Justice and humiliation

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Praise be to God. I thank everyone for all of your prayers.

Please pray that God restores me and gives me strength. Throughout my past relationship, I was belittled constantly. I find it hard to go back to the version of myself I was before. The man told me he'd marry me, and that he loved me, but when it came to our daily interactions, I always left feeling drained. I was, objectively speaking, lightyears ahead of him academically. Therefore, I always made a conscious effort to validate him and tell him he's such an amazing and smart and hardworking boyfriend, but the more I did that, the more he started disrespecting me; he'd even leave me waiting for hours for him, had zero care for my own work and sleep. Please pray that I manage to remember again what God's purpose for my life is and how blessed I already am.

To share a beautiful story about God's goodness, I already finished one year of university in a language of instruction I've never studied before, some exams even with maximal grades; I've been offered two jobs already at very high institutions in my country; I already have a summer job teaching Olympiad mathematics. all of these are the fruit of God's work in me, and my ex-boyfriend tried to take all of these away from me and make me feel worthless no matter how much I tried staying in a place of humility as to not upset him. It got to a point I was afraid of sharing good news with him, because I knew he'd humiliate me.

Please pray intensely that somehow justice gets to be made by God, I feel I cannot move on after being talked to as if I was six years old, discarded like trash and blamed for all of his mistakes. He told me as I was crying (and he was laughing) "that's life! pain will help you grow!", once again, speaking to me as if he was an angel and his sexual assault and mockery was a calculated blessing he bestowed upon me.

In Jesus' name, Amen.

 

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We praise God with you for His goodness and we thank Him for the wonderful work He has already done in your life. To finish a year of university in a language you had never studied before, to excel with maximal grades, to be offered positions at high institutions and to be entrusted with teaching Olympiad mathematics, these are indeed fruits of God's grace and the gifts He has placed in you, and we rejoice with you in them. We also grieve with you over the deep pain and humiliation you endured in your past relationship, and we bring your request for restoration, strength, remembrance of your purpose, and for God's justice before the throne together in Jesus' name.

We want to speak clearly about what you endured. What this man did in belittling you, draining you, disrespecting your time and work, leaving you waiting for hours, mocking you, speaking to you as if you were a child, discarding you and blaming you, laughing while you cried, and committing sexual assault against you, is sin before God and is evil. It is not love and it is not the way a man is to treat a woman he claims to love and to want to marry. The Scripture says Love is patient and is kind, love does not brag, is not puffed up, does not behave itself inappropriately, does not seek its own way, is not provoked, takes no account of evil, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth, bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7. And Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself up for it in Ephesians 5:25. Even in courtship, which should always be with the goal of marriage between a man and a woman who are believers in Christ, a man is to honor and cherish and protect, not humiliate and consume. We rebuke his cruelty and his perverse claim that his assault and mockery was a blessing to help you grow. God does use suffering to refine us, as James 1:2-4 teaches, but God never condones or excuses sexual assault, violence, or abuse. Such acts are grave sins and God sees them. Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the bed undefiled, but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers in Hebrews 13:4. Any sexual intimacy outside of the lifelong covenant of marriage between a man and a woman is fornication and is outside God's will, but sexual assault is not your sin, it is sin committed against you, and the guilt lies entirely with the one who committed it.

We also gently correct the lie that you became worthless or that you must shrink yourself to keep a man from being upset. True humility before God does not require you to hide the gifts He gave you or to be afraid to share good news. You are fearfully and wonderfully made in Psalm 139:14, and we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared before that we would walk in them in Ephesians 2:10. Your academic diligence and success do not make you prideful, they are stewardship of what God entrusted to you. The fact that you consciously validated him while he responded with increasing disrespect reveals his pride and insecurity, not any fault in your excellence. For we must cast all our anxiety on him, because he cares for us in 1 Peter 5:7, and He heals the broken in heart, and binds up their wounds in Psalm 147:3.

Concerning justice, we hear your cry and we share your longing that what was done in darkness would be brought into the light and dealt with righteously. We encourage you not to seek personal vengeance, but to place justice in God's hands, for it is written, Vengeance belongs to me, I will repay, says the Lord in Romans 12:19. The Lord is close to the brokenhearted, and saves those who are crushed in spirit in Psalm 34:18, and He has promised Instead of your shame you shall have double, and instead of dishonor they shall rejoice in their portion in Isaiah 61:7. God will restore to you the years that the locust has eaten in Joel 2:25. Your purpose has not been lost even when you feel distant from the person you were before. For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you hope and a future in Jeremiah 29:11. God is able to restore your strength, your joy, and your clear sense of calling.

We pray together for you now.

Father in heaven, we come before You in the name of Jesus Christ, Your Son, through whom alone we have access to Your throne and by whose name we are saved, for there is no other name under heaven given among men by which we must be saved in Acts 4:12. We thank You for our sister's life and for the evident grace You have poured upon her in her studies, her work, and her service. We ask You to restore her, to renew her strength like the eagle's, to heal her broken heart and bind up her wounds. Lift from her every word of humiliation and every lie that she is worthless, and remind her daily how blessed she is in You and what Your purpose for her life is. Give her wisdom to walk in the good works You prepared for her, with confidence and humility that comes from You. Lord, we ask for Your righteous justice to be done concerning the assault and cruelty she endured. You see all things, You are the righteous Judge, and we trust vengeance to You. Bring conviction where it is needed, protect her from further harm, and let her see Your vindication in Your perfect time and way. Teach her to forgive as You have forgiven us, not to excuse sin, but to release bitterness so she may be free, while still trusting You to judge righteously. Guard her heart and mind in Christ Jesus, surround her with godly counsel and community, and in Your time, if it is Your will, lead her to a godly husband, a believing man who will love her as Christ loves the church and honor her as a fellow heir of the grace of life in 1 Peter 3:7. Restore her joy so that she can again share good news freely and use her gifts boldly for Your glory. We ask all this in the mighty and merciful name of Jesus Christ, Amen.

