Lord, Send Me Someone Who Isn't A ###.

[jasmine1721]

This is a long story/prayer request. Let me start. Okay. So, I recently got fired from a gig. The same day a male writer contacted me on LinkedIn. I thought it was a God-send, but he ended up confessing to me that he wanted to hug and kiss me after I told him I was turning sixteen. I emailed him back, saying that I had bad experiences with older men and I would like that our friendship remain strictly professional. However, I was flattered. He hasn't responded. It's a shame because I really wanted to work with him. He is a professional writer and he was going to help me edit my script for free. Truth is he was interested in more ways than one.

This isn't the only time. Last year, a 60-year-old man whom I trusted, came on to me. He and I were in the car and he kept rubbing my hand and caressing it. He kept insisting that I could do what I wanted because I was a fully-grown woman (I was 15). Then, he wanted to get out of the car a block away from my house to hug me. He also said he didn't want my mom to know how affectionate we were. A couple of months back, a 28-year-old man began flirting with me on the bus. I told him I was 15 and he continued. I gave him my number, cause I didn't want to be rude and he called me to ask me out. I declined saying I was too busy. He didn't call again. Also, there is this street vendor (probably as old as the last guy or older) that flirts with me. He calls me princess. He also said that maybe we will get married in the future. He thought I was in college. I told him I was only turning 16. He also said, I was not like any other person he's met. He saw my self-harm scars and was very concerned. He's sort of a devout Muslim. I could be the only girl he's after. However, the Quran says a man can marry more than one woman. On the other hand, I know he isn't very religious and Muslims nowadays get interested in girls for marriage, not booty calls. I know it cause my father is Muslim. I didn't mind him, because he's cute. Moving on, now this man who contacted me on LinkedIn. He's wanted to meet up since we started talking. I'm sick of being come onto and flirted with by men. I am not anyone's mistress (the 60-year-old man was married with children), I am not anyone's girlfriend (the 28-year-old obviously wanted a relationship), I am not anyone's future wife (you know what the Muslim guy said), and I am not anyone's illegal affair (the last guy admitted he knew it was illegal and backed off).

Truth be told, I really want a **boy** friend. I want a relationship. I know I'm young, but I would really like solid assurance from God and a guy that I don't only attract perverts. I also know that there's really nothing wrong with me. I'm super mature, but I'm also overweight. Maybe that's why. The guys that are around me are too immature to realize I'm a good catch. I'm not very clingy. I'm not easy. I have the personality traits that most guys look for. What's the matter? Why is God keeping all the good catches away and letting all the old farts near me. I may not be 100% mentally healthy but who is? I don't need a boyfriend. I need God. But I want one. I want affectionate, eros-type (Greek for romantic love) love. That isn't too much to ask. I'm not allowed to date, now. But if all I can have with a guy is a close, platonic relationship, then I'll take it. It has to be someone who I meet in person first and someone who I can hang out with. Can you please pray for me and empathize with me? I am going to a new school in September, but I have to choose one first and it's going to be an adolescent day treatment center. I am hoping this guy will go to my school.

 

[Idongesit]

I prayed for this. In Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Don]

Remember this today,

PS.9:10

The LORD also will be a refuge for the oppressed, a refuge in times of trouble.

10 And they that know thy name will put their trust in thee: for thou, LORD, hast not forsaken them that seek thee.

My wife and I are praying for your request in Jesus name.

 

[jasmine1721]

Thanks, guys.

 

[loveangel]

I prayed for this. In Jesus Name. Amen.

 

Hello, ###. I think you seriously need to take a step back here and really look at what you are doing and where you are going. You absolutely DO NOT belong even having flirtatious encounters with men who are much older than you, let alone belong seeing them. And please do not get miffed with me but from what you wrote, I think that part of the reason that these older men are coming on to you so much is that you are sending out mixed signals. Part of you wants to be with them. Part of you knows better. I think low self-esteem about your weight is playing a part in this. (Let me make it clear here though -- Older men do go for younger women. When I was younger, I actually slapped a few of them across the face and threatened to tell their wives if they did not back off.) But, again, with you when the older guy comes on to you, you wiffle waffle as to what to do. As for wanting to be with younger men, that is what you should want. That is also where you should put your focus. I am praying very hard for you that you find a suitable male companion who is close to you in age. Your sister in Christ, ###.

 

[jasmine1721]

Hello, ###. I think you seriously need to take a step back here and really look at what you are doing and where you are going. You absolutely DO NOT belong even having flirtatious encounters with men who are much older than you, let alone belong seeing them. And please do not get miffed with me but from what you wrote, I think that part of the reason that these older men are coming on to you so much is that you are sending out mixed signals. Part of you wants to be with them. Part of you knows better. I think low self-esteem about your weight is playing a part in this. (Let me make it clear here though -- Older men do go for younger women. When I was younger, I actually slapped a few of them across the face and threatened to tell their wives if they did not back off.) But, again, with you when the older guy comes on to you, you wiffle waffle as to what to do. As for wanting to be with younger men, that is what you should want. That is also where you should put your focus. I am praying very hard for you that you find a suitable male companion who is close to you in age. Your sister in Christ, ###.

Well, I do want to be with a boy my age. The oldest I would go is ###. I find all these situations creepy and disturbing. All I would ever want from an older man is a father-figure. Yes, it's true I chase after guys but guys my age range. The first guy is just a cab driver that my mom paid to take me around. He was a real creepo. He really didn't seem like it at first. But when he and I were alone on the car that instant, I felt so violated. I told my mom and when he tried to pick me up from my house to take me to my appointment, I demanded he leave. I think I threatened to call the police. The second guy came to me and was very intimidating. I just wanted to be nice. I tell the truth so when He asked if I was single I told him I was but that I am not available date or hang out. I really didn't want to talk to him. But, I was getting a feeling that he was the aggressive type. His voice sounded very shy, but his words tipped me off. I won't go into detail. The second guy is really the only exception. But I don't flirt with him. I only laugh when he compliments me. I try to stay neutral with him, but always end up partially leaning. With him I don't mind too much because he is in a small truck so he can't touch me. The first two men were really close. Yes, I do think he is attractive, but I'm not in his league. This is the first time I felt flattered. The next man, I only communicated with him through emails. I kept it professional. Please tell me what part off this prayer request made you think that way?

 

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Hello, ###. I sent you a personal message about this, but I want to try to up my chances of making sure you get hold of what I am saying. I guess I need to apologize. I think it was more the tone of what you said than the actual content of your prayer request that I responded to. I guess I made a mistake in how I interpreted what you were saying, and I apologize. I am praying that you find what you are looking for -- a boy your age. I usually am pretty on target with things I say, and I think I give good advice. But I am not perfect, and I think this time I messed up, just read too much into what you said. Again, please accept my apology. May blessings -- one of these being a wonderful guy your age or close to it -- come your way. Your sister in Christ, ###.

 

[jasmine1721]

its fine ###