We have heard your cry and we are standing with you in prayer over this very serious and painful situation with your biological father. What you are describing is not a small family conflict, but a pattern of sin that puts your life and well being in danger, and we take that very seriously before the Lord.
We want to address first how he is using Exodus 20:12 to justify his actions. That verse says Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land which Yahweh your God gives you. Exodus 20:12. This command is about children showing respect and care, it is never a license for a father to harm, steal from, deceive, or attempt to murder his child. To use it that way is a twisting of God's Word. In fact God gives a direct command to fathers, Fathers, don't provoke your children to wrath, but nurture them in the discipline and instruction of the Lord. Ephesians 6:4 and again Fathers, don't provoke your children, so that they won't be discouraged. Colossians 3:21. A father is called to protect and nurture, not to provoke, gaslight, or destroy.
What you describe, intentionally trying to make harm look accidental, wishing you ill and jinxing you, stealing your things, turning off your fridge to spoil your food, gaslighting and sabotaging your personal projects, are all contrary to God's commands. God says You shall not murder. Exodus 20:13 and You shall not steal. Exodus 20:15 and Yahweh detests lying lips. Proverbs 12:22. To curse or wish ill on another is also sin, for we are told Bless those who persecute you; bless, and don't curse. Romans 12:14 and Love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who mistreat you and persecute you. Matthew 5:44. We rebuke these actions in the name of Jesus, they are wicked and they grieve the heart of God, and your father will be accountable to God for them. Vengeance belongs to God, as it is written Vengeance is mine; I will repay, says the Lord. Romans 12:19, so we must not take revenge ourselves but trust God to bring justice and conviction.
We also hear that you are trying to honor God by praying for him even while you are being hurt, and that is Christlike. At the same time, honoring your father does not mean remaining in danger or allowing abuse to continue. God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. Psalm 46:1 and He who dwells in the secret place of the Most High will rest in the shadow of the Almighty. I will say of Yahweh, He is my refuge and my fortress; my God, in whom I trust. Psalm 91:1-2. If your life is being threatened or you are being harmed, we strongly encourage you to seek safety right away. Please reach out to a trusted pastor, a mature Christian leader, other safe family members, and where there is danger to your life or property, to the proper authorities. If you are living in the same home, please seek a safe place to stay and do not be alone with him when he is threatening. Document what is happening, keep your food and belongings as secure as you can, and seek godly counsel and wise help for boundaries. Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit. Psalm 34:18. You do not have to carry this alone.
We are also concerned for your father's soul and mind. You shared he cannot sleep and is very sick mentally. That is a sign he needs both spiritual and practical help. We will pray for his repentance, healing and deliverance, and we encourage that he be urged toward professional help and pastoral counseling if he is willing, but only in a way that keeps you safe. Only God can change a heart, and we pray He will convict him deeply of his sin and bring him to true repentance.
We lift you both before the Father now together.
We pray, Father in heaven, in the name of Jesus Christ our Lord, we come to You for our brother or sister who is suffering under these plots and deceptions. Lord, You see every hidden act, every attempt to harm and make it look accidental, every stolen item, every lie and manipulation, and nothing is hidden from Your eyes. We ask You to be a wall of protection around Your child. Cover them with Your presence, guard their body, their mind, their food, their home and their work. Give them wisdom to set godly boundaries and to find safe refuge, and bring trustworthy people around them who will help and advocate for them. Heal their heart from fear and confusion, and give them Your perfect peace and sound sleep, for You give sleep to Your beloved. Cast all your worries on him, because he cares for you. 1 Peter 5:7.
We also lift this father to You, Lord. We ask that You convict him of his sin, that You break through the hardness, anger, deceit and illness in his mind. Forgive him and lead him to repentance, Lord, that he may turn from murderous thoughts, theft, cursing and gaslighting, and be transformed by Your mercy. Heal his body and mind, restore his sleep, and bring him to soundness and truth. We pray that You would remove any influence of evil cursing or ill wishing and let Your light expose every dark plot. Bring him to the knowledge of Jesus Christ, for there is no other name by which we can be saved and have access to You. We ask that if he refuses to repent, You will restrain his hands from further harm and bring justice according to Your perfect will.
Lord, teach our dear one how to honor You above all, to obey You rather than men when obedience to a parent would mean enduring sin against them, and to walk in forgiveness without returning to danger. Help them to love their enemy through prayer while also walking in wisdom and truth. Let them know how deeply You love them and that You will never leave them nor forsake them. We trust You as our refuge and fortress.
We ask all this in the mighty and saving name of Jesus Christ, our only hope and our peace. Amen.