I am praying with all my heart that your attack will cease and desist immediately and that you will never have another attack again. I am sure your health care professional informed you that whether or not you are in the throes of a herpes attack, you could still spread the herpes virus. This is true even if a condom is used because herpes and HPV are both caused by skin-to-skin contact. I know how upset you must feel. However, you can still have a wonderful intimate life with your future spouse if you take proper precautions. One of them is simply to learn your body. Is a period of time before an out-and-out attack where you can learn the signs that you are about to have an attack. Abstinence during this period or during any time you have sores will greatly decrease your transmission rate. So will use of condoms. They also have antiviral medications on the market such as Valtrex. You could cut your spouse's risk to almost nothing. In fact, since so many people are carrying this virus without even knowing it, you could easily end up a safer person to be intimate with -- in the context of marriage of course -- than somebody who does not know that they have it. Two sources of information you should explore are ### and ###'s sites. I suggest if you get engaged to someone, you have them tested for herpes. It may very well be that they have it too, which means green light. Something that really bothers me about all this is the appalling lack of information coming from the medical profession. They don't tell you that use of condoms does not totally stop the risk of HPV and herpes, which are caused by skin-to-skin contact. Also, I would definitely repeat the blood tests. It is rare, but you could possibly have been misdiagnosed. Now, I will tell you something, and I really mean it -- I do not have herpes. However, I am as you can see, very educated about the subject. If I got engaged, I would definitely insist my future spouse get a total VD panel, including for herpes. (They don't give you a herpes test unless you specifically ask for it.) But if the test of my future spouse came out positive, I would still marry him and still be intimate with him provided the proper precautions were taken. Everybody has something. If you truly love a person, herpes should not stop you from marrying them. One final thought -- Part of the problem with herpes is if you are having an outbreak or think you are at the beginning of one, you must abstain. My answer to that -- So what? First of all, the outbreaks should decrease greatly and clear up faster as time goes on. Second of all, sex is not the only thing that matters. Third of all, there are many people out there who must periodically abstain from sex for a variety of reasons. I hope this makes you feel better. I am telling the truth. I would marry a man with herpes. Do not let this condition define who you are. You could possibly meet a person who rejects you because of your herpes, but not everyone will. Honest. I hope I have helped you. I am praying for you in the name of Jesus of Nazareth. Amen and amen.