We come before the Lord with you in this time of deep struggle, lifting up your marriage, your husband, and your family in prayer. The enemy seeks to destroy what God has joined together, but we know that our God is a God of restoration, redemption, and miracles. Your marriage is under attack, but we stand firm on the promise that no weapon formed against you shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17). Let us first address the foundation of your request: you have invoked the name of Jesus, and that is where our authority and hope lie. There is no other name under heaven by which we can be saved or through which we can boldly approach the throne of grace (Acts 4:12, Hebrews 4:16). We praise God that you have called upon Him in the name of Jesus, for it is in His name that strongholds are broken and lives are transformed.
Your financial struggles are very real, and the stress they bring can feel overwhelming. Yet, we are reminded in Philippians 4:19, *"My God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus."* This is not a promise of luxury, but a promise that God will provide what you *need*. We encourage you to seek God’s wisdom in stewarding your finances. Proverbs 3:5-6 tells us, *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."* Have you and your husband sought godly counsel on budgeting, debt management, or even additional sources of income? Sometimes, God provides through practical steps of obedience and wisdom. We also urge you to tithe faithfully, even in lack, for Malachi 3:10 says, *"Bring the whole tithe into the storehouse, that there may be food in my house, and test me now in this,” says Yahweh of Armies, “if I will not open you the windows of heaven, and pour you out a blessing, that there will not be room enough for."* Trusting God with your finances is an act of faith that He honors.
Now, let us address the heart of your husband. His feelings of failure are weighing heavily on him, and he is turning to alcohol to numb the pain. This is a dangerous path, for Proverbs 20:1 warns, *"Wine is a mocker, and beer is a brawler. Whoever is led astray by them is not wise."* Alcohol cannot solve the problems it promises to dull—it only creates more. Your husband’s identity must not be rooted in his ability to provide but in Christ alone. He is a child of God, fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14), and his worth is found in Jesus, not his paycheck. We must pray for his heart to be renewed and for him to turn to God rather than the bottle. Ephesians 5:18 says, *"Don’t be drunken with wine, in which is dissipation, but be filled with the Spirit."* His strength must come from the Holy Spirit, not from anything else.
The tension in your home is affecting your children, and this breaks our hearts. Children are a heritage from the Lord (Psalm 127:3), and they deserve a home where God’s peace reigns. We must pray for your husband’s deliverance from alcohol and for the restoration of his role as the spiritual leader of your home. 1 Corinthians 16:13-14 says, *"Watch! Stand firm in the faith! Be courageous! Be strong! Let all that you do be done in love."* Your husband needs to stand firm in faith, not in drink, and lead your family in love and strength.
We also encourage you to examine your own heart. Are there ways you may have contributed to his feelings of inadequacy, even unintentionally? Colossians 4:6 says, *"Let your speech always be with grace, seasoned with salt, that you may know how you ought to answer each one."* Your words have power—are they building him up or tearing him down? Likewise, are you submitting to his leadership in a way that honors God, even in this difficult season? Ephesians 5:22-24 and 33 remind us, *"Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord... Nevertheless each of you must also love his own wife even as himself; and let the wife see that she respects her husband."* Respect and submission are not about superiority or control but about honoring the order God has established in marriage. Even in his struggle, your husband needs your respect and support, not your resentment or criticism.
Finally, we must address the spiritual state of your marriage. Are you and your husband praying together? Are you seeking God’s face as a couple? Matthew 18:19-20 says, *"Again, assuredly I tell you, that if two of you will agree on earth concerning anything that they will ask, it will be done for them by my Father who is in heaven. For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there I am in the middle of them."* There is power in united prayer. If your husband is unwilling to pray with you, then pray for him fervently. 1 Peter 3:1-2 encourages wives, *"In the same way, wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; so that, even if any don’t obey the Word, they may be won by the behavior of their wives without a word; seeing your pure behavior in fear."*
Now, let us pray together for you and your family:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up this sister and her marriage. Lord, You are the God who restores, who heals, and who redeems. We ask that You intervene in their financial struggles and provide for their every need according to Your riches in glory. Father, we rebuke the spirit of lack and debt in Jesus’ name, and we declare that You are their Provider. Give them wisdom to manage their finances in a way that honors You, and open doors of opportunity for additional income if it is Your will.
Lord, we pray for this husband’s heart. He is feeling like a failure, and the enemy is using this lie to drive a wedge between him and his family. Father, we break that lie in Jesus’ name. Remind him that his identity is in Christ alone, not in his ability to provide. Convict him of his reliance on alcohol and deliver him from this stronghold. Fill him with Your Holy Spirit, that he may lead his family in righteousness and love. Restore his confidence not in himself, but in You.
We pray for the children in this home, Lord. Protect their hearts and minds from the tension and strife. Let them see Your peace and love manifested in their parents. Raise them up to be mighty warriors for Your kingdom, even in the midst of this storm.
Father, we pray for unity in this marriage. Soften both hearts toward one another. Help this wife to speak words of life and encouragement to her husband. Help her to submit to his leadership in a way that honors You. Give her strength and patience as she trusts You to work in his heart. And Lord, draw this couple to their knees together. Let them seek Your face as one, that their marriage may be a testament to Your faithfulness.
We bind the enemy’s schemes against this family in Jesus’ name. No weapon formed against them shall prosper. We declare restoration, healing, and breakthrough over their finances, their marriage, and their home. Let Your will be done, Lord, and let Your name be glorified in their lives.
In the mighty and matchless name of Jesus we pray, Amen.
We encourage you to continue seeking God’s face daily, both individually and as a couple. Read Scripture together, pray together, and trust that God is working even when you cannot see it. If your husband is struggling with alcohol, we strongly urge you to seek help from your church or a biblical counselor. There is no shame in asking for support—God often works through His people. Stay steadfast, sister. God is faithful, and He will complete the work He has started in your marriage (Philippians 1:6). Keep believing, keep praying, and keep trusting in Him.
