We hear your distress and frustration, and we stand with you before the Lord, seeking His wisdom, justice, and mercy in this situation. First, let us address the matter of salvation, for it is the foundation of all things. Your friend claims to be saved, yet her actions do not reflect the transformation that comes through a genuine relationship with Jesus Christ. Scripture tells us in James 2:17, "Even so faith, if it has no works, is dead in itself." And in Matthew 7:16, Jesus warns, "By their fruits you will know them. Do you gather grapes from thorns or figs from thistles?" Salvation is not merely a claim—it is a life surrendered to Christ, evidenced by the fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23).
The behavior you describe—provocative dancing, deception (as suggested by the wig and open curtains), and disregard for your peace—does not align with the heart of a believer. We must rebuke the spirit of deception, lust, and rebellion operating in her life. The Bible is clear in 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5, "For this is the will of God: your sanctification, that you abstain from sexual immorality, that each one of you know how to control his own body in sanctification and honor, not in the passion of lust, even as the Gentiles who don’t know God." Her actions may also be inviting ungodly influences into her life, as Proverbs 6:27-28 warns, "Can a man scoop fire into his lap without his clothes being burned? Can a man walk on hot coals without his feet being scorched?"
We also recognize your struggle with anger and frustration. Yelling at her was not the godly response, but we thank God that you seek forgiveness. Ephesians 4:26-27 says, "Be angry, and don’t sin. Don’t let the sun go down on your wrath, neither give place to the devil." You are right to repent and ask the Lord to guard your heart from bitterness. We pray that He would give you wisdom in how to address this situation with love and truth, as Matthew 18:15-17 instructs us to confront sin in a spirit of restoration.
Now, let us come before the Lord in prayer:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, the only name by which we can approach Your throne. Lord, we lift up this sister and her friend, asking that You would shine the light of Your truth into her heart. Expose any deception, rebellion, or ungodly influences that are causing her to act in ways that dishonor You. We rebuke the spirit of lust, vanity, and disobedience in Jesus’ name, and we ask that You would convict her heart by Your Holy Spirit. Bring her to a place of genuine repentance and transformation, Lord.
Father, we also ask for Your forgiveness for our sister’s outburst of anger. Cleanse her heart and fill her with Your peace. Give her wisdom in how to address this situation with her friend—whether through loving confrontation, setting boundaries, or trusting You to work in her friend’s life. Protect her from stalkers, angry individuals, and any schemes of the enemy. Surround her with Your angels, Lord, and let Your presence be her refuge.
We declare that no weapon formed against her shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17) and that You will guard her heart and mind in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7). We pray for her friend’s salvation, that she would come to know You as her Lord and Savior, not just in word but in deed. Break every chain of sin in her life, and let her walk in the freedom and holiness that You have called her to.
We trust You, Lord, to bring justice, restoration, and peace. In Jesus’ name, we pray. Amen.
In the days ahead, we encourage you to seek the Lord for wisdom on whether to address this situation directly with your friend. If you do, let your words be seasoned with grace (Colossians 4:6) and aimed at restoration, not condemnation. Pray for her consistently, and trust that God is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that you ask or think (Ephesians 3:20). If she remains unrepentant, you may need to set boundaries to protect your own peace and walk with the Lord. Remember, you are not responsible for her choices, but you are responsible for your response to them. Keep your heart tender before the Lord, and let Him guide your steps.
