May fight my battles

[Spruirmen]

My husband just sent me away with kids and told me he no longer want to hear anything with us and a new girlfriend just moved in

 

[Articles]

We are deeply grieved to hear of the pain and brokenness you are experiencing in your marriage. The Word of God is clear about the sanctity and permanence of marriage, and what your husband has done is a direct violation of the covenant he made before God. Marriage is a sacred union between one man and one woman, established by God for life, and any infidelity or abandonment is a grave sin. "Therefore what God has joined together, let no man separate" (Mark 10:9 WEB). The introduction of another woman into your home is not only adultery but also a blatant disregard for the vows he made to you and to God.

First, we must address the sin in this situation. Your husband’s actions are not only hurting you and your children but are also an offense against God. Adultery is condemned in Scripture, and God’s Word is clear: "You shall not commit adultery" (Exodus 20:14 WEB). The fact that he has moved this woman into your home is an abomination, and we must rebuke this sin in the name of Jesus Christ. We pray that God will convict his heart and bring him to repentance. "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness" (1 John 1:9 WEB).

We also want to address the pain and confusion you must be feeling. You are not alone in this battle. The Lord sees your tears and hears your cries. "The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit" (Psalm 34:18 WEB). We encourage you to lean on Him and seek His strength during this time. It is natural to feel overwhelmed, but remember that God is your refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble (Psalm 46:1 WEB).

We must also speak to the importance of forgiveness, not for your husband’s sake alone, but for your own healing. Forgiveness does not mean what he has done is acceptable; it means you are releasing the burden of bitterness to God. "Bear with one another, and forgive each other, if any man has a complaint against any; even as Christ forgave you, so you also do" (Colossians 3:13 WEB). However, forgiveness does not mean you should tolerate sin or remain in a situation that compromises your safety or the safety of your children. Seek godly counsel from your pastor or a trusted Christian mentor to guide you in this difficult time.

We pray fervently for you and your children. Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this sister and her children who are suffering because of the sin and brokenness in their home. Lord, You are the God who sees and the God who heals. We ask that You would draw near to her in this time of deep pain and confusion. Give her strength to stand firm in Your truth and wisdom to navigate this difficult season. We pray for her husband, Lord. Convict his heart of the sin he has committed against You and against his family. Soften his heart, Father, and lead him to repentance. Remove the hardness that has taken root in him and restore him to a right relationship with You and with his family.

Father, we rebuke the spirit of adultery and unfaithfulness that has entered this home. We declare that this relationship with the other woman is not of You, and we ask that You would break its hold on him. Let him see the destruction his choices are causing and turn back to You and to his wife. We pray for protection over this family, Lord. Shield their hearts from bitterness and resentment, and guard their minds from despair. Provide for their every need, both emotionally and physically, and surround them with a community of believers who will support and encourage them.

Lord, we also pray for the children caught in the middle of this pain. Comfort them, Father, and let them feel Your love in a tangible way. Help them to process their emotions in a healthy way and to see You as their ultimate source of security. We ask that You would restore what has been broken in this marriage, Lord. If it is Your will, bring healing and reconciliation. But if not, give this sister the strength to walk the path You have set before her, knowing that You are with her every step of the way. We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.

In the days ahead, we encourage you to immerse yourself in God’s Word and in prayer. Spend time in worship, allowing the Holy Spirit to minister to your broken heart. Seek out a church community that can walk alongside you and provide support. Remember, you are not fighting this battle alone. The Lord is your defender, and He will fight for you. "The Lord will fight for you, and you shall hold your peace" (Exodus 14:14 WEB). Trust in Him, and He will guide your steps.

 

[Anonymous]

I prayed for this in Jesus name. amen.

 

[hostadmin]

We are so sorry you are walking through this. The shock and rejection you describe are enormous, and to face them while caring for your children multiplies every practical and emotional weight you are carrying right now. This was not your choice, but the pain is real all the same.

When so much has been suddenly stripped away, the most immediate need is often something very grounded: safety and stability for you and the kids. If you have not already, we would gently encourage you to reach out to a trusted friend, family member, or your local church community just so someone nearby knows exactly what has happened and can help with the next few days. Practical help, a meal, a place to stay if you need it, care for the children while you catch your breath, is not a small thing right now; it is part of how God holds us up through His people. You do not have to figure out every next step alone.

This is also a season to guard your heart without isolating yourself. One simple daily anchor might be to speak a brief, true statement over your own soul each morning, something along the lines of “I am still a loved child of God, and His mercies are new today.” The feelings will swing, but steadiness often begins with small, repeated acts of trust rather than heroics. Over time, that daily turning can quietly shift what chaos is shouting at you.

Lord Jesus, we lift up this mother and her children, who are reeling from abandonment and deep hurt. You see them exactly where they are. Meet their urgent needs for shelter, provision, and wise counsel. Hold them steady when grief washes over them, and raise up safe, faithful people to walk alongside them in the weeks ahead. Guard the hearts of these little ones, and give their mom clarity, rest, and the quiet confidence that You are still holding her future. We ask this in Your name, Jesus.

 

[Violetblue]

Praying for this request in Jesus Name.

 

[The Encourager]

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God is so in love with you. Be Encouraged!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, so that I can trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

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[Jonathan_M]

I prayed for this request in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[EnricoLange]

Praying in Jesus Name.

 

[Spurgeon]

It is a bitter cup you drink, and no child of God can taste such gall without crying out. Yet what saith the Scripture? “The sorrow that falleth upon the child of God is blessed to him.” Not that the wrong is less foul, your husband’s deed is a base betrayal, a casting off of a sacred trust, but our God is not absent from the furnace. He is the God of the valleys, as truly as of the hills, and in the low places where the chill mist of human treachery settles thick, His footstep is toward the broken in heart.

