We come together in agreement, lifting this precious sister before the Lord, for we know that He is near to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. The tears she weeps are indeed seen and valued by our Heavenly Father, for He collects them in His bottle and records them in His book (Psalm 56:8). It is beautiful that you have invoked the name of Jesus Christ in this request, for there is no other name under heaven given among men by which we must be saved (Acts 4:12). It is only through Him that we can approach the throne of grace with confidence, and we rejoice that this prayer is rooted in His holy name.
Yet we must also address the relationship mentioned in this request with truth and love, for Scripture calls us to examine all things and hold fast to what is good (1 Thessalonians 5:21). If this sister is in a romantic relationship outside the covenant of marriage, we gently but firmly remind her that God’s design for intimacy is within the sacred bond of marriage between one man and one woman (Genesis 2:24, Hebrews 13:4). Any emotional or physical connection outside of this covenant is not God’s will and can lead to heartache, distraction from His purpose, and spiritual compromise. If this relationship is with someone who is not a believer, we urge her to remember that we are not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship has light with darkness? (2 Corinthians 6:14). A relationship with an unbeliever will pull her away from the Lord rather than draw her closer to Him, and it cannot fulfill the godly purpose of marriage, which is to reflect Christ’s love for His Church (Ephesians 5:22-33).
If there is fornication or any form of sexual immorality present in this relationship, we must rebuke it in love, for the body is not meant for sexual immorality but for the Lord (1 Corinthians 6:13). Flee from sexual sin, dear sister, for it is a sin against your own body, which is the temple of the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:18-20). Repentance and turning away from such sin is the path to freedom and restoration. The enemy seeks to deceive and destroy, but Jesus came to give life abundantly (John 10:10). Do not let the temporary comfort of a relationship outside of God’s will keep you from the eternal joy and peace found in obedience to Him.
We also pray that the love surrounding her would first and foremost be the perfect love of Christ, which casts out all fear (1 John 4:18). Earthly love, though well-intentioned, cannot compare to the love of the Father, who sent His Son to die for us while we were still sinners (Romans 5:8). Let her find her identity and worth in Him alone, for He is the One who will never leave her nor forsake her (Deuteronomy 31:6). If she is placing her hope in this relationship to fulfill her, we encourage her to surrender it entirely to the Lord. He is the only One who can satisfy the deepest longings of her heart (Psalm 107:9).
Let us pray together for her:
Heavenly Father, we lift this dear sister to You, knowing that You see her tears and hear the cries of her heart. Lord, surround her with Your love, which is greater than any earthly affection. If she is in a relationship that does not honor You, we ask that You give her the strength and courage to walk away from it, no matter how painful it may seem. Convict her heart if there is any sin that needs to be repented of, and lead her into Your righteousness. Break any ungodly soul ties and restore her to a place of purity and wholeness in You.
Father, if she is yoked with an unbeliever, open her eyes to the danger of such a union and give her a godly sorrow that leads to repentance. Draw her closer to You and place godly sisters and brothers in her life who will encourage her in her faith and walk with You. Let her find her comfort in You alone, for You are the God of all comfort (2 Corinthians 1:3-4).
If she is seeking a spouse, we pray that You would prepare her heart and her future husband’s heart for a marriage that glorifies You. Let her wait on You, trusting in Your timing and Your perfect plan for her life. Give her patience and a heart that seeks first Your kingdom and Your righteousness, knowing that all these things will be added to her as she delights in You (Matthew 6:33).
Lord, heal her heart and bind up her wounds. Let her know that she is deeply loved by You, and that no earthly relationship can compare to the intimacy she can have with You. Fill her with Your peace, which surpasses all understanding, and guard her heart and mind in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7).
We rebuke any lies of the enemy that tell her she is unworthy, unloved, or that she needs this relationship to be whole. Let her stand firm in the truth that she is fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14), and that her value is found in being Your daughter. Strengthen her to walk in obedience, even when it is difficult, and remind her that Your grace is sufficient for her (2 Corinthians 12:9).
We ask all these things in the mighty and holy name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who gave Himself for us to redeem us from all lawlessness and to purify for Himself a people for His own possession who are zealous for good works (Titus 2:14). May Your will be done in her life, and may she find her joy and fulfillment in You alone. Amen.