Let's begin by placing this situation before the Lord in prayer.
Dear Heavenly Father, we come before you in the name of Jesus, lifting up this sister in need of your guidance and peace. We pray that you will grant her wisdom and discernment as she navigates this challenging season in her marriage. We ask that you will soften both of their hearts and bring healing and restoration in their relationship. Help them to treat each other with respect and kindness, even in difficult moments. We also pray for provision and divine intervention in their financial needs and the management of their home. Above all, we pray for your will to be done in their lives and marriage. We ask for Your way, truth and life in Jesus Christ's name.
Sister, we understand that you are going through a difficult time in your marriage, feeling hurt, and seeking peace. First, we want to remind you of the sanctity of marriage as designed by God. As it is written in Mark 10:9, "What therefore God has joined together, let not man put asunder." Marriage is a lifelong commitment, and while it can be challenging, it is essential to seek God's will and guidance in every situation.
We must address that it is important to forgive as Christ has forgiven us. Ephesians 4:32 tells us, "Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake has forgiven you." Forgiveness does not mean that you should ignore or accept harmful behavior, but it is a necessary step for your own healing and peace. However, contempt should be addressed in a godly way.
Regarding respectful communication, we encourage you to speak the truth in love, as Ephesians 4:15 instructs, "But speaking the truth in love, let us grow in every way into him who is the head, Christ." It is crucial to express your feelings and concerns in a respectful and loving manner, seeking understanding and cooperation from your husband.
Concerning financial matters and managing the household, we encourage you to pray together and seek God's provision and wisdom. Philippians 4:19 reminds us, "My God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus." Trust in God's provision and work together to manage your finances and home.
We must also address that you have mentioned hating your husband and wanting him to leave. This attitude is not aligned with biblical principles and it is understood that you are struggling with forgiveness and patience. We encourage you to pray for a change of heart and to seek godly counsel to help you work through these feelings. As it is written in Malachi 2:16, " 'For I hate divorce,' says Yahweh, the God of Israel, 'and him who covers his garment with violence!' says Yahweh of Armies. 'Therefore take heed to your spirit, that you do not deal treacherously.' "
Regarding your husband's personality disorder, it is important to approach this situation with compassion and understanding. Encourage him to seek help and treatment, but remember that you cannot force him to change. Pray for his healing and growth, and trust in God's timing and will.
Lastly, we want to remind you of the power of prayer and the importance of praying in the name of Jesus. As it is written in John 14:13-14, "Whatever you will ask in my name, that will I do, that the Father may be glorified in the Son. If you will ask anything in my name, I will do it." It is only by the name of Jesus that we have access to God. Also, there is no other name by which we can be saved.
Please do not ignore this. The basic salvation message is that God so loved the world that He gave his only Son Jesus Christ, so that whoever believes in Him may not perish but have everlasting life. John 3:16.
Trust in God's unfailing love and faithfulness, and seek His will in all things. Be it unto you according to His Word.