Our hearts break with yours as we hear the pain and devastation in your words. Infidelity and the breaking of marriage vows are grievous sins before the Lord, and we know this betrayal has left you feeling shattered. Yet we serve a God who specializes in redemption, restoration, and miracles—nothing is too hard for Him! The enemy seeks to steal, kill, and destroy, but Jesus came to bring life and life abundantly (John 10:10). This battle is not yours alone; it is the Lord’s, and He fights for marriages that honor Him.
The Word of God is clear about the sanctity of marriage and the sin of adultery. Jesus said in Matthew 19:6, *"So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, don’t let man tear apart."* Adultery is a direct violation of God’s design, and Proverbs 6:32 warns, *"He who commits adultery with a woman is void of understanding. He who does it destroys his own soul."* Yet even in this, there is hope. The Lord calls us to forgive as He has forgiven us (Ephesians 4:32), and He is able to turn the heart of your spouse back to Him—and to you—if it aligns with His will.
We must also address the urgency of repentance. If your spouse is walking in unrepentant sin, the most powerful prayer is not just for the affair to end, but for their heart to be broken before the Lord in true repentance. 2 Chronicles 7:14 says, *"if my people, who are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then I will hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land."* This applies to individuals and marriages as well. Pray for conviction by the Holy Spirit, that your spouse would see the gravity of their sin and turn back to God with a contrite heart. Pray also for yourself—that the Lord would guard your heart from bitterness, fill you with His peace, and give you wisdom in how to respond in a way that honors Him.
It is also critical to examine your own heart and marriage. While we do not excuse infidelity, we are called to ask the Lord if there is any way we have contributed to an environment where the enemy could gain a foothold. This is not to place blame on you, but to ensure that both parties are seeking the Lord’s will and healing. 1 Peter 3:1-2 encourages wives to win their husbands *"without a word, by the behavior of their pure lives in the fear of the Lord,"* and Ephesians 5:25 calls husbands to *"love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for her."* If there has been neglect, harshness, or unresolved conflict, now is the time to seek the Lord’s forgiveness and restoration in those areas as well.
We are also compelled to remind you that this battle must be fought on your knees. You have rightly come to the body of Christ for prayer, and we stand with you in agreement, believing for a miracle. But your personal prayer life must be fervent and unwavering. James 5:16 declares, *"The insistent prayer of a righteous person is powerfully effective."* Fast, pray, and seek the Lord’s face like never before. Cry out to Him day and night, trusting that He hears you and is working even when you cannot see it.
Lastly, surround yourself with godly counsel and support. You do not have to walk through this alone. Seek out a pastor, biblical counselor, or mature believers who can pray with you, encourage you, and help you navigate this season with wisdom. Isolation is a tool of the enemy; community and accountability are gifts from the Lord.
Now, let us pray together for you and your marriage:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up our brother/sister who is enduring the deep pain of betrayal and the threat of divorce. Lord, You hate divorce (Malachi 2:16), and we know You are grieved by the brokenness in this marriage. We ask for Your divine intervention—stop the enemy’s plans in their tracks! Lord, expose the affair for what it is: a sinful deception that leads to destruction. Convict the hearts of those involved, especially our brother/sister’s spouse. Let them see the gravity of their actions and feel the weight of Your holy conviction. Draw them to repentance, Father, and break every chain of sin that has bound them.
We pray for the person involved in this affair—remove them from the picture, Lord. Confuse their plans, bring light to the darkness, and let them walk away permanently. Close every door the enemy has opened and shut every opportunity for this sin to continue. Let there be no pleasure in it, no satisfaction, but only the piercing awareness of Your displeasure and the emptiness of sin.
Father, we ask for a miracle in this marriage. Soften the heart of our brother/sister’s spouse and turn them back to You and to their covenant. Restore what the locusts have eaten (Joel 2:25). Heal the wounds, rebuild the trust, and renew the love that once was. Give our brother/sister the strength to forgive, the wisdom to act, and the peace to trust You in this storm. Guard their heart from bitterness, despair, or retaliation. Let them respond in a way that honors You, whether that means fighting for the marriage or releasing it into Your hands if that is Your will.
Lord, we know You are able to do exceedingly abundantly above all we could ask or think (Ephesians 3:20). We ask for Your supernatural work in this situation. Let this be a testimony of Your power, Your redemption, and Your glory. If it is Your will, restore this marriage and make it stronger than ever before. But above all, let Your will be done, and let both parties seek You first.
We rebuke the spirit of division, adultery, and deception in the name of Jesus. We bind the enemy’s influence over this marriage and declare that no weapon formed against it shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17). Let the blood of Jesus cover this home, this family, and this covenant. We pray for protection over the children, if there are any, and for Your peace to guard their hearts and minds.
Father, we thank You that You are near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18). Comfort our brother/sister in ways only You can. Remind them that You see their tears, You hear their cries, and You are working even now. Strengthen their faith to believe for the impossible.
We pray all these things in the mighty and matchless name of Jesus Christ, our Redeemer and Restorer. Amen.
Stand firm, dear one. The Lord is with you, and He is fighting for you. Do not lose hope. Keep praying, keep trusting, and keep seeking His face. We are standing with you in faith, believing for God’s miracles in your marriage. Let us know how we can continue to pray for you. You are not alone.