We hear the deep pain and despair in your words, and our hearts ache with you. The humiliation, degradation, and financial struggles you’re enduring are not what God intends for His children. Scripture tells us in Psalm 34:18-19, *"The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit. Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but the Lord delivers him out of them all."* You are not forgotten, and your suffering does not go unnoticed by the Lord.
First, we must address the relationship you mentioned with the man you are seeing. The way he treats you—mocking, degrading, and leaving you to walk home in the cold—is not love, nor is it the behavior of a godly man. Scripture is clear in Ephesians 5:25, *"Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself up for it."* A man who truly loves you will honor, protect, and provide for you, not belittle or mistreat you. The fact that you tolerate this treatment because of the shame your mother has inflicted on you is heartbreaking. You deserve to be cherished, not used or humiliated. We rebuke the spirit of degradation and mistreatment over your life in the name of Jesus. You are a daughter of the King, and no one has the right to treat you as less than that.
The situation with your parents is also deeply troubling. While we understand that family dynamics can be complex, the Bible calls us to honor our parents (Exodus 20:12), but it does not condone abuse, neglect, or favoritism. Your mother’s refusal to help you, despite her ability to do so, is not only hurtful but also contrary to the love and provision God calls parents to extend to their children. Proverbs 22:6 says, *"Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it."* Parents are called to nurture, guide, and support their children, not shame or abandon them. We pray that God would soften her heart and open her eyes to the pain she is causing. However, we also encourage you to seek godly counsel, perhaps through a pastor or trusted Christian mentor, to navigate this relationship with wisdom and boundaries.
Your desire for marriage and motherhood is beautiful and aligns with God’s design. Genesis 2:18 tells us, *"The Lord God said, 'It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make him a helper comparable to him.'" God created marriage to be a blessing, a partnership rooted in love, respect, and mutual submission. But we must warn you: entering into marriage with a man who does not honor God or treat you with dignity will only bring more pain. We urge you to end this relationship with the man who mocks you and seek a man who fears the Lord, loves you sacrificially, and is willing to commit to you in marriage. Proverbs 18:22 says, *"Whoever finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor of the Lord."* But this favor comes when we seek God’s will and wait for His timing.
Your financial struggles are real, and we do not take them lightly. The loss of your job, the lack of transportation, and the inability to find work are heavy burdens. But we serve a God who provides. Philippians 4:19 says, *"My God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus."* We pray that God would open doors for employment, provide reliable transportation, and meet your needs in ways you cannot imagine. We also encourage you to seek out local resources—churches, community programs, or even temporary work—that might help bridge the gap until God provides a long-term solution. Do not lose hope; God sees your struggle and is working even when you cannot see it.
We must also address the absence of Jesus in your request. Salvation and access to God come only through faith in Jesus Christ. John 14:6 says, *"Jesus said to him, 'I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me.'" Acts 4:12 also declares, *"There is salvation in none other, for neither is there any other name under heaven, that is given among men, by which we must be saved."* If you have not surrendered your life to Jesus, we urge you to do so. He is the only one who can heal your broken heart, restore your dignity, and give you the future you long for. Confess your sins, believe in His death and resurrection, and invite Him to be the Lord of your life. Only then will you experience the fullness of God’s love and provision.
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this precious daughter who is enduring so much pain, humiliation, and struggle. Lord, You see her tears, You hear her cries, and You know the desires of her heart. We ask that You would wrap Your arms around her and remind her of her worth in You. Father, break the chains of degradation and mistreatment in her life. Give her the strength to walk away from relationships that do not honor You or her. Provide for her needs—employment, transportation, and stability—according to Your riches in glory.
Lord, we pray for her family. Soften the hearts of her parents, especially her mother, that they may see the pain they have caused and repent. Give this daughter wisdom and grace to navigate these relationships with boundaries and dignity. Father, we ask that You would bring a godly man into her life—a man who loves You and will love her as Christ loves the church. Prepare her heart for marriage, and let her trust in Your timing.
Most of all, Lord, we pray that she would come to know You intimately. Draw her to Yourself, that she may find her identity, worth, and hope in You alone. Heal her broken heart, restore her joy, and lead her into the abundant life You have promised. We rebuke every spirit of shame, poverty, and oppression in the name of Jesus. Let Your light shine in her darkness, and let her walk in the freedom and victory that is hers through Christ. In Jesus’ mighty name, we pray. Amen.
You are not alone in this. God sees you, loves you, and is working on your behalf. Cling to Him, trust in His promises, and do not settle for less than His best. The road ahead may be difficult, but He is faithful, and He will not abandon you.
