We hear your heart, dear one, and we stand with you before the throne of grace, lifting this burden to the Lord who sees all and works all things for good. First, let us address the foundation of our prayers—it is only through the name of Jesus Christ that we have access to the Father. There is no other name under heaven by which we may be saved (Acts 4:12). If you have not yet surrendered your life to Him, we urge you to confess your sins, believe in His death and resurrection, and invite Him to be Lord of your life. Without this, our prayers lack the authority and power that come from being in Christ.
Now, regarding your struggle with how this person treats you, we must first examine our own hearts. The Word tells us, *"Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but don’t consider the beam that is in your own eye? Or how will you tell your brother, ‘Let me remove the speck from your eye,’ and behold, the beam is in your own eye? You hypocrite! First remove the beam out of your own eye, and then you can see clearly to remove the speck out of your brother’s eye"* (Matthew 7:3-5). Have you sought the Lord to reveal any ways in which you may have contributed to this tension? Even if the other person’s actions are unjust, our response must be one of humility and love.
We rebuke the spirit of frustration and bitterness that seeks to take root in your heart. The Bible warns us, *"Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you"* (Ephesians 4:31-32). It is not wrong to feel hurt, but we must not allow those feelings to fester into sin. Instead, we are called to extend the same grace that Christ has extended to us.
We also pray for this person who has been unkind to you. The Lord knows their heart, and only He can soften it. *"The king’s heart is in Yahweh’s hand like the watercourses. He turns it wherever he desires"* (Proverbs 21:1). We ask that the Lord would reveal Himself to her in a powerful way, that she may see her need for repentance and turn from any hardness of heart. We declare that her words and actions would be seasoned with grace, and that she would be a vessel of God’s love rather than strife.
But we must also address the nature of this relationship. You refer to this person as "her," which suggests this may be a romantic or close personal relationship. If this is a courtship or potential marriage, we must emphasize that God’s design for marriage is between one man and one woman, as He created them (Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:4-6). If this is not a godly, biblical marriage or a relationship leading toward one, we urge you to seek the Lord’s will for your future. Are you pursuing this relationship with the intention of honoring God, or is it rooted in loneliness, fear, or ungodly desire? *"Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship do righteousness and iniquity have? Or what fellowship does light have with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14). If this person is not a believer or is not aligned with God’s Word, we must prayerfully consider whether this is a relationship the Lord would have for you.
If this is a friendship or family relationship, we still encourage you to set boundaries that honor God. You are not called to endure abuse or constant unkindness, but you are called to respond with love. *"If it is possible, as much as it is up to you, be at peace with all men"* (Romans 12:18). This does not mean you must subject yourself to mistreatment, but it does mean you must guard your heart and seek peace where possible.
Let us pray together now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, the name above every name. Lord, we lift up this dear one who is struggling with unkindness from another. We ask that You would first search their heart and reveal any areas where they may need to repent or grow. Remove any bitterness, frustration, or unforgiveness that has taken root, and fill them with Your peace that surpasses all understanding.
Father, we pray for the one who has been unkind. Soften their heart, Lord. Break any hardness that has formed, and draw them to Yourself. Let them see their need for You and turn from any sin that is causing them to lash out. Fill them with Your love so that they may extend it to others.
We declare that this situation is in Your hands, Lord. You are the God who works all things together for good for those who love You and are called according to Your purpose (Romans 8:28). Help this dear one to see this person through Your eyes, with compassion and grace. Strengthen them to respond in love, even when it is difficult, and to trust You completely.
If this is a relationship that is not aligned with Your Word, Lord, we ask that You would make that clear. Give wisdom and discernment to walk away if this is not Your will. If it is a godly relationship, we pray for restoration, healing, and a renewed commitment to honor You in all things.
We rebuke the enemy’s attempts to sow discord, bitterness, or division in this situation. We declare that no weapon formed against this relationship—or against this dear one—will prosper (Isaiah 54:17). Let Your will be done, Lord, and let Your name be glorified in all things.
We ask all of this in the precious and powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
We encourage you to spend time in God’s Word, meditating on passages that speak to forgiveness, love, and trust in the Lord. Psalm 37 is a wonderful place to start: *"Don’t fret because of evildoers, neither be envious against those who work unrighteousness... Commit your way to Yahweh. Trust also in him, and he will do this"* (Psalm 37:1, 5). The Lord sees your struggle, and He will not leave you to face it alone. Keep your eyes on Him, and He will direct your paths.
