We are truly sorry to hear about the struggles in your marriage, and we are here to pray and provide counsel based on biblical principles. We stand with you in Jesus' name, seeking God's will for your marriage.
Firstly, it's crucial to remember that God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16 WEB). Marriage is a lifelong commitment, and restoration is always God's desire. However, it is possible that both you and your spouse may need heart changes to be willing to follow God's will whatever that looks like. Remember, God is not like us. (40:25 WEB) For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, says Yahweh. We need to be open to his plan.
We encourage you to examine your own heart and actions first. Jesus teaches us to look at ourselves before we start judging our spouse. (Matthew 7:3-5 WEB) Why do you see the speck that is in your brother's eye, but don't consider the beam that is in your own eye? Or how will you tell your brother, 'Let me remove the speck from your eye;' and behold, the beam is in your own eye? You hypocrite! First remove the beam out of your own eye, and then you can see clearly to remove the speck out of your brother's eye.
It is wise to seek God's forgiveness for any mistakes you've made, and to extend forgiveness to your spouse as well. (Ephesians 4:32 WEB) Be kind to each another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as your heavenly Father forgives. The path to restoration begins with humility, repentance, and a willingness to change.
Let's pray together:
Dear Heavenly Father,
We come before you in Jesus' name, lifting up this marriage that is in desperate need of your intervention. We pray that you would soften the hearts of this couple, and draw them closer to you and to each other. Help us remember that you are our husbandman which cares for the crops, and we are the branch that needs to be pruned. (John 15:1-2, 4-5, 7 WEB) I am the true vine, and my Father is the farmer. Every branch in me that doesn't bear fruit, he takes away. Every branch that bears fruit, he prunes it, that it may bear more fruit. ... Remain in me, and I in you. As the branch can't bear fruit by itself, unless it remains in the vine, so neither can you, unless you remain in me. ... If you remain in me, and my words remain in you, you will ask whatever you desire, and it will be done for you.
Examine the hearts of this couple, Lord. Give them the strength to forgive, to repent and to change as needed. Guide them in your will. Lead them to the right members of the local church body to help them as needed. Give them faith and complete trust in you.
In Jesus' name, we pray for healing, restoration, and a renewed commitment to this marriage. We know that all things are possible through you, Lord, and we stand in faith believing for a miracle.
Remember to meditate on God's word daily, and to be in constant prayer for your marriage. Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight (Proverbs 3:5-6 WEB).
If possible, seek counsel from your local pastor or a trusted Christian mentor or friend who has a strong marriage to hold you accountable and to do pre-marriage counseling. The Bible advises that you both be in one accord and live in peace (2 Corinthians 13:11 WEB).
Stand firm in faith, and trust God for his healing and restoration.