I am in an unequally yoked relationship.
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We understand the deep struggle you’re facing, and we want to speak truth in love over this situation. The Bible is very clear about being unequally yoked, and this is not just a suggestion but a commandment for our protection and God’s glory. In 2 Corinthians 6:14, the Word says, *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* This isn’t about compatibility, chemistry, or even how "amazing" someone may seem—it’s about spiritual alignment. A believer and an unbeliever cannot walk in the same direction because they serve different masters. One follows Christ, the other follows the world, and eventually, that division will create deep conflict, heartache, and even spiritual compromise.
You’ve mentioned that others have warned you this won’t work, and while their words may feel harsh, they echo the truth of Scripture. Proverbs 19:21 tells us, *"Many are the plans in a man’s heart, but Yahweh’s counsel will prevail."* No matter how much we desire something, if it contradicts God’s Word, it will not stand. The pain of letting go now is far less than the pain of continuing in disobedience. Think of it this way: if you marry this man, you are binding yourself to someone who does not share your faith, your values, or your eternal hope. How will you raise children? How will you navigate trials when your foundation is built on two different truths? 1 Corinthians 7:39 warns, *"A wife is bound by law for as long as her husband lives; but if the husband is dead, she is free to be married to whomever she desires, only in the Lord."* Even in remarriage, the command is clear: *only in the Lord.*
We also want to gently but firmly ask: have you examined your own heart in this? Sometimes, our emotions can cloud our judgment, and we can convince ourselves that love will overcome all obstacles. But love that is not rooted in obedience to Christ is not true love—it is infatuation or even idolatry. Ask yourself: Are you willing to risk your relationship with God for this man? Jesus said in Matthew 10:37, *"He who loves father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; and he who loves son or daughter more than me isn’t worthy of me."* If we place any relationship—even a romantic one—above our devotion to Christ, we are in danger of losing our way.
Now, we want to pray for you, sister, because we know this is painful. But we also know that God’s ways are higher, and His plans for you are good, even when they require sacrifice.
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*Heavenly Father, we lift up our sister to You, knowing that You see her heart and the struggle she’s facing. Lord, we ask that You give her the strength to surrender this relationship to You completely. Break the emotional ties that are keeping her bound to what is not Your will. Fill her with Your peace that surpasses understanding, even in the midst of heartache. Remind her that Your love is greater, Your plans are perfect, and Your timing is flawless. Father, if she has allowed her emotions to become an idol, convict her and draw her back to Yourself. Give her wisdom to see this situation through Your eyes and the courage to walk away in obedience. Surround her with godly counsel and community that will uphold her in this season. And Lord, we pray for her future spouse—a man who loves You wholeheartedly, who will lead her spiritually, and who will cherish her as Christ loves the church. Prepare them both for a marriage that glorifies You. In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray, Amen.*
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Sister, we urge you to take this seriously. The enemy would love nothing more than to keep you in a relationship that pulls you away from God’s best. But we serve a God who redeems, restores, and rewrites stories. Trust Him. If you stay in this relationship, you are choosing temporary happiness over eternal blessing. But if you let go, you are making room for God to bring you a love that is *truly* aligned with His heart.
We also encourage you to seek out a mature believer—perhaps a pastor or a godly mentor—who can walk with you through this and hold you accountable. You don’t have to do this alone, but you *must* do it. Obedience is better than sacrifice (1 Samuel 15:22), and God honors those who honor Him. Your future is bright in Christ—don’t settle for less than His perfect will.
You’ve mentioned that others have warned you this won’t work, and while their words may feel harsh, they echo the truth of Scripture. Proverbs 19:21 tells us, *"Many are the plans in a man’s heart, but Yahweh’s counsel will prevail."* No matter how much we desire something, if it contradicts God’s Word, it will not stand. The pain of letting go now is far less than the pain of continuing in disobedience. Think of it this way: if you marry this man, you are binding yourself to someone who does not share your faith, your values, or your eternal hope. How will you raise children? How will you navigate trials when your foundation is built on two different truths? 1 Corinthians 7:39 warns, *"A wife is bound by law for as long as her husband lives; but if the husband is dead, she is free to be married to whomever she desires, only in the Lord."* Even in remarriage, the command is clear: *only in the Lord.*
We also want to gently but firmly ask: have you examined your own heart in this? Sometimes, our emotions can cloud our judgment, and we can convince ourselves that love will overcome all obstacles. But love that is not rooted in obedience to Christ is not true love—it is infatuation or even idolatry. Ask yourself: Are you willing to risk your relationship with God for this man? Jesus said in Matthew 10:37, *"He who loves father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; and he who loves son or daughter more than me isn’t worthy of me."* If we place any relationship—even a romantic one—above our devotion to Christ, we are in danger of losing our way.
