I am in need of discernment... I have been single...

[u2dlsssim]

I am in need of discernment...

I have been single for ### years... after a string of abusive relationships and then settling for a man because "at least he wasn't abusive", BUT he wasn't for me. I have taken the past ### years to work on MYSELF, to change my career, to get closer to God, etc.

I recently met someone... unexpected. He asked if he could call me, I told him that he could, and I had ### reasons I was planning on giving him as to why we shouldn't see each other. He could tell I was guarded and spent ### hours telling me about himself. He blew me away. I felt what he said was genuine. I didn't realize until that phone call that I would like to begin a relationship with someone, a healthy relationship. I was excited. I was thankful that we met.

Then... I started to get nervous. He has a lot going on in his life... He works ### jobs, his mother recently had a stroke and is in rehab, he is moving out of his house into his mother's to care for her, his ### year old son just moved to FL to live w/ his mother, and his daughter is in her senior year of college. Even though I KNOW he has all of this going on -- I still am afraid of beginning a relationship with this man.

I don't know if my fear is because this is new... or if this isn't right.

I also know I can't have faith and fear at the same time...

 

[Articles]

May God hear your request and grant it according to his will. In Jesus Name, Amen.

 

[w8onhim]

Father you said if we seek first the kingdom of God and your righteousness. That all things would be added unto us. I pray father that ### would set her affections on you. For you said if we would delight ourselves in the Lord you would grant us the desires of our heart. I pray father as ### seeks you that you would grant ### a husband. For you said marriage is honorable. In Jesus name I pray Amen

 

[Angle]

I prayed for this. In Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Letthesunshinein]

MAY GOD HEAR YOUR PRAYER AND BLESS THE DESIRES OF YOUR HEART. MAY GOD REMOVE FEAR FROM YOU AND FILL YOU WITH STRENGTH, WISDOM, AND DISCERNMENT. MAY GOD GIVE YOU A SIGN OF WHOM YOUR FUTURE SPOUSE WILL BE. MAY GOD BLESS ALL YOUR NEEDS AND THE NEEDS OF OTHERS WHO ARE CONNECTED TO YOU.

IN JESUS NAME AND ACCORDING TO GOD'S WILL BLESS THIS WOMAN OF GOD.

MAY GOD HEAR YOUR PRAYER AND BLESS THE DESIRES OF YOUR HEART. MAY GOD REMOVE FEAR FROM YOU AND FILL YOU WITH STRENGTH, WISDOM, AND DISCERNMENT. MAY GOD GIVE YOU A SIGN OF WHOM YOUR FUTURE SPOUSE WILL BE. MAY GOD BLESS ALL YOUR NEEDS AND THE NEEDS OF OTHERS WHO ARE CONNECTED TO YOU.

IN JESUS NAME AND ACCORDING TO GOD'S WILL BLESS THIS WOMAN OF GOD.

 

[Eugene]

You know, I have a lot of healthy relationships because I always seek to help others in whatever area, and support them whenever I can. It is not what I get out of this, it is what I can give. So why can't you just be friends, and give him good support, especially seeing that he has so much going on in life.

Let me give you a good advice on how to avoid abusive relationships in the future. Just make a stand for wholesome purity, for Christ, tell them you are a Christian, and are not interested in sensual, non-committed relationships, that only brings emptiness and devastation in life. Tell them you are keeping yourself pure for marriage. That's what I do.

The fact that he already has a son does not look very encouraging, because marriage is supposed to be a lifetime commitment. If it didn't work once, it probably won't work again. Sorry dear..

Seek the Lord, He will show the way. Open the Word, and read it as if it is written to you, right on your situation, and may the Lord guide you.