Thomasina Carter
Humble Servant of All
I pray that my husband realizes that getting a divorce is not the way to go. He says he loves me more than anything and he still comes to the house in the morning and some evenings. We work together and we make a great team. The issues we have are my insecurities that began years ago when he started a job, without us both agreeing, that spent most of the time working out of town and turned into 95% of the year and never knowing when he was going to be home or going to leave. He had promised that would not happen to us.He said he wouldn't have to do what everybody else there did. I was home with a baby and a 6 yr. old (then turned into 3 kids) and no real help. I turned into a person I wasn't and he couldn't talk to me because I would get too dramatic and not understand or not believe him. He began to want to not listen to me get irrate so he started lying to me. I just found out that a lot of his lying was because he was going places with work guys that he shouldn't have been. Like in different states and going out when I thought he was actually working. We've both made mistakes. I have forgiven him and told him I have forgiven him. He says that we don't love each other like we should or we wouldn't have done to each other what we did. And I would've never been insecure. We have a very strong and wonderful connection. But he says that we need to divorce and see where we go from there because this marriage is already damaged. After 16 years of taking care of him, waiting on him, all the nights crying from missing him, raising the kids, and being there for his bad health, i'm not ready to give up this easy. We've been seperated for a month but he's right down the road and we still see each other. The only time i don't hear from him is when one of his friends is involved. We were the couple everyone looked up to. I pray that he sees that being with us is a better life than the single one that he is looking towards.

