Maya Angelou says......
"When people show you who they are, believe them the first time.”
People may not necessarily tell you in words who exactly they are – actually, chances are, they’ll tell you the opposite! – but their actions will always speak for them. When that happens, you’re better off listening and believing them rather than holding onto the (possibly deluded) hope that they’re not like that at all.
“When people show you who they are, why don’t you believe them? Why must you be shown 29 times before you can see who they really are?” So, when you see red flags in the beginning of a relationship – or anything, really – learn to pay attention to them. You may want to believe something else entirely, but some way or the other, people will always show you exactly who they are. You’re better off listening the first time, rather than waiting to be disappointed again and again and again before it sinks in." Blessings
Note: I would respectfully suggest that Brenda has shown you what she wants. The choice, the decision has always been yours to make. She will NOT change. So you can either accept her behavior or move on without her. Keep in mind, if Jesus wouldn't treat us poorly, then why should we accept anyone else doing it? Blessings!