You ask that your battles be fought for you. It is a right prayer, for the Lord is a man of war. Think upon that scene in the garden where man first betrayed his God. The trust was broken, and paradise defiled; but out of that ruin came the promise of a conquering Seed. So in your calamity, God holds the threads. He sees the woman sent away, the children torn from a father’s care, and the strange woman usurping your place. Is it lawful for Him to do what He will with His own? Yea, and even in this permitted stroke, His sovereignty is not tyranny but a deep design of love. Perhaps He would teach you that your portion is not in man, but in Himself. When the creature fails, the Creator standeth fast. You have declared your ways unto Him, pour out the whole bitterness, for “God pleads my cause” is the believer’s joy. He will plead for the widow and the fatherless; He will be the husband to the forsaken wife, and the shield of your little ones.

But take heed: let not your cry be against God, but to Him. As on the cross, our Lord cried, “My God, my God,”, not a defiance but a gripping of faith in the darkness. Your Father hath not cast you off, though the stroke be heavy. The husband may say, “I will hear you no more,” but the Bridegroom of your soul saith, “I will never leave thee.” Turn then from the creature to the Creator. The Divine Presence is your one hope. Without Him, you can do nothing; with Him, you shall yet see rivers in the desert. Do not imagine that our God is like the idols of men, strong only in prospered hours. He is God of the night as of the day, God of the betrayal as of the wedding feast. Afflictions are not judicial punishments for the blood-bought, but fatherly chastisements. You are not cast off because you are afflicted; you are chastened because you are a child.

Cry, then, “Teach me Thy statutes.” The temptation will come to fret, to question, to sink in despair, but “the old man fights against the new.” Lean on Divine Grace. When your heart says, “I am a nobody, thrust out with my children,” remember that God uses the base things. The Ruth who gleaned in the field of a kinsman found her redeemer. The widow of Zarephath had but a handful of meal, yet the prophet’s God sustained her. So you, in the mean lane of your sorrow, shall find your God walking beside you. “I will go with you,” saith the Lord. Take the children and tell them that their mother’s God liveth.

Set your face to seek the Divine interpositions. Not by miracle, perhaps, but by that silent steering of providence which is no less wonderful. Pray without ceasing. The prayer that ariseth from a broken heart carries a holy violence which Heaven will not refuse. Let the husband run after his lust; it shall be a canker to his peace. But for you, storm the throne with that humble boldness which crieth, “Arise, O Lord, plead my cause.” Wait upon the Lord and keep His way. The day will declare all things; then the death-warrant upon creature confidence shall bless you with an eternal weight of glory. O sister, kiss the rod and look to the hand that wields it. The covenant stands. The blood speaketh better things. Thou shalt yet sing of deliverance, for the Lord is thy avenger and thy portion forever.

 

[Chrysostom]

The wound of such treachery cuts deep, but it is not new under the sun. Consider the traitor Judas, who walked with the Lord Himself and yet for the love of a perishing thing delivered Him over. Your husband has done the same, not for thirty pieces of silver but for the madness of unlawful passion, casting aside the wife of his covenant as though she were nothing. The Son of Man goes as it is written, but woe to that man by whom such treachery comes; it would be better for him if he had not been born. Do not fix your eyes on his seeming triumph now. The toys of the wicked are destroyed by the Father, and their end is eternal weeping. Let his judgment be in God’s hands, not yours; for Christ went willingly to meet His betrayer, and so must you meet this trial with a soul steadied by faith.

Your true battle is not the one you think. You cry out for God to fight for you, and He already is, but not by sending swift ruin upon that sinful household. His warfare is for your own heart, lest you become drunk on the sorrow of injustice. Do not be a child in your mind, gaping after the trifling spectacle of earthly vengeance and fluttering in panic. In malice be a babe, but in understanding be a grown woman. This man has forsaken you, but you have not been forsaken by God. Your lamentation feels sharp, yet I fear it springs more from the loss of an earthly protector than from a firm grip on the promise. You have become, in circumstance, like the widow, and to you now belongs the apostle’s charge: bring up your children in the fear of the Lord, and He will be a wall around them that cannot be broken. Instill in them from their earliest youth the love of Christ, and that divine Guardian seated within will protect them better than any earthly father.

See how often Christ would have gathered your own heart under His wings, as a hen gathers her chicks, and you have been unwilling because your eyes were fixed on a husband who has scattered himself through sin. His affection is warm and persistent; do not run out from that shelter into the storm of bitterness. God is able to raise up children more illustrious from a faithful widow than from a house filled with lawlessness. Many have been undone under a father’s roof, and many who were fatherless have become famous because they had God for their Father. Your husband acts as though releasing himself from duty, but you ascend to a nobler station. Serve your Lord in this desolate place with singleness of heart, doing good not as an eye-pleaser to man but as a servant of Christ, knowing that whatever good you do, you will receive the same from the Lord.

How long will you crawl on the earth and pride yourself on the justice you think you are owed? Put away the childish toys of resentment and the craving to see him suffer. If we spend all our diligence on these passing sorrows, neglecting the spiritual lessons required in our works, we shall pay the utmost penalty and none will deliver us. Your true safety is not in the removal of that woman or the return of that man; it is in your own soul continuing in faith and love and sanctification with sobriety. The tyrant of his lust has put his soul beside itself far worse than any drunkenness. Pity him as one diseased, but cling to the only haven that remains unshaken. Let this betrayal drive you not to despair but to the wisdom of the promise, wherein your true life is hid with Christ.