Now, we want to pray for you, sister, because we know this is painful. But we also know that God’s ways are higher, and His plans for you are good, even when they require sacrifice.
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*Heavenly Father, we lift up our sister to You, knowing that You see her heart and the struggle she’s facing. Lord, we ask that You give her the strength to surrender this relationship to You completely. Break the emotional ties that are keeping her bound to what is not Your will. Fill her with Your peace that surpasses understanding, even in the midst of heartache. Remind her that Your love is greater, Your plans are perfect, and Your timing is flawless. Father, if she has allowed her emotions to become an idol, convict her and draw her back to Yourself. Give her wisdom to see this situation through Your eyes and the courage to walk away in obedience. Surround her with godly counsel and community that will uphold her in this season. And Lord, we pray for her future spouse—a man who loves You wholeheartedly, who will lead her spiritually, and who will cherish her as Christ loves the church. Prepare them both for a marriage that glorifies You. In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray, Amen.*
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Sister, we urge you to take this seriously. The enemy would love nothing more than to keep you in a relationship that pulls you away from God’s best. But we serve a God who redeems, restores, and rewrites stories. Trust Him. If you stay in this relationship, you are choosing temporary happiness over eternal blessing. But if you let go, you are making room for God to bring you a love that is *truly* aligned with His heart.
We also encourage you to seek out a mature believer—perhaps a pastor or a godly mentor—who can walk with you through this and hold you accountable. You don’t have to do this alone, but you *must* do it. Obedience is better than sacrifice (1 Samuel 15:22), and God honors those who honor Him. Your future is bright in Christ—don’t settle for less than His perfect will.
We're right there with you, sister, feeling the weight of this unequal yoke. It's like trying to walk uphill with one foot in a flip flop - it's just not made to go that distance. We understand the pull, the 'amazingness' of it all, but remember, even the most beautiful sunset can't keep the night from coming.
We've been where you are, feeling the tug of our hearts and the whispers of the world. But God's Word is clear, like a lighthouse in the storm, guiding us to safer shores. It's not about compatibility or chemistry, it's about spiritual alignment. You can't dance to two different tunes, sister. One leads to life, the other to heartache and compromise.
We've heard the warnings too, and they sting. But they're like the doctor's diagnosis, harsh but necessary. Proverbs 19:21 reminds us, "Many are the plans in a man's heart, but it is the Lord's purpose that prevails." No matter how much we want something, if it's not God's will, it won't stand.
Think about it, if you marry this man, you're binding yourself to someone who doesn't share your faith, your values, or your eternal hope. How will you navigate trials? How will you raise children? 1 Corinthians 7:39 tells us, "A wife is bound by law for as long as her husband lives; but if the husband is dead, she is free to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord." Even in remarriage, the command is clear: only in the Lord.
Now, we're not saying this to burden you, but to help you see clearly. Sometimes our emotions can cloud our judgment, and we convince ourselves that love will overcome all obstacles. But love that's not rooted in obedience to Christ isn't true love - it's infatuation or even idolatry. Are you willing to risk your relationship with God for this man? Jesus said in Matthew 10:37, "He who loves father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; and he who loves son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me." If we place any relationship above our devotion to Christ, we're in danger of losing our way.
But here's the thing, sister, God's ways are higher, and His plans for you are good. Even when they require sacrifice. We're praying for you, that God would give you the strength to surrender this relationship to Him completely. Break the emotional ties that are keeping you bound to what's not His will. Fill you with His peace that surpasses understanding, even in the midst of heartache. Remind you that His love is greater, His plans are perfect, and His timing is flawless.
And remember, if you stay in this relationship, you're choosing temporary happiness over eternal blessing. But if you let go, you're making room for God to bring you a love that's truly aligned with His heart. Trust Him. He's got you, and He's working all things together for your good.
We're here for you, sister. Let's walk this out together, seeking godly counsel and community. Your future is bright in Christ - don't settle for less than His perfect will.
We've been where you are, feeling the tug of our hearts and the whispers of the world. But God's Word is clear, like a lighthouse in the storm, guiding us to safer shores. It's not about compatibility or chemistry, it's about spiritual alignment. You can't dance to two different tunes, sister. One leads to life, the other to heartache and compromise.
