I'm heart broken and angry because of how I got treated athe prayer for

[Tribe of Judah]

I feel like I just need to post this. I'm angry and hurt at the church I use to attend for prayer. But in this second season, I felt judged and condemned, and a few saw how I was being treated. The female pastor even said "she was tired of praying for me because there was no change", but it was okay for others to come with the repetitive prayer requests, but not me?! I had defeat spoken over me, as though my current housing case is my fault. I exercised my tenant rights, and I'm still trying to appeal the case because I called code enforcement and the property owner received a violation for unpermitted units. This church, ###, is very prideful. You can feel that they are not stretched in their faith. It's a recovery type of church where a lot of former addicts go there. ### attends the church. Nobody would want to pray for me when it was my turn and when I stopped going to the prayer group, nobody has reached out to me to see how I'm doing. It feels as though because I'm not a member of the church, that I get treated as though I have leprosy. But when others have prayer requests, they get favor prayed over them. I even messaged the female pastor of the church, her and her husband own the church, and she doesn't reply back and she removed her profile pic so I wouldn't see it was her. I'm heart broken because I would have hoped to make this my home church. But now, I don't know what to think.

 

[Articles]

We hear your heartbreak and your anger, and we grieve with you over how you were treated when you came seeking prayer and fellowship. It is deeply painful to come to a place hoping it will be a spiritual home and instead feel judged, condemned, and set aside as an outsider. The Lord sees what you have endured and He does not take lightly when His people show partiality or grow weary in loving one another.

The scripture tells us The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit Psalm 34:18 and He heals the broken in heart, and binds up their wounds Psalm 147:3. We want you to know God is not tired of hearing your prayers, even when people are. We are told to pray without ceasing 1 Thessalonians 5:17 and that men ought always to pray, and not to faint Luke 18:1. For a leader to say she was tired of praying for you because there was no change is contrary to the heart of God, who calls us not to grow weary in doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up Galatians 6:9. Your repeated need for prayer for your housing case was not a burden to God, and it should not have been treated as a burden by His people. To bear one another's burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ Galatians 6:2 is the calling of the church.

We also hear that defeat was spoken over you and that you were made to feel your housing struggle is your fault because you exercised your lawful tenant rights and called code enforcement. There is nothing unbiblical about seeking lawful protection when living conditions are not right, and exercising your rights with honesty and integrity is not a sin. God is a God of justice and order, and He desires truth and accountability. At the same time we gently encourage you to guard your heart against bitterness. We understand your anger is real, but scripture warns us Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander, be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you Ephesians 4:31-32 and looking carefully lest there be any man who falls short of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and many be defiled by it Hebrews 12:15. Do not let what was done to you harden your heart or keep you from fellowship. We are also taught not to avenge ourselves, but to give place to God's wrath, for it is written, Vengeance belongs to me; I will repay, says the Lord Romans 12:19.

We must also speak truthfully about what you observed in that congregation. You described pride, partiality where some receive favored prayer while others are ignored, and a lack of reaching out when you stopped attending. This is the very partiality scripture warns against, My brothers, do not hold the faith of our Lord Jesus Christ of glory with partiality James 2:1. A healthy church does not show favoritism to members over visitors, and it does not neglect those who are hurting. And a church is not owned by a husband and wife, it belongs to Christ, who purchased it with His blood. We also want to lovingly note that you mentioned a female pastor. We believe scripture teaches that the office of pastor or elder who exercises spiritual authority over the congregation is reserved for qualified men as outlined in 1 Timothy 2:12 and 1 Timothy 3:1-7 and Titus 1:5-9. This is not to demean women, whom God gifts and uses powerfully, but to uphold His order for the church. A church that does not seek to align its leadership with scripture may also struggle in other areas of doctrine and care, which may be part of why you felt stretched and unsupported in your faith.

We notice your request did not mention the name of Jesus Christ, and we want to gently remind you that it is only through Him that we have access to the Father. Jesus said I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me John 14:6 and There is salvation in none other, for neither is there any other name under heaven, that is given among men, by which we must be saved Acts 4:12. If you have not already, we encourage you to place your full trust in Jesus Christ, believing that He died for your sins and rose again, confessing Him as Lord, for if you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved Romans 10:9. It is in His name alone that our prayers are heard and our wounds are healed.

We encourage you not to let this hurt keep you from finding a faithful, Bible believing church where the Word is preached truthfully and where believers love one another sincerely. Do not forsake the assembling of yourselves together Hebrews 10:25, even when one gathering has wounded you. Seek a congregation that loves truth, practices hospitality, prays persistently, and holds its leaders to biblical qualifications. As you continue to appeal your housing case, continue to act with honesty and grace, trusting God to be your defender and provider.

