Jesus Christ please help me

[Dwsariator]

Dear God I didn't have any alcohol this morning or today or tonight because I want to be able to go out to dinner with my wife and my son and his girlfriend to celebrate his belated birthday. But my wife is downstairs drunk again and blabbing crazy stupid stuff and calls me an alcoholic. Yes I am a functioning alcoholic but at least I didn't take this summer off from work to sit on the couch and drink alcohol all day and then when I get home my wife is drunk at least 4 days a week and sits by herself rambling on to me and I have to stay away from her sitting upstairs to not listen to her or to try and talk to her. I will take my son and his girlfriend out to dinner tomorrow night and I hope my drunk wife stays home. Please help us Lord please help my wife and I with our AUD. I'm sorry

 

[Articles]

We hear the pain and frustration in your words, and we want you to know that we are lifting you and your family up in prayer. Alcohol use disorder (AUD) is a serious struggle, and it’s clear that it’s affecting not just you and your wife, but your entire family. We praise God that you’ve chosen to abstain today so you can be present for your son’s celebration, this is a step in the right direction, and we encourage you to continue seeking God’s strength to overcome this battle.

First, we must address the name of Jesus Christ in your request. It is only through Him that we have access to the Father, and there is no other name by which we can be saved (Acts 4:12). We are so grateful that you have called on Him, for He is the source of all healing and deliverance. We pray that you continue to lean on Him as your refuge and strength.

The Bible warns us about the dangers of drunkenness and the way it can lead to chaos and strife in the home. Ephesians 5:18 says, "Don’t be drunken with wine, in which is dissipation, but be filled with the Spirit." Proverbs 20:1 also tells us, "Wine is a mocker, and beer is a brawler. Whoever is led astray by them is not wise." Both you and your wife are caught in a cycle that is not only harmful to your bodies but also to your marriage and family. We must rebuke the spirit of addiction in the name of Jesus and declare that it has no place in your lives.

We also want to gently address the way you’ve described your wife’s behavior. While her actions are hurtful, we must remember that our words about one another should be seasoned with grace. Colossians 4:6 says, "Let your speech always be with grace, seasoned with salt, that you may know how you ought to answer each one." We encourage you to speak to your wife with love and patience, even in her struggles, as we are all in need of God’s mercy.

Now, let us pray for you and your family:

Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up this brother and his family. Lord, we ask for Your healing touch to break the chains of addiction that have taken hold of both him and his wife. We rebuke the spirit of alcohol in Jesus’ name and declare that it will no longer have dominion over their lives. Father, we pray for Your strength to fill them, that they may resist temptation and walk in the freedom that Christ died to give them.

Lord, we ask for wisdom and patience for this husband as he navigates this difficult situation. Give him the words to speak life and encouragement to his wife, even when she is struggling. Help him to lead his family with love and humility, pointing them always to You. We pray for their son and his girlfriend, that they would see Christ’s love reflected in their home and that they would be drawn closer to You through this trial.

Father, we also pray for this wife. Soften her heart, Lord, and help her to see the destruction that alcohol is bringing into her life and her family. Surround her with people who will speak truth in love and support her in seeking help. We ask that You would restore their marriage, Lord, and that they would find healing and unity in You.

We thank You, Father, that You are a God who hears our prayers and delights in restoring what is broken. We trust in Your power to bring redemption to this family. In Jesus’ name, we pray. Amen.

We encourage you to seek help not just for yourself, but for your wife as well. This is a battle that cannot be fought alone, and there is no shame in reaching out to a pastor, counselor, or support group like Alcoholics Anonymous. Proverbs 15:22 says, "Where there is no counsel, plans fail; but in a multitude of counselors they are established." You and your wife need a community of believers who can walk alongside you in this journey.

We also want to gently challenge you to examine your own heart. While you may be a "functioning" alcoholic, the Bible is clear that our bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:19-20), and we are called to honor God with them. We encourage you to take steps toward sobriety, not just for your family, but for your own spiritual and physical well-being.

Lastly, we want to remind you that God is able to do immeasurably more than we can ask or imagine (Ephesians 3:20). He is not surprised by your struggles, and He is already at work in your life. Keep pressing into Him, and trust that He will bring beauty from the ashes of this situation.

 

[hostadmin]

You’re holding a lot of tension right now, the weariness of living with someone else’s drinking, the frustration of being called out when you’re trying to do the right thing, and the quiet determination to still show up for your son’s celebration. That takes real strength, and we see it. We’re grateful you reached out, and we’re sorry for how heavy this feels.

It makes sense that you’d want a peaceful dinner without the chaos downstairs. We also hear the deeper ache beneath that: you care about your wife, and you know you both need help. That recognition is a gift, not something to feel shame over.

One step that often helps when addiction has dug into a marriage is to get support yourself, even if your wife isn’t ready. A Christian recovery group like Celebrate Recovery, or a counselor who understands addiction, can give you a steady place to sort through what you can control, your own choices, your own healing. When both partners are struggling, it’s easy to get tangled in blame, but focusing on what you can do today may slowly calm the storm, even if she doesn’t change right away. You don’t have to figure this out alone.

Let’s pause and pray:

Lord Jesus, you know the exhaustion and hurt in this home. Thank you for the strength this man showed today. We ask you to break the grip of alcohol on both him and his wife, bring clarity where there’s confusion, and safety where there’s danger. Give him wisdom about next steps, and surround his son’s celebration with Your peace, no matter what happens. In Your name, Jesus. Amen.

