We hear the deep pain and longing for healing in your heart, and we lift you up in prayer, knowing that God is near to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18). Your desire to forgive, release bitterness, and seek peace aligns with Scripture, which calls us to "let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God also in Christ forgave you" (Ephesians 4:31-32). This is a godly posture, and we commend you for seeking reconciliation with the Lord and within yourself.
However, we must gently address a few things in your request that need biblical clarity. First, while it is right to desire justice, praying that someone "gets what they deserve" can easily cross into a place of bitterness or vengeance, which belongs to the Lord alone. Romans 12:19 reminds us, "Don’t seek revenge yourselves, beloved, but give place to God’s wrath. For it is written, 'Vengeance belongs to me; I will repay, says the Lord.'" Instead, we pray for their repentance, for God to soften their hearts, and for His justice to prevail in a way that brings glory to Him—not out of malice, but out of a desire for His will to be done.
We also notice that your prayer does not invoke the name of Jesus Christ, through whom we have access to the Father. There is no other name by which we are saved (Acts 4:12), and it is only through Jesus that our prayers are heard. He is our Mediator, and we must come to God in His name. If you have not yet surrendered your life to Jesus as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so. Scripture tells us, "If you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved" (Romans 10:9). Without faith in Christ, there is no true peace, healing, or eternal hope. If you have already placed your faith in Him, we encourage you to always approach the throne of grace in His name, for it is through Him alone that we find mercy and grace to help in our time of need (Hebrews 4:16).
Regarding your marriage, we understand the pain you are experiencing, and we grieve with you over the brokenness. Marriage is a covenant before God, and He hates divorce (Malachi 2:16). While Scripture does allow for divorce in cases of sexual immorality or abandonment by an unbelieving spouse (Matthew 19:9, 1 Corinthians 7:15), it is not to be entered into lightly. We encourage you to seek godly counsel—whether from a pastor or a biblical counselor—before proceeding. Have you exhausted all efforts toward reconciliation? Have you sought the Lord together in prayer and repentance? If your spouse is unwilling, have you prayed for their heart to be softened? Divorce should always be a last resort after all biblical steps toward restoration have been taken. If you have already pursued these steps and your spouse remains hardened, we pray for God’s wisdom and peace to guide your decisions.
We also note your mention of starting over, and while new beginnings can be part of God’s redemptive plan, we caution you to seek His will above your own desires. Proverbs 19:21 tells us, "There are many plans in a man’s heart, but Yahweh’s counsel will prevail." Surrender your plans to Him, and ask for His direction in every step. If selling your possessions and moving forward is part of His will, He will make it clear and provide for you.
Finally, your request for the truth to come to light is a godly one. Jesus said, "You will know the truth, and the truth will make you free" (John 8:32). Truth is found in Him, and we pray that He exposes every lie and brings clarity to your situation. But we also pray that you would be prepared to receive truth humbly, even if it reveals areas where you need to repent or grow. Ask the Lord to search your heart and show you if there is any wicked way in you (Psalm 139:23-24). True healing begins with surrender to His will, not ours.
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift our sister before You, knowing that You see her pain and collect every tear she has shed (Psalm 56:8). Lord, we ask for Your healing hand to touch her heart and mind. Replace her sorrow with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7). Where there is bitterness, fill her with Your love. Where there is confusion, bring clarity. Where there is fear, flood her with Your perfect love that casts out all fear (1 John 4:18).
We pray for her marriage, Lord. If there is any hope for restoration, we ask that You would soften both hearts and draw them to repentance and reconciliation. If this marriage is beyond repair due to hardness of heart or unrepentant sin, we pray for Your wisdom to guide her steps. Give her discernment to know Your will and the courage to obey it, even when it is difficult. Surround her with godly counsel and support as she navigates this season.
Father, we ask for provision in her practical needs—especially the repair of her car and the financial means to move forward. You are Jehovah Jireh, the Lord who provides (Genesis 22:14). We trust You to meet her needs according to Your riches in glory (Philippians 4:19). Help her to release her anxiety about the future into Your hands, knowing that You hold all things together (Colossians 1:17).
We also pray for the person who has caused her pain. Lord, if they have sinned against her, we ask that You would convict their heart and lead them to repentance. Soften their spirit, Lord, and help them to see their own faults. But we also pray that our sister would be released from any desire for vengeance. May she forgive as You have forgiven her, and may she find freedom in letting go. Protect her from further harm, and if it is Your will, remove this person from her life unless they come with a broken and repentant heart.
Most of all, Father, we pray that she would draw near to You in this season. May she find her identity and worth in Christ alone, not in the opinions of others or in her circumstances. Remind her that she is fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14), and that nothing can separate her from Your love (Romans 8:38-39). Fill her with Your Holy Spirit, and let His fruit—love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control—abound in her life (Galatians 5:22-23).
We rebuke any spirit of bitterness, resentment, or unforgiveness that may try to take root in her heart. We declare that she is more than a conqueror through Christ who loves her (Romans 8:37), and that no weapon formed against her will prosper (Isaiah 54:17). We ask all these things in the mighty and precious name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who alone is worthy of all praise and glory. Amen.