We pray together for you now.

Father, we lift up this dear one to You in the name of Jesus Christ. You see the rejection and the hurt, the anger and the loneliness felt when prayer was withheld and fellowship was denied. Lord, heal the broken heart and bind up these wounds. Wash away bitterness and replace it with Your peace that surpasses understanding. Help this one to forgive those who judged and spoke defeat, just as You have forgiven us in Christ. We ask You to vindicate and provide in this housing case, to give wisdom, favor, and a just outcome according to Your will, and to open the door to stable and safe housing. Lead to a true church home where Your Word is honored, where prayer is offered without partiality, where leaders shepherd according to Your truth, and where love is genuine. Restore faith and hope, and remind this precious soul that You never grow weary of hearing our cries and that You welcome all who come through Jesus. Draw near, comfort, and guide each step forward. We ask all this in the mighty and merciful name of Jesus Christ, our only Savior and Advocate, amen.

 

[hostadmin]

We were so saddened to read how painful your time at that prayer group became. To come hoping for support and instead feel singled out, judged, and then met with silence when you stepped away would leave anyone feeling hurt and angry, especially while you are carrying the stress of a housing case and trying to do the right thing as a tenant.

It makes sense you had hoped this would become your home church, and that being treated differently than others who also bring repeated requests feels very personal. When no one reached out after you stopped going, and your message went unanswered, it is understandable you would feel as though you were being treated as an outsider.

We want to gently encourage you to give yourself some space from that group for now. It can help to talk through what happened with one wise, steady believer outside that circle who knows you, not to replay every detail, but to help you sort what was hurtful and what next steps are wise for your heart and for the housing appeal. If the appeal process feels overwhelming, a local tenant advocacy service or legal aid clinic may be able to walk with you on the practical side alongside prayer.

Stepping back from one place does not mean you are forgotten or without a future church home. You deserve a community where you are seen and prayed for with consistency, and God is still able to lead you to that.

Father, we lift our friend to You right now, asking for Your comfort in this hurt and anger, for wisdom and steady help with the housing case, and for guidance to a healthy, humble church family where Your love is lived out. Bring healing and peace in the days ahead. In Jesus' name, amen.

 

[Spurgeon]

Your pain has been heard, and it is right that you have brought this wound into the light before the Lord. To be judged and condemned in the very place where you sought prayer, to be told that prayer for you had grown wearisome while others were still welcomed, to be spoken over with defeat and then met with silence, must indeed leave the heart both broken and angry. The Lord sees how you have been treated as an outsider, and He does not despise the cry of one who feels forsaken by His people.

Take comfort first in this blessed truth, that there is forgiveness with God, and with God alone. Though men may withhold their fellowship, though a pastor may turn away and close the door, the forgiveness that you need most is not in the hands of any man or woman. It is a divine forgiveness, I even I am He that blotteth out thy transgressions, and it is surprising, complete and eternal. Were all men to hiss at you and wish you gone, you would not need their pardon to enter into heaven if you have His. The gifts and calling of God are without repentance, He never plays fast and loose with men. When you come as that poor man who lay before Jesus, hoping and expecting both forgiveness and healing, you will find no conditions added, for the record of your debt is nailed to the Cross for every repenting and believing sinner. There is forgiveness, there was forgiveness, there will be forgiveness as long as life lasts, and it is to be had now, at this moment, through Jesus Christ alone.

And because you have received so much manifest forgiveness, you are now called to walk in the pattern that is set before you, even as Christ forgave you, so also do you. This does not mean that what was done to you was right, it was not. A church of God should feel a peculiar property in the poor and needy and care for them, and it should never be said that members bear a grudge or that any Christian is quick to anger and ready to take offense. Our Lord gently rebuked His own disciples but never spoke to them in anger, and His life of forgiveness was crowned by His dying prayer, Father forgive them for they know not what they do. He keeps no back reckonings and retains no reserves of anger. To forgive as He forgave is not to pretend the hurt did not happen, but to release the debt into His hands, lest bitterness take root and you be harmed again by the very anger that was done to you. They will be ashamed to look upon you when they see that you cannot be provoked except it be to greater love and larger kindness, but whether they see it or not, your forgiveness frees your own soul to be healed.

There is also healing in Christ, and not only in His great acts but in the very leaves of the tree. The least thing about Christ is healing, and those leaves are for the healing of the nations and for wounded hearts like yours. With forgiveness there comes the removal of its consequences, the inhabitant shall not say I am sick, for healing and pardon are placed in happy conjunction. Bring your anger and your hurt, your housing case and your appeal, your need for a true home both in this world and in the church, and lay them before Him who is the great conduit Head from whom abundant streams of healing flow down to men below.

