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We hear the deep ache in your heart, and we want you to know that you are not forgotten by God—far from it. Your loneliness and longing for a spouse are valid, and we grieve with you in this season of waiting. But let us gently remind you that God’s timing is perfect, even when it feels delayed or painful. His ways are higher than ours (Isaiah 55:8-9), and He sees the full picture of your life—past, present, and future—while we only see a fragment.
First, we want to commend you for bringing this burden to the Lord in prayer. That is exactly where it belongs. However, we must also ask: *Has your focus on marriage become an idol?* It’s easy for our longings to shift from "I want what God wants" to "I want this *so much* that it’s consuming me." If the desire for marriage is overshadowing your trust in God’s sovereignty, it may be time to surrender it anew. Jesus tells us in Matthew 6:33, *"But seek first God’s Kingdom and his righteousness; and all these things will be given to you as well."* This doesn’t mean marriage is guaranteed, but it *does* mean that when we prioritize Christ above all else, He aligns our desires with His will—and His will is always good, even when it’s hard.
We also want to address the anxiety that has taken root. Philippians 4:6-7 says, *"In nothing be anxious, but in everything, by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your thoughts in Christ Jesus."* Anxiety is not from the Lord, and it’s a signal that we’re carrying a burden He never intended for us to bear alone. Have you laid this at His feet *daily*, trusting Him to sustain you even in the waiting? Or have you picked it back up, allowing bitterness or despair to creep in? If so, repent and release it again. He is faithful.
Now, let’s speak truth over the lie that you are "still single" because God is withholding good from you. That is *not* the heart of your Heavenly Father. Psalm 84:11 says, *"For Yahweh God is a sun and a shield. Yahweh will give grace and glory. He withholds no good thing from those who walk blamelessly."* If marriage is His good gift for you, He *will* provide it in His perfect time. But if His plan for you includes singleness—whether for a season or a lifetime—He will also give you the grace to walk in it with joy and purpose. Remember the apostle Paul, who wrote much of the New Testament as a single man, fully devoted to the Lord’s work. Singleness is not a curse; it is an opportunity to serve God with undivided attention (1 Corinthians 7:32-35).
That said, we also want to challenge you: *Are you actively preparing for marriage while you wait?* Are you growing in godly character, serving in your church, and cultivating the kind of heart that would honor a future spouse? Proverbs 18:22 tells us, *"Whoever finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor of Yahweh."* But notice—it’s about *finding*, not just *waiting*. Are you putting yourself in godly communities where you can meet like-minded believers? Are you praying not just for a spouse, but to *be* the spouse someone else is praying for? Marriage is a covenant, not just a comfort, and God calls us to steward our season of singleness well.
Lastly, we must address the tone of desperation in your words. Desperation can lead to compromise, and we urge you: *Do not settle for anything less than God’s best.* Do not entertain relationships with unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14), and do not allow loneliness to drive you into emotional or physical intimacy outside of marriage. Fornication is a sin against your own body (1 Corinthians 6:18), and it will only deepen your pain. Guard your heart fiercely, for it is the wellspring of life (Proverbs 4:23).
Now, let us pray over you:
*"Heavenly Father, we lift up our brother/sister to You, knowing that You see every tear, every ache, and every longing of their heart. Lord, we ask that You would meet them in this place of loneliness and fill them with Your presence so deeply that their soul is satisfied in You alone. Remove the anxiety that has gripped them, and replace it with Your peace that surpasses all understanding. Forgive them for any bitterness or doubt that has taken root, and renew their mind with Your truth.
Father, if it is Your will for them to marry, we pray that You would prepare them *and* their future spouse. Open doors that no man can shut, and align their steps with Yours. Give them patience to wait well and wisdom to recognize Your leading. But if Your plan for them is singleness, grant them a heart of contentment and a vision for how You will use them mightily in this season. Remind them that their worth is not found in their marital status but in their identity as Your beloved child.
We rebuke the lies of the enemy that have whispered they are forgotten or unloved. Holy Spirit, flood their mind with Your Word and drown out the voices of despair. Surround them with godly community that encourages and sharpens them. And Lord, if there is any area of their life that needs repentance—whether idolatry of marriage, compromise in relationships, or unbelief—convict them gently and lead them to restoration.
We declare that their story is not over, and that You are writing a testimony of faith through this season. Strengthen them to walk in purity, hope, and trust. In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray, Amen."*
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Friend, we want to leave you with this: **Your singleness is not a mistake.** God is using this time to shape you, to draw you closer to Himself, and to prepare you for what’s ahead—whether that’s marriage or a life of devoted singleness. In the meantime, *serve where you are*. Invest in your church, mentor younger believers, use your time and resources for the Kingdom. The less you fixate on what you lack, the more you’ll see how God is providing in ways you never expected.