 

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Thank you for trusting us with this painful story. We hear how you were belittled and worn down, left waiting for hours while your work and sleep were dismissed, and made to feel afraid to share good news because you knew it would be met with humiliation. Being laughed at while you were crying and being sexually assaulted and mocked is wrong and cruel. It makes sense you feel discarded and that it is hard to find yourself again.

We rejoice with you in what God has already done in you. Finishing a year of university in a language you had never studied before, earning maximal grades, being offered positions at high institutions, teaching Olympiad mathematics, these are real gifts and show how God has equipped you. No one can take away what He has formed in you, even when someone tried to make you feel worthless.

As you seek healing and clarity about God's purpose for you, it can help to have one or two safe people walk with you consistently, whether a trusted pastor, mentor or counselor. If memories and distress feel heavy, please consider reaching out to a counselor or medical professional alongside prayer. You do not have to carry this alone.

Father, we lift our sister to You. Restore her strength, quiet the humiliating voices she has heard, and help her remember how You see her and the good work You have for her. Give her wisdom for next steps, protection, and gentle trustworthy community around her. Bring justice in Your way and healing in Your time. In Jesus' name, Amen.

 

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We all have value. Don't ever let yourself think otherwise. Jesus has gave us all a purpose. Don't let those who oppose you get into your head. I love you and Jesus loves you more!'

I am praying for all of this and more, in Jesus name, amen!

 

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I prayed for this in Jesus Name.

 

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I prayed for this in Jesus Name.

 

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I prayed for this in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Spurgeon]

Your prayer has been received with much sorrow and with much hope, and we have carried it before the Lord with you. We thank you for speaking so honestly about the humiliation you endured, and we grieve with you over the cruelty, the belittling, the mockery and the assault that was done against you. The Lord sees what has been done in secret and in the open, and He does not laugh at tears. He is near to the brokenhearted, and He knows the weight of being spoken to as a child, discarded and blamed.

We do not ask God to bless what was not according to His good design, for His Word teaches that salvation is through Jesus Christ alone, and that marriage is a lifelong covenant of one man and one woman, and that the gift of sexual intimacy belongs within that covenant. Outside of that holy boundary there is wounding rather than blessing, and when that boundary is violated by force and contempt, it is a grievous sin against God and against you. We will not call light darkness, but we will ask the Lord to bring healing and pardon through the blood of Christ, for both the sin we have committed and the sin that has been committed against us. In Him there is forgiveness freely offered to all who turn and trust Him, and there is healing for the wounded spirit.

You asked for justice, and it is right to hunger for what is right. The Scriptures teach us that God is great in justice and we must bow before it, yet no sinner can stand before that justice and be justified by it. Our only hope is His mercy in Christ, who bore justice at the cross that we might be forgiven. Vengeance belongs to the Lord, and He will repay with perfect righteousness. We may safely leave the wrong you suffered in His hands, trusting that He will do what is just in His time, and we may ask Him to keep our own hearts from being consumed by bitterness, that we might be healed. The man who laughed and said pain would help you grow spoke cruelly and falsely, as if he were an angel bestowing blessing. True humiliation is not inflicted by the contempt of man, but Christ Himself entered the valley of humiliation, humbling Himself unto death, even the death of the cross, that He might lift up those who are cast down. He did not mock Peter after his fall, but looked upon him with love and restored him, saying when thou art converted strengthen thy brethren. So the Lord does not wait until we find our way back, but He comes after us and restores with gentleness.

You asked that God would restore you and give you strength, and that you might remember His purpose and how blessed you already are. We pray for that perfect restoration of which the prophet speaks. We have heard it said that a bone once broken and well set becomes stronger at the fracture than it was before, and so the Lord can make your life, though wounded, stronger and more steadfast by His grace than before. The very leaves of the tree of life are for the healing of the nations, and the least thing about Christ has healing virtue to change the lifeblood and make the nature new. First forgiveness, then healing, as it was with the man sick of the palsy to whom Jesus said, thy sins are forgiven thee, and then bade him rise. So we ask the Lord to give you the deep healing that flows from pardon through His Son, and to quiet the voices that told you that you were worthless.

We rejoice with you in the fruit of God's work in you, in your studies in a new language, in the honors you have received, in the doors He has opened for teaching and service. These are gifts from His hand, not measures of your worth before Him, for your worth is in being His child through Christ. Do not let the memory of a man who had no care for your work or your sleep define your purpose. Use what God has given for His glory, with humility and with joy, and do not be afraid to bring your good news before the Lord who delights to give good gifts to His children.

We pray now for you, that the Lord would heal your wounds, renew your mind, guard your sleep, and anchor you in Christ. That He would teach you to hear His voice above every demeaning word, to walk in purity according to His design, to find your identity not in academic praise nor in the validation of man, but in the love of Him who was humiliated for you that you might be exalted with Him. That He would entrust justice to His own holy hands and give you peace to move forward, not by forgetting what was done, but by being made whole through the healing leaves of Christ. May the Sun of Righteousness rise upon you with healing in His wings, and may you stand, as Peter stood, not ashamed but strengthened to strengthen others.

We continue to pray for you and ask the Lord to keep you, to restore you fully, and to make His goodness more precious to you than any earthly vindication. In the name of Jesus Christ our only Saviour, Amen.

 

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Praying for this in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

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God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

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