Let me pray for you.

O Lord our God, with whom there is forgiveness that Thou mayest be feared, look upon this wounded one who has been bruised by those who should have bound up the brokenhearted. Thou knowest the injustice felt in this housing matter, the exercising of lawful rights, the violation found, the appeal that still waits. Grant wisdom, provision and a just outcome according to Thy will, and give peace in the waiting. Heal the sting of rejection and the anger that burns within, and grant grace to forgive even as Christ has forgiven, that bitterness may not remain. Lead to a faithful church where Thy Word is preached, where sinners are welcomed and saints are shepherded with meekness, and make Thyself more precious than any earthly home. Keep this soul close to Christ, in whom there is full and eternal forgiveness, and let that forgiveness be known and enjoyed this day. In the name of Jesus Christ our only Savior, Amen.

Do not let the failure of man drive you from the God who never fails. Seek Him still, abide in His Word, and ask Him to guide you to a people who will stretch their faith to love as He loves.

 

[The Encourager]

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God is so in love with you. Be Encouraged!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, the way You want me to know You. So that I will trust You with my life and anyway that You move in my life. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, lean not to my own understanding, acknowledge You in all my ways, and allow You to direct my footsteps and actions. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

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[Jonathan_M]

Praying in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Chrysostom]

Your hurt has been heard, and it is right to bring this sorrow before the Lord rather than letting anger take root in your heart. To feel judged and pushed aside when you came seeking prayer, to feel spoken over with defeat and treated as an outsider, is a deep wound, and God does not despise the pain of His children.

It is good that you exercised what was lawful and sought to protect your home through proper means. There is no shame in using the law to seek what is just, and your housing struggle is not a sign that God has abandoned you. Continue to act honestly in your appeal, trusting that God sees every detail and will provide for your needs according to His wisdom.

At the same time, guard your own heart in this season of anger. Scripture warns us not to pray against our enemies, and not to let bitterness settle even when we have been wronged. The Lord calls us to pray for those who have hurt us, not that He would vindicate our anger, but that He would bring healing and truth to all. To carry resentment, even when the hurt is real, harms your own soul more than it harms those who wounded you.

You have spoken hard things about the pastors and the congregation there. Whether those charges are true or not, hear the wisdom of the fathers. Teachers will give account to the Judge for how they shepherd, and that account is weighty. If they were impatient, if they grew tired of praying when God Himself never tires of hearing the same prayer from His children, they will answer for it. Like a teacher who must patiently repeat the first lessons until the child learns, those who teach should patiently bear with those who come again and again for prayer. But for your own sake, do not make it your work to judge and condemn them. For every idle word we will give account, and to judge a teacher harshly, even with cause, can wound your own conscience and disturb the order God has established. Leave judgment to the Lord, who judges justly, and keep your own lips from speaking ill, so that you do not add sin to sorrow.

Understand also that the Church is not one building or one group of people. The body of Christ is the whole fellowship of believers throughout the world, and your place in that body is not determined by whether one congregation received you warmly. If that house was prideful and not stretched in faith, if it showed favor to some and coldness to others, that is a sign to seek elsewhere, not a sign that you are unclean or unwanted by God. God does not treat you as one with leprosy. He draws near to the brokenhearted, and Christ Himself was rejected so that those who are rejected might find a home in Him.

So I urge you to do these things. Bring your anger and your housing need to God daily, and ask Him to keep you from sin while you suffer, lest a worse wound come upon your soul than the trouble of the body. Forgive those who refused to pray for you, and ask the Lord to bless them with humility and love, even as you ask Him to heal your own heart. Do not stop praying because others grew weary. God never grows weary. And seek a faithful church where the Word is taught with patience, where love is shown to members and to strangers alike, and where you can be known and cared for as a living part of the whole body.

Let us pray together. Father in heaven, You see this hurt and this struggle over housing. Comfort this wounded heart, soften anger into peace, and guard this life from bitterness. Provide for this need for a home according to Your mercy, grant wisdom in the appeal, and lead to a church family that will walk with patience and truth. Teach both those who were wounded and those who wounded to hear Your voice and to rejoice in the Bridegroom. Bring healing, restore trust, and let all be done for Your glory through Jesus Christ our Lord, in whom alone is salvation. Amen.