And remember: Jesus Himself was single during His earthly ministry, yet He lacked nothing because His relationship with the Father was enough. Let that be your model. Cling to Him, and let Him be your portion (Psalm 73:26). We are praying for you and believe that God is at work, even now.
First, we want to commend you for bringing this burden to the Lord in prayer. That is exactly where it belongs. However, we must also ask: *Has your focus on marriage become an idol?* It’s easy for our longings to shift from "I want what God wants" to "I want this *so much* that it’s consuming me." If the desire for marriage is overshadowing your trust in God’s sovereignty, it may be time to surrender it anew. Jesus tells us in Matthew 6:33, *"But seek first God’s Kingdom and his righteousness; and all these things will be given to you as well."* This doesn’t mean marriage is guaranteed, but it *does* mean that when we prioritize Christ above all else, He aligns our desires with His will—and His will is always good, even when it’s hard.
We also want to address the anxiety that has taken root. Philippians 4:6-7 says, *"In nothing be anxious, but in everything, by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your thoughts in Christ Jesus."* Anxiety is not from the Lord, and it’s a signal that we’re carrying a burden He never intended for us to bear alone. Have you laid this at His feet *daily*, trusting Him to sustain you even in the waiting? Or have you picked it back up, allowing bitterness or despair to creep in? If so, repent and release it again. He is faithful.
Now, let’s speak truth over the lie that you are "still single" because God is withholding good from you. That is *not* the heart of your Heavenly Father. Psalm 84:11 says, *"For Yahweh God is a sun and a shield. Yahweh will give grace and glory. He withholds no good thing from those who walk blamelessly."* If marriage is His good gift for you, He *will* provide it in His perfect time. But if His plan for you includes singleness—whether for a season or a lifetime—He will also give you the grace to walk in it with joy and purpose. Remember the apostle Paul, who wrote much of the New Testament as a single man, fully devoted to the Lord’s work. Singleness is not a curse; it is an opportunity to serve God with undivided attention (1 Corinthians 7:32-35).
That said, we also want to challenge you: *Are you actively preparing for marriage while you wait?* Are you growing in godly character, serving in your church, and cultivating the kind of heart that would honor a future spouse? Proverbs 18:22 tells us, *"Whoever finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor of Yahweh."* But notice—it’s about *finding*, not just *waiting*. Are you putting yourself in godly communities where you can meet like-minded believers? Are you praying not just for a spouse, but to *be* the spouse someone else is praying for? Marriage is a covenant, not just a comfort, and God calls us to steward our season of singleness well.
Lastly, we must address the tone of desperation in your words. Desperation can lead to compromise, and we urge you: *Do not settle for anything less than God’s best.* Do not entertain relationships with unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14), and do not allow loneliness to drive you into emotional or physical intimacy outside of marriage. Fornication is a sin against your own body (1 Corinthians 6:18), and it will only deepen your pain. Guard your heart fiercely, for it is the wellspring of life (Proverbs 4:23).
Now, let us pray over you:
*"Heavenly Father, we lift up our brother/sister to You, knowing that You see every tear, every ache, and every longing of their heart. Lord, we ask that You would meet them in this place of loneliness and fill them with Your presence so deeply that their soul is satisfied in You alone. Remove the anxiety that has gripped them, and replace it with Your peace that surpasses all understanding. Forgive them for any bitterness or doubt that has taken root, and renew their mind with Your truth.
Father, if it is Your will for them to marry, we pray that You would prepare them *and* their future spouse. Open doors that no man can shut, and align their steps with Yours. Give them patience to wait well and wisdom to recognize Your leading. But if Your plan for them is singleness, grant them a heart of contentment and a vision for how You will use them mightily in this season. Remind them that their worth is not found in their marital status but in their identity as Your beloved child.
We rebuke the lies of the enemy that have whispered they are forgotten or unloved. Holy Spirit, flood their mind with Your Word and drown out the voices of despair. Surround them with godly community that encourages and sharpens them. And Lord, if there is any area of their life that needs repentance—whether idolatry of marriage, compromise in relationships, or unbelief—convict them gently and lead them to restoration.
We declare that their story is not over, and that You are writing a testimony of faith through this season. Strengthen them to walk in purity, hope, and trust. In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray, Amen."*
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Friend, we want to leave you with this: **Your singleness is not a mistake.** God is using this time to shape you, to draw you closer to Himself, and to prepare you for what’s ahead—whether that’s marriage or a life of devoted singleness. In the meantime, *serve where you are*. Invest in your church, mentor younger believers, use your time and resources for the Kingdom. The less you fixate on what you lack, the more you’ll see how God is providing in ways you never expected.
And remember: Jesus Himself was single during His earthly ministry, yet He lacked nothing because His relationship with the Father was enough. Let that be your model. Cling to Him, and let Him be your portion (Psalm 73:26). We are praying for you and believe that God is at work, even now.
We're here with you, dear friend, feeling your loneliness and understanding your longing for companionship. We want you to know that God sees you, loves you, and is with you every step of the way. We're not going to repeat what's already been said, but we want to share a thought that's been on our hearts.
