We hear the deep anguish in your heart, sister, and we come before the throne of grace with you, lifting up your cry for healing and restoration. Your honesty about the struggle with lust, fantasy, and the feeling of being "broken" in your sexuality is not something to be ashamed of—it is the first step toward freedom. The enemy would love to keep you in chains of guilt and despair, whispering that you are too far gone, but Scripture declares that "if we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness" (1 John 1:9). You are not defined by your struggles, but by the blood of Jesus Christ, which covers all sin for those who repent and turn to Him.
First, we must address the reality of lust and sexual immorality in your heart. The Lord is clear that sexual purity is not just about outward actions, but about the heart: "You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery;’ but I tell you that everyone who gazes at a woman to lust after her has committed adultery with her already in his heart" (Matthew 5:27-28). This applies to all believers, regardless of gender. The fantasies and lustful thoughts you have entertained are not harmless—they are sin, and they grieve the Holy Spirit. But take heart, for "where sin abounded, grace abounded more exceedingly" (Romans 5:20). The same power that raised Christ from the dead is available to break every chain of bondage in your life.
We rebuke the spirit of perversion and confusion that has sought to distort God’s beautiful design for your sexuality. The Lord created you as a woman, fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14), with a capacity for love, intimacy, and devotion that is meant to be expressed within the covenant of marriage between one man and one woman. Anything outside of this design is a counterfeit, a lie from the enemy to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10). We declare that your mind, heart, and body belong to the Lord, and we pray that He would renew your mind according to His truth (Romans 12:2).
You mentioned feeling attraction to "anyone" and being "all over the place" in your sexuality. This is not God’s will for you. The Lord desires for you to have a pure heart and a steadfast spirit (Psalm 51:10), one that is fixed on Him and His purposes. The world may celebrate sexual fluidity and experimentation, but Scripture is clear: "Do not be deceived. Neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor male prostitutes, nor homosexuals, nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor slanderers, nor swindlers, will inherit the Kingdom of God" (1 Corinthians 6:9-10). This is not to condemn you, but to awaken you to the seriousness of these struggles and the need for repentance and transformation.
We encourage you to take practical steps to guard your heart and mind. Flee from temptation—avoid media, conversations, or environments that stir up lustful thoughts. Fill your mind with Scripture and godly counsel. "Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable; if there is any excellence, and if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things" (Philippians 4:8). Surround yourself with believers who will hold you accountable and pray for you. Confess your struggles to trusted sisters in Christ who can walk with you in this journey.
Most importantly, we pray that you would encounter the love of Jesus in a fresh and powerful way. You are not "corrupted in spirit" beyond repair—you are a daughter of the King, redeemed by His blood, and called to walk in purity and holiness. The Lord is not angry with you; He is grieved by the sin that has entangled you, but His heart is to restore you. "The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit" (Psalm 34:18).
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up our sister who is crying out for Your healing and deliverance. Lord, we thank You that she has come to You in honesty and humility, acknowledging her struggles and her need for Your grace. We ask that You would forgive her for every lustful thought, every fantasy, and every moment she has entertained sin in her heart. Wash her clean by the blood of Jesus, and create in her a clean heart, O God. Renew a right spirit within her.
Father, we rebuke every lie of the enemy that has told her she is broken, perverse, or beyond Your redemption. We declare that she is fearfully and wonderfully made, and that Your plans for her are for good and not for evil, to give her a future and a hope (Jeremiah 29:11). Break every chain of sexual immorality in her life, and set her free from the bondage of lust. Fill her with Your Holy Spirit, that she may walk in purity and holiness.
Lord, we ask that You would heal her heart and mind. Where there has been confusion, bring clarity. Where there has been shame, bring Your love and acceptance. Where there has been temptation, provide a way of escape (1 Corinthians 10:13). Surround her with godly friends and mentors who will encourage her in her walk with You. Give her a hunger for Your Word and a desire to know You more deeply.
Father, we pray for Your perfect will in her life regarding marriage. If it is Your plan for her to be a wife, prepare her heart to be a godly helpmeet to a man who loves You above all else. Teach her what it means to love as You intend—to love with purity, devotion, and selflessness. If singleness is Your plan for her, fill her with contentment and purpose, that she may serve You wholeheartedly.
Above all, Lord, we pray that she would know the depth of Your love for her. May she experience Your grace in such a way that she is forever changed, walking in the freedom and victory that is hers in Christ Jesus. We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus, the name above every name, the name by which we are saved and set free. Amen.
