Your cry has entered the ears of the Lord of Sabaoth, and He is not deaf to the groaning of His prisoner. You feel shut in, the key held by a brother whose heart seems iron, and the daily vexations eat at your spirit like a canker. But mark this: the Lord sent a deliverer for Israel, and He can send one for you. Yet first, let us take a lesson from the patriarch Jacob. When Esau came with four hundred men, Jacob did not rush to meet him with his own stratagems alone; he laid hold upon God with a definite, argumentative prayer. “O God...deliver me, I pray You, from the hand of my brother, from the hand of Esau.” He named the name, he stated the precise danger, and he pleaded the promises. So must you. Tell the Lord the names, the deeds, the fears concerning that stolen fruit, the detergents, the drunken weekends, the stonewalling. Spread the entire case before Him with all the arguments you can muster, for true prayer is pleading with the Most High.
Yet consider this: your prayer must not be a mere tempest of complaint. I fear, from your words, that a flame of wrath may be burning too hot within you. Are we not often surprised to find that the greatest sin nestles close to our holiest exercises? A boiling indignation, however justified it appears, can pollute the sanctuary of prayer. When the heart bursts with tears from sheer anger, it is a mercy to weep, but let that grief be baptized into sorrow for your own faults as much as for the wrongs of others. The brother you call a narcissist, the women you recount as reckless, those very labels may become a barrier in your soul. You cannot harbor enmity there after you have truly learned to pray for those who despitefully use you. Intercessory prayer is the divine solvent for bitterness. Before you speak another word to your brother, or even about him, let there be a season of praying for him. If you stand accusing, you will only increase the gall; but if you kneel interceding, God may melt the mountain of ice.
Now, a desperate case calls for desperate communion. Our Lord told us that some kinds go not out but by prayer and fasting. You speak of endless cleaning, of tears before bed, of a prison without walls. That is a spirit of bondage which ordinary petitions may not dislodge. Have you set apart a day, or even a portion of a day, for concentrated fasting and prayer over this very household? A dull, lumpish heaviness may cling to us unless the body is brought low and the soul is made intense. Try the experiment. A prayer meeting of one, held in the secret place, with the door shut and the flesh subdued, may open a gate of deliverance that your daily groans have never touched. And be direct with God, as a wise Scotsman who simply said, “Lord, the orphanage needs £3,000, be pleased to send it.” State your need: “Lord, the apartment is being damaged, my mother is thought to be robbed, my brother’s heart is hardened, my own mind reels toward despair, deliver me from the hand of this Esau!”
But take heed lest you fall into the error of unseasonable prayer. The Lord said to Moses, “Why do you cry unto Me? Speak unto the children of Israel, that they go forward.” There comes a moment when faith must lift its rod and act. Prayer is the shadow of a coming blessing, but the blessing falls when we step out to meet it. If God has shown you a modest, prudent step, perhaps a quiet word spoken in the right season, a boundary set with meek firmness, or the calling in of another trusted soul to witness what occurs, then do not continue merely crying out when the command is to go forward. Do not let your prayer degenerate into an excuse for inaction. Faith without works is dead, and prayer without an obedient hand is a sepulcher of devotion with no life in it.
And do not forsake the assembling of yourself with others for intercession if any two can agree as touching this matter. Half-a-dozen saints united in prayer for a prodigal or for a family in disarray have often seen the lock snap and the iron gate swing wide. Is there no faithful deacon, no seasoned sister in your congregation, who would join you in carrying this burden before the throne? You say you are alone, but the body of Christ is the family of the living God; if you belong to it, you have more than a hundred brothers and sisters bound by a tie deeper than blood. Seek them out, and let two or three touch the hem of His garment together.
Finally, cleave to the promise when all sense of the answer delays. Jacob’s prayer was answered, but not in the manner he expected. He thought to appease Esau with gifts, but God had already turned the heart of the adversary while Jacob was yet wrestling at Jabbok. You look for the immediate removal of the women, or a sudden awakening in your brother, and God may work by a far different route. He may, for a season, give you grace enough to bear the ordeal while He silently erects a hedge around your mother and brings hidden things to light. Do not, therefore, cast away your confidence because the chariot wheels tarry. That dark suggestion of the Evil One, “Forsake the closet! Give up private devotion! Prayer is a fancy,” must be spurned with all your might. Cry out in the daytime and in the night, and let the Holy Spirit quicken you in your private prayers, your family devotion (such as you can have), and your reading of the Word. The Lord will yet hear.
It is not a small thing that you are elected to suffer this trial, for intercessory prayer is the true work of the saints and often the prelude to God’s own instrument awakening. Who knows but that you, by standing faithful in the breach, may yet see your brother’s heart turned from that stone-like robot state, and the women confounded in their petty thefts? Keep the horns of the altar within your grip, and though you go weeping on your way, the Lord shall give you the oil of joy for mourning. The key may be in your brother’s hand, but the Key of David, which opens and no man shuts, is in the hand of Christ, who holds the stars in His right hand and walks among the golden candlesticks. Lay your case before Him now, and let your prayer go up with fresh directness and humility, then watch for the answer, even if it tarries till the morning watch.