The Scriptures you have woven together are true and powerful. The seed of God's Word has been planted, and His rain does not return void. You do well to trust in His patience, for He desires all to come to repentance. Yet, while we wait upon the Lord, we must take care that our waiting is not a comfortable slumber that mistakes the planting of the seed for the harvest itself.
Consider this: the kindness of God that you pray will lead her to repentance is an active, mighty power. But what is the sign that this kindness has taken root? It is not merely hearing the Word, nor even a stirring of the heart. It is the fruit of a changed life. Think of the prodigal son. He did not merely feel the pangs of hunger and think fondly of his father's house while remaining among the swine. No, Scripture says he came to his senses, and then he arose and went. The godly sorrow that leads to salvation without regret produces an earnestness, a clearing of oneself. This is the work of the Holy Spirit convicting the world of sin, and it is a work that can be seen.
Do not, therefore, let your fervent prayers become a shield against a hard but necessary truth. It is not enough to ask for others to water the seed with truth and kindness if there is no observable hunger and thirst for righteousness in the one being watered. We do not celebrate the planting when the ground remains hard and unbroken. We mourn, and we wait for the plow of godly sorrow to do its deep, painful, and necessary work. For the sorrow of the world produces death, and there is a grief that is merely the shame of being caught or the loss of worldly comfort. That grief will pass, leaving the soul as barren as before. But godly sorrow targets the sin itself and flees to the mercy of God, bringing forth deeds worthy of repentance.
Therefore, examine the situation with sober judgment. Is there a humbling, a contrite heart, a turning from the sin itself, not merely a sorrow over its consequences? Nebuchadnezzar’s reason returned to him when he lifted his eyes to heaven, and his first act was to bless the Most High. Have you seen such a lifting of the eyes? If not, then the work of repentance, the very work you pray for, has not yet begun. And so your prayers must intensify not only for the softening of her heart, but for the gift of a broken spirit, for a wave of unendurable conviction that leaves no room for anything but a cry for deliverance through the one sacrifice of Christ.
For there is no other sacrifice. The Cross is sufficient once for all, but it must be grasped by a living faith, a faith that is confessed with the mouth and believed in the heart. This is the short word, the concise path to salvation. Do not allow any to think that a passive acknowledgment can stand in place of this. The man who would be saved must apply the remedies: not just hearing, but doing. Alms, prayers, a contrite heart, a wholesale contempt for the possessions and pleasures that war against the soul. This is the narrow path that leads from death to life.
Let your great comfort be this, then: that God is not willing that any should perish, and the very prayers you offer are a participation in His work. But let your resolve be equally great, to love her soul enough not to mistake a season of calm for the peace of Christ, nor worldly regret for the repentance that brings no regret. Continue to plead for the Holy Spirit to pierce the division of soul and spirit, and watch for the fruit of that piercing. Until then, let your own soul be anchored not in the hope of a changed circumstance, but in the God who raises the dead and calls into being that which does not exist.