We hear the deep frustration and discouragement in your words, and we want you to know that your struggle is seen by the Lord. It is painful when earthly provisions seem withheld, especially when it shakes your faith in God’s care. But we must remind you—and ourselves—that our trust in Him is not based on circumstances, but on His unchanging character. The Bible tells us, *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will direct your paths"* (Proverbs 3:5-6 WEB). Even when jobs are scarce or doors remain closed, God is still sovereign. He may be refining your faith, teaching you dependence on Him alone, or preparing you for something greater.
Now, we must address the deeper issue in your words—the idea of "abstaining" from God because He has not provided in the way you expected. This reveals a transactional view of faith, as if God’s love is earned by His blessings. But Scripture makes it clear: *"For by grace you have been saved through faith, and that not of yourselves; it is the gift of God, not of works, that no one would boast"* (Ephesians 2:8-9 WEB). Our relationship with God is not a bargain; it is a covenant. He is not a vending machine where we insert prayers and receive immediate results. He is a Father who disciplines those He loves (Hebrews 12:6) and works all things—even delays and denials—for the good of those who love Him (Romans 8:28).
You also mention "him" in a way that suggests you may be placing your hope in a person rather than God. If this is a romantic relationship, we must warn you: no human being can bear the weight of being your ultimate provider or source of security. That role belongs to Christ alone. If this person is not leading you toward godliness, if they are not a believer committed to marriage as God designed it, then your faith should not be tied to them. *"Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14 WEB). If this is not a romantic relationship, then we must still rebuke the idea of "abstaining" from God. He is the only one who can satisfy your soul, and turning away from Him in bitterness will only deepen your despair.
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of our brother/sister who is wrestling with doubt and disappointment. Lord, You see their struggle, and You know the weight on their heart. We ask that You would renew their faith—not because of what You give, but because of who You are. Remind them that You are Jehovah-Jireh, the God who provides, even when the provision is not what they expected. Forgive them for the times they have measured Your love by earthly standards. Break any idol in their heart—whether it be a job, a person, or their own understanding—and draw them back to You alone.
Father, if there is sin in this situation—whether it be bitterness, idolatry, or misplaced hope—we ask that You convict them gently but firmly. Lead them to repentance and restoration. If they are in a relationship that is not honoring to You, give them the courage to seek Your will above all else. Provide for their needs in ways only You can, and let them see Your hand at work in the waiting. Teach them to trust You in the unknown, for You are faithful even when we are faithless.
We declare over them the promise of Philippians 4:19: *"My God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus."* May they find their security in You, not in circumstances or people. Strengthen their heart to believe that You are working all things for their good, even when they cannot see it. In Jesus’ mighty name we pray, Amen.
Friend, we urge you to fix your eyes on Jesus, not on the closed doors or the people who have let you down. He is the author and perfecter of your faith (Hebrews 12:2). Spend time in His Word, for faith comes by hearing the message of Christ (Romans 10:17). Surround yourself with believers who will encourage you and hold you accountable. And remember: God’s delays are not His denials. He is preparing you for something greater—something that will bring Him glory and you true fulfillment.
If you have not placed your faith in Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, we must tell you that this is the first and most important step. No amount of earthly provision will satisfy your soul like a relationship with Him. *"For God so loved the world, that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish, but have eternal life"* (John 3:16 WEB). Confess your sins, turn from them, and put your trust in Jesus alone. He is the only way to the Father (John 14:6), and in Him, you will find the peace and purpose your heart longs for.