 

[Spurgeon]

The enemy rages when a soul would seek deliverance; as you are yet coming, the devil throws you down and tears you. Yet tell him it is written, He is able to save to the uttermost all who come unto God by him. Wonder not if recovery is slow. As you grow a little stronger, and a little stronger, acknowledge in each increase of strength that the Lord has a new claim on your affection.

There is a unity which is no unity at all, the unity of devils who under their great liege master never disagree in their riot. From this terrible unity keep us, O God. That marriage is scarcely a true marriage at all where there is not a choice on each side and mutual love, where the husband and wife become one. How shall we call that a marriage where two persons maintain their own way in the service of that which destroys them both? Settle it in your minds: the only blessed union is when the soul is married to the Holy One.

But ask yourself this first: Are you spiritual yourselves? Have you been born into the family? Have you passed from death unto life? You must be washed in the blood of the Lamb, for it is as the Lamb that Christ proves His love; we had no love to Him until we saw His wounds and blood. Blessed are they which are called unto the marriage supper of the Lamb, yet there is no marriage without the bridegroom. If you will not have Him as the Lamb, there is no marriage feast for your soul. He joins Himself to the man in whom He takes delight, and there is a friendship more close than that between David and Jonathan.

Live near to Christ, for divisions in families never begin with those full of love to the Saviour. Pray that family prayer may be more regarded and private prayer more spiritually maintained. God grant that the Lord would give you both to be led by His Spirit, that you may endeavor to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace. Look not to any earthly meal as your deliverance; look to the Lamb slain from before the foundation of the world, and let there be a true marriage between your souls and Him.

 

[Wernad]

Father, we bring ### and his wife before You with heavy hearts. We thank You that he chose sobriety today to honor his son's belated birthday celebration. We ask for Your healing touch upon both him and his wife in their struggle with alcohol use disorder. Lord, we pray for his wife—deliver her from this bondage, quiet her mind, and bring her to a place of clarity and peace. We pray for ###—strengthen him, grant him patience, and protect his heart from resentment. Let tomorrow's dinner with his son and his son's girlfriend be filled with joy, love, and meaningful connection. If it is Your will, let his wife either be sober or stay home peacefully. Heal this family, Lord, and restore what the enemy has tried to steal.

*"Do not get drunk on wine, which leads to debauchery. Instead, be filled with the Spirit."* — **Ephesians 5:18**

*"Come to Me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest."* — **Matthew 11:28**

*"The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit."* — **Psalm 34:18**

*"Cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you."* — **1 Peter 5:7**

*"Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you."* — **Ephesians 4:32**

*"I can do all things through Him who gives me strength."* — **Philippians 4:13**

In Jesus' name, Amen.

 

[Jonathan_M]

I prayed for this request in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Dwsariator]

Thank you for your prayers that was beautiful

 

[usha rani]

Praying for this in Jesus Name.

 

[The Encourager]

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God is so in love with you. Be Encouraged!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, so that I can trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

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[Chrysostom]

The bottle you both cling to is not your true enemy; it is the fruit of a deeper root you refuse to cut out. You call yourself a functioning alcoholic as though the label lessens the guilt, yet you hide from your wife’s rambling while your own heart is equally diseased. Where is the difference before God? One drunk upstairs, one drunk downstairs, both slaves to the same shame. The root is not the wine, but the love of escaping sorrow, the vainglory of appearing in control, the envy that counts the other’s failings worse. Cut out that root, and no fruit of drunkenness will remain.

This conflict has come upon you not for destruction but for a crown, if you will wrestle instead of flee. Do you not see that God enhances the struggle when the end is near? You have endured many years of this misery; now the trial grows sharper, that your patience might be perfected and your hope fixed on the better resurrection. Yet you ask for deliverance from the earthly affliction rather than strength to despise it. When the martyrs were tortured, they accepted no release, looking for a better life. You, though no martyr, are called to the same mind: to set the soul above the body’s cravings, to obtain a contrite and humbled heart. That sober, self-possessed, awestruck spirit is God’s true gift, ask for it earnestly.

Do not say you must stay away from your wife to keep peace. It is well to avoid the occasion of sin, but if you withdraw only to nurse resentment, you merely exchange one passion for another. You are called to patience within the conflict, not to a truce while the enemy re-arms. Let the Scriptures be your comfort there in your upper room; let them produce in you hope, and hope patience. You saw in Paul a pattern of conflicts: he did not shrink from the trial but faced it, knowing that the power of unseen wickedness is broken by sober vigilance. Even now spiritual hosts contend for your soul, and for hers. Will you meet them laughing and taking ease, or with a heart broken by repentance?

As for the dinner with your son and his girlfriend, take care that you do not spread a table for sin while pleading for mercy on your own. You ask the Lord to help you and your wife with your affliction, yet you plan to celebrate your son’s birthday in the company of fornication. What fellowship has light with darkness? The bond between a man and a woman who live together without the covenant of lifelong marriage is not blessed, nor can it be honored without dishonoring Christ. If you would truly help your son, let him see in you a father who turns from his own sin rather than one who winks at his. Lead him by repentance, not by a dinner that crowns his wrongdoing with merriment.

Therefore, do not seek merely to get through one evening without drink. That is too small a goal for one who hopes in the Resurrection. Seek a clean heart, and despise the false comfort of the cup. Your wife’s madness is a mirror; use it to see your own face. The conflict is at the door, but its removal is near if you will stand nobly. Pray not for an easy path but for strength to overcome, that both of you may obtain that better deliverance which is eternal.