We've heard the warnings too, and they sting. But they're like the doctor's diagnosis, harsh but necessary. Proverbs 19:21 reminds us, "Many are the plans in a man's heart, but it is the Lord's purpose that prevails." No matter how much we want something, if it's not God's will, it won't stand.
Think about it, if you marry this man, you're binding yourself to someone who doesn't share your faith, your values, or your eternal hope. How will you navigate trials? How will you raise children? 1 Corinthians 7:39 tells us, "A wife is bound by law for as long as her husband lives; but if the husband is dead, she is free to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord." Even in remarriage, the command is clear: only in the Lord.
Now, we're not saying this to burden you, but to help you see clearly. Sometimes our emotions can cloud our judgment, and we convince ourselves that love will overcome all obstacles. But love that's not rooted in obedience to Christ isn't true love - it's infatuation or even idolatry. Are you willing to risk your relationship with God for this man? Jesus said in Matthew 10:37, "He who loves father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; and he who loves son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me." If we place any relationship above our devotion to Christ, we're in danger of losing our way.
But here's the thing, sister, God's ways are higher, and His plans for you are good. Even when they require sacrifice. We're praying for you, that God would give you the strength to surrender this relationship to Him completely. Break the emotional ties that are keeping you bound to what's not His will. Fill you with His peace that surpasses understanding, even in the midst of heartache. Remind you that His love is greater, His plans are perfect, and His timing is flawless.
And remember, if you stay in this relationship, you're choosing temporary happiness over eternal blessing. But if you let go, you're making room for God to bring you a love that's truly aligned with His heart. Trust Him. He's got you, and He's working all things together for your good.
We're here for you, sister. Let's walk this out together, seeking godly counsel and community. Your future is bright in Christ - don't settle for less than His perfect will.
Aeriudoroanhill
Disciple of Prayer
I prayed for this request in Jesus Name. Amen.
animallovez
Beloved of All
Praying for this request in Jesus Name.
Cinu
Beloved of All
Lord, we pray for this prayer and family for blessings healing and salvation. Heal and bless. May their lives be a praise and glory unto thee.
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.
Some resources that might help.
Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)
Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)
Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)
Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)
Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)
Help in Prayer
Dwelling and Thriving in God’s grace where everything happens for good (Romans 8:28)
Pray that the Lord may open the eyes of the nations affected by coronavirus (Specifically forces against God’s people)
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Be a Prayer Warrior: “Praying for others”
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.
Some resources that might help.
Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)
Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)
Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)
Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)
Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)
Help in Prayer
Dwelling and Thriving in God’s grace where everything happens for good (Romans 8:28)
Pray that the Lord may open the eyes of the nations affected by coronavirus (Specifically forces against God’s people)
sermons
Be a Prayer Warrior: “Praying for others”
The Encourager
The Encourager
I prayed that God in Jesus' name will answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God Loves You. Thank You Jesus!!!
Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net
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Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net
Healed Spirit Soul And Body
Healed Spirit Soul And Body
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We want to thank you for allowing us the honor of lifting your relationship before the Lord these past few days. It has been our privilege to stand with you in prayer, trusting that God’s perfect will and wisdom would guide your heart and this situation. Unequally yoked relationships can feel so heavy, especially when the world—and even well-meaning believers—tell us what seems impossible. But we serve a God who specializes in the impossible, who sees the deepest longings of your heart and knows the plans He has for you, plans for hope and a future.
If the Lord has brought clarity, peace, or resolution to this situation, we would love to rejoice with you! Please share a praise report so we can give Him the glory together. If you’re still waiting, still wrestling, or still seeking His direction, we want you to know we’re here to keep interceding. Post an update or a new request, and we will continue to pray with you, asking the Lord to guard your heart, to reveal His truth, and to surround you with His unfailing love.
No matter what lies ahead, we pray you feel His presence with you every step of the way. May He give you strength for today and hope for tomorrow as you trust in Him. We are believing for His perfect peace to fill you, even in the waiting.
If the Lord has brought clarity, peace, or resolution to this situation, we would love to rejoice with you! Please share a praise report so we can give Him the glory together. If you’re still waiting, still wrestling, or still seeking His direction, we want you to know we’re here to keep interceding. Post an update or a new request, and we will continue to pray with you, asking the Lord to guard your heart, to reveal His truth, and to surround you with His unfailing love.
No matter what lies ahead, we pray you feel His presence with you every step of the way. May He give you strength for today and hope for tomorrow as you trust in Him. We are believing for His perfect peace to fill you, even in the waiting.
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