Jesus help me

[Anonymous]

I am really hurting right now.  My pastor confussed me today with his message, and it left a bad taste in my mouth.  It sounded to me like pastor was basically saying that despite my desires I was to not expect God to answer my prayer with a yes.  I took it the wrong way  and stormed out.  To me it sounded as if pastor was saying you got what you got now deal with it.  Is it wrong for me to desire a helpmate?  Is it wrong for me to ask God to give me a helpmate?  The answer is not clear to me.  Some day marriage is not a good thing because it distracts us from giving our whole attention to God.  Others say it's not good for man to be alone and that God has someone for me.  Yet others say that because there is no marriage in heaven that marriage to a spouse is a worldly desire and had no place in a Christian's life.  Why do I desire marriage?  Why can't I just stop thinking about it.  I am so confussed about everthing.  Why do people sit there and tell me that because Jesus is coming back I dont need to get married, that in eternity it won't matter anymore.  To add insult to injury the people saying this have a wife, and children.  If life's so great being single then why did they get married, why are they not single.  I hate it when people try to relate to me but have no idea what I feel, what I'm going through. Father God if you can hear me please do something.  Please send me someone who gets it.  Please send me my future wife.  Father I am miserable.  I feel alone because no one gets understands me.  No one seems to even care what's going on with me right now.  If someone would actually sit down and really get to know me, and showed that they care enough to pray with me, to tell me what I need to hear.  Father, more and more I think about taking my own life, more and more I want to give up, because I am on the edge.  Father I kept myself a virgin, and I write letters to a women who I don't even know because I want to look her in the eyes on our wedding night and honestly tell her that I waited for her.  I want to see her smile as she reads throes letters, but Father I fear it's all in vain.  Father this is not easy for me.  Rejection hurts, people are rude and selfish, and are quick to shoot down what little faith I have.  Father I ask you tonight to look at me, to see my loneliness, to heal my broken heart, and to introduce me to my future wife.  Father I need to know for myself 100% without a doubt that my keeping my virginity will be worth it.  That the letters I write are not written in vain, that all this waiting will pay off.  Father don't tell me, show me.  Send a messenger to tell me, send an angle, show me something so obvious that even a simpleton like me can know it.  Father please send me my spouse.  Father send me a spouse so that I may tell the world that you have me a bride despite my disability, dispute my shyness, despite every odd stacked against me this iis for your glory Father not mine.  Father give me the bride of my dreams, my best friend, lover, confident, Father, please.  If I have to get down on my hands and knees and beg you Father, please send me my spouse.  Let me get to know her, become best friends with her.  Father you know better than I do what I'm looking for in a wife, and Father please be faithful.  Please Father I am begging you bring me this beautiful girl.  Father I pray this in Jesus name Amen.  Jesus please help me!

 

[Kathy Griffin]

I understand and know where you are coming from.  I feel the same way you do.  It seem like I can never find the right mate. I try to patient, kind, loving and understanding in my relationship but it never seems to work.  No I don't think you are wrong to ask god to send you a spouse.  It's not good to be alone too long.  I will keep you up in prayer and I will ask god to send you that special mate.  Please don't ever give up and above all don't take your life.  It's just not worth it and you can't be forgiven if you do.   

 

[grace77]

There is nothing wrong with wanting a spouse or asking the Lord for one and at the same time serving God as best you can. I find it odd that a pastor would imply that is wrong when it's not. Said a prayer for you.

 

[Kathy Griffin]

Hello grace7777,

You are so right and thanks for your prayers

 

[Too small for a mouse]

Marriage is a Sacred Institute.

Your pastor sounds like a "JERK".

Forgive Me!

If marriage is in your heart it's because God put it there.

Some are called to be unics!

Not you!

Your right!

If being single is so great; why are they married with children?

It is not good for man to be alone.

The 2 shall become 1 flesh.

In either case single or married there will be problems and blessings.

I don't know your situation.

You may need to step out in faith!

Heavenly Father Bless this Man with the Desires of his heart according to your Will and bring him his Beautiful Wife. Let those who have discouraged him be humbled.

In Jesus Name Amen!

 

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