We hear the deep pain and frustration in your words, and our hearts ache with you. It is clear that you are wrestling with profound disappointment—perhaps even anger—toward God, and we want to meet you in that place with truth and love. The longing you express for companionship, fulfillment, and purpose is not wrong in itself; God designed us for relationship, for love, and for marriage. But the path you are considering—turning away from Christ to pursue what you desire—is a dangerous and destructive one. We must address this with both tenderness and firmness, for your soul is at stake.
First, let us remind you that God is not a withholder of good things. The Bible tells us, *"No good thing does he withhold from those who walk uprightly"* (Psalm 84:11). If you are not experiencing the desires of your heart, it is not because God is incapable or unwilling, but because His timing, His ways, and His plans are higher than ours. To walk away from Him in pursuit of what you want is to exchange the eternal for the temporary, the perfect will of God for the fleeting satisfaction of sin. The enemy would love nothing more than to deceive you into believing that God’s ways are insufficient, but we declare that His ways are life, and His commands are for your good.
You mention being "unequally yoked" and singleness as burdens you no longer wish to bear. We understand the loneliness and the ache for marriage, but let us be clear: marriage is a sacred covenant, not a right to be demanded. If you are considering entering into a relationship that is not with a fellow believer, or worse, abandoning your faith altogether to pursue a relationship outside of God’s design, you are stepping into spiritual danger. The Bible warns, *"Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14). To ignore this is to invite heartache, spiritual compromise, and separation from God. Is any relationship worth that cost?
And what of singleness? It is not a curse, nor is it a sign of God’s neglect. The apostle Paul, who was single, wrote, *"I wish that all men were as I am. But each man has his own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that"* (1 Corinthians 7:7). Singleness is an opportunity to serve God without distraction, to grow in intimacy with Him, and to trust Him to write your story. If you are not content in this season, it is not because God has failed you, but because your heart has not yet found its rest in Him. Marriage will not fix that emptiness—only Christ can.
You say that Christ is "unable to provide" for what you want. This is a lie from the enemy. God is able. He is the giver of every good and perfect gift (James 1:17), and He knows the desires of your heart better than you do. But He also knows what is best for you, and His "no" or "not yet" is not a rejection—it is protection. To turn to other gods, other philosophies, or other relationships to fulfill what only God can give is idolatry. And idolatry always leads to destruction. *"For my people have committed two evils: they have forsaken me, the spring of living waters, and dug out cisterns for themselves, broken cisterns that can hold no water"* (Jeremiah 2:13). Do not trade the living water of Christ for the dry, cracked cisterns of the world.
We must also address the gravity of your words: *"If it means to leave Christianity to get what I wanted, I will do so."* This is not a small thing. To walk away from Christ is to walk away from salvation, from forgiveness, from eternal life. Jesus said, *"I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me"* (John 14:6). There is no other name under heaven by which we must be saved (Acts 4:12). If you abandon Him, you abandon your only hope. The things of this world—relationships, pleasures, even marriage—will fade, but Christ remains. Do not sacrifice eternity for a momentary desire.
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts for our brother/sister who is struggling. Lord, You see the pain, the longing, the frustration, and the temptation to turn away from You. We ask that You would break through the lies of the enemy and reveal Yourself as the only true source of fulfillment. Father, we rebuke the spirit of discontentment and rebellion that is whispering in their ear. We declare that You are enough, that Your plans are good, and that Your timing is perfect.
Lord, we ask that You would soften their heart and open their eyes to see the beauty of Your ways. If there is unconfessed sin, bitterness, or unforgiveness in their heart, reveal it to them and lead them to repentance. Restore their hope in You, and remind them that You are a God who sees, who hears, and who answers prayer. Father, we pray for godly contentment in this season, whether in singleness or in waiting for a spouse. Help them to trust You with their deepest desires and to seek You above all else.
We also pray for protection over their heart and mind. Guard them from the deception of the enemy and from the allure of relationships or paths that would lead them away from You. Surround them with believers who will speak truth, pray for them, and walk alongside them. Lord, we ask that You would make Your presence known to them in a tangible way. Let them feel Your love, Your peace, and Your nearness. Remind them that You are the only One who can truly satisfy their soul.
And if they have not yet surrendered their life to You, Jesus, we pray that today would be the day. Open their eyes to see their need for a Savior, and draw them to Yourself. We ask all of this in the mighty name of Jesus, the name above every name, the only name by which we are saved. Amen.
Friend, we urge you not to make a decision in the heat of pain or frustration. The enemy wants you to act impulsively, to walk away from God in a moment of anger, but we beg you to pause and seek Him. Run *to* Christ, not away from Him. Pour out your heart to Him—He can handle your honesty. Tell Him how you feel, but also ask Him to show you His heart. Spend time in His Word, in prayer, and in fellowship with other believers who can encourage you.
If you are struggling with sexual sin, lust, or the temptation to pursue relationships outside of God’s design, we urge you to repent and seek accountability. The Bible says, *"Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body"* (1 Corinthians 6:18). God’s boundaries are not meant to restrict you—they are meant to protect you. Do not trade the joy of obedience for the temporary pleasure of sin.
And if you are feeling distant from God, remember that He has not moved. He is near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18). Come to Him just as you are, and let Him heal your wounds. The Christian life is not a life of ease, but it is a life of purpose, of hope, and of eternal reward. Do not give up. Do not walk away. The best is yet to come, and God is faithful to complete the work He has begun in you (Philippians 1:6).
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
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