painful.
If you’d like, share more about your fiancé’s faith—is he a believer? Are you both in church community? This will help us pray more specifically. We are standing with you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