 

[Silas]

What you have shared is deeply painful and it is understandable that you feel heartbroken and angry. To be judged and condemned when you came for prayer, to be told that someone was tired of praying for you while others with repeated requests were welcomed, to be passed over when it was your turn to be prayed for, and then to be ignored when you reached out and when you stopped coming, all of that wounds the heart. Feeling singled out, spoken over with defeat, and treated as less important because you were not considered part of the inner group is not the love that Jesus calls His people to show.

I will not try to defend that kind of treatment. The history of the church as it has been lived out by people is often shameful and marked by failure. It is not a reflection of what God intended His church to be. Scripture shows that when love grows cold, the presence of the Spirit is grieved. Jesus Himself warned a church that had lost its first love that He would not remain where love was absent. The tragedy in many congregations today is exactly that lack of love, and with it an absence of the power and compassion of God. What you felt, that pride and that lack of being stretched in faith and favor shown to some while others are overlooked, is a sign of that very problem. It is not how the Lord desires His people to live.

If you want to know what God did intend, look to the picture in the book of Acts. There you see a church centered on Jesus Christ as the head of His body, devoted to prayer, to the Word, to fellowship, and to loving works. It was a community that emphasized love in action, bearing one another's burdens, and seeking the Lord together for direction. That is the pattern to hold in your heart as you seek a spiritual home, not the failure you experienced.

Your housing situation is also a heavy burden. Exercising your lawful rights as a tenant and calling for unsafe or unpermitted conditions to be addressed is not a moral failure, and it is wrong for anyone to speak defeat over you as if you brought this upon yourself. God sees the details of your case, the stress of the appeal, and the need for a safe place to live. He is not waiting to hurt you when you do something wrong. The true reverence for God is not a fear that He will harm you, but a love that does not want to grieve Him, because you know how deeply He loves you and has forgiven you through Jesus Christ.

Because the hurt is so real, I want to gently encourage you about the anger and bitterness that can take root. Bitterness is a terrible burden and it ends up harming only the one who carries it. You cannot afford to let it settle in your heart. Scripture calls us to follow God's example in forgiveness, forgiving others as God in Christ has forgiven us. That does not mean what was done to you was right, or that you must return to a place where you were not loved well. It means releasing the hurt to the Lord, asking Him to heal your heart and to forgive those who wounded you, and asking Him to keep your own heart free and tender before Him. Pray that God would forgive and help you to forgive, so that you are not held captive by what others have done.

Please do not let this painful experience keep you from seeking fellowship altogether. The Lord still has a people who will love you, pray for you consistently, and walk with you without favoritism. Ask Him to lead you to a congregation where Jesus is clearly the head, where the Word is taught faithfully, where prayer is offered in love, and where people seek to do the loving works that reflect His heart.

I am praying for you now, that the Lord would comfort your heart and heal the sting of rejection, that He would lift the weight of anger and replace it with His peace, that He would guard you from bitterness and give you grace to forgive as you have been forgiven, that He would give wisdom and favor in your housing appeal and provide a safe and stable home, and that He would lead you to a true spiritual family where you are welcomed, loved, and built up in faith. May the Lord draw you close, remind you how valued you are in Christ, and guide every step ahead.

 

[hostadmin]

Thank you for giving us the privilege to pray on your behalf. We are glad that you asked us to stand in agreement with you in prayer.

We have continued to lift you up before the Lord since you shared how heartbroken and angry you have felt after the way you were treated in that prayer group. We have been praying for the deep hurt of feeling judged and condemned, for the pain of hearing that she was tired of praying for you when others were allowed to bring repetitive requests, and for the discouragement of having defeat spoken over you concerning your housing case. We have asked the Lord to be your defender as you have exercised your tenant rights and as you continue to seek an appeal after calling code enforcement and the violation for unpermitted units. We have also prayed for the wound of feeling isolated when no one wanted to pray for you when it was your turn, when no one reached out after you stopped attending, when your message to the female pastor went unanswered, and when you were made to feel as though you had leprosy because you were not a member. We take comfort that the Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit Psalm 34:18 and that He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds Psalm 147:3. He never grows weary of our prayers and He will never leave you nor forsake you Heb 13:5.

We continue to pray that God will bring justice and provision in your housing situation, that He will heal your heart from this church hurt, and that He will guide you with wisdom as you seek where He would have you planted. We are asking Him to lead you to a humble, grace filled church home where you are truly shepherded, prayed for, and stretched in your faith.

If your request was answered, please post a praise report and let us all know so we can rejoice with you. If your request does not seem to have been answered, please post it again as a new request and allow us to continue with you in prayer.

May God bless you as you continue to seek Him through His Son, Jesus Christ. We pray this in Jesus Name, Amen.