You know, sometimes we focus so much on what we don't have that we forget to appreciate what we do. It's like the parable of the talents in Matthew 25. The servant who buried his talent out of fear was rebuked by his master. He was focused on what he didn't have, instead of using what he'd been given.
So, we encourage you to look around and see the blessings in your life right now. Maybe it's a supportive family, a loving church community, or a job that allows you to serve others. Whatever it is, focus on those things and give thanks for them. It's not about minimizing your pain, but about shifting your perspective.
Remember, God is not withholding good from you. He's preparing you for something greater. He's like a potter, shaping you into a vessel of honor (2 Timothy 2:21). Trust in His timing and His love for you.
Let's pray together: "Lord, help our friend to see the blessings in their life right now. Open their eyes to the good things You've already given them. Help them to trust in Your love and Your plan for their life. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen."
You know, sometimes we focus so much on what we don't have that we forget to appreciate what we do. It's like the parable of the talents in Matthew 25. The servant who buried his talent out of fear was rebuked by his master. He was focused on what he didn't have, instead of using what he'd been given.
So, we encourage you to look around and see the blessings in your life right now. Maybe it's a supportive family, a loving church community, or a job that allows you to serve others. Whatever it is, focus on those things and give thanks for them. It's not about minimizing your pain, but about shifting your perspective.
Remember, God is not withholding good from you. He's preparing you for something greater. He's like a potter, shaping you into a vessel of honor (2 Timothy 2:21). Trust in His timing and His love for you.
Let's pray together: "Lord, help our friend to see the blessings in their life right now. Open their eyes to the good things You've already given them. Help them to trust in Your love and Your plan for their life. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen."
The Encourager
The Encourager
I prayed that God in Jesus' name will answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God Loves You. Thank You Jesus!!!
Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net
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Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net
Healed Spirit Soul And Body
Healed Spirit Soul And Body
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We want you to know how deeply we’ve been lifting you before the Lord these past days, interceding for your heart as you wrestle with loneliness and the weight of waiting. Your honesty in sharing this struggle has allowed us to stand with you in prayer, and we are so grateful you trusted us with this burden.
We know how painful it can feel when the silence seems louder than God’s voice, when the longing for companionship presses hard against faith. But we want to remind you—you are not forgotten. The Lord sees your tears, hears your prayers, and is working even in the waiting. His timing is perfect, and His love for you is deeper than any earthly relationship could ever be. He may be preparing you, protecting you, or calling you to a season of deeper dependence on Him alone—and though it’s hard, that intimacy with Christ is a gift no circumstance can take away.
If the Lord has brought comfort, clarity, or even a glimmer of hope since you first posted, we’d love to rejoice with you. Share your praise, no matter how small—it glorifies Him and encourages others walking similar paths. And if the heaviness still lingers, we want you to know we’re still here, still praying. Post again, and let us continue to lift you up, asking God to flood your heart with His peace, to reveal His purpose in this season, and to surround you with His presence in ways that leave no room for doubt: *You are loved. You are seen. You are not alone.*
We’re also praying for wisdom—if there’s a step of obedience, a community to lean into, or a lie from the enemy that needs to be broken, we ask the Holy Spirit to make it clear. Anxiety is not your portion, beloved. The God who calms the seas can calm your heart.
Keep seeking Him. Keep trusting. And know that we are *with* you in this, believing for breakthrough, for joy restored, and for the Lord to meet you in ways that exceed every prayer you’ve whispered.
In Jesus’ name.
We know how painful it can feel when the silence seems louder than God’s voice, when the longing for companionship presses hard against faith. But we want to remind you—you are not forgotten. The Lord sees your tears, hears your prayers, and is working even in the waiting. His timing is perfect, and His love for you is deeper than any earthly relationship could ever be. He may be preparing you, protecting you, or calling you to a season of deeper dependence on Him alone—and though it’s hard, that intimacy with Christ is a gift no circumstance can take away.
If the Lord has brought comfort, clarity, or even a glimmer of hope since you first posted, we’d love to rejoice with you. Share your praise, no matter how small—it glorifies Him and encourages others walking similar paths. And if the heaviness still lingers, we want you to know we’re still here, still praying. Post again, and let us continue to lift you up, asking God to flood your heart with His peace, to reveal His purpose in this season, and to surround you with His presence in ways that leave no room for doubt: *You are loved. You are seen. You are not alone.*
We’re also praying for wisdom—if there’s a step of obedience, a community to lean into, or a lie from the enemy that needs to be broken, we ask the Holy Spirit to make it clear. Anxiety is not your portion, beloved. The God who calms the seas can calm your heart.
Keep seeking Him. Keep trusting. And know that we are *with* you in this, believing for breakthrough, for joy restored, and for the Lord to meet you in ways that exceed every prayer you’ve whispered.
In Jesus’ name.
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