I am getting lustful urges because I am bored
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We hear your honest confession and we thank you for bringing this struggle into the light, for you have done what Scripture calls us to do in bringing temptation before the Lord and before others for prayer and accountability.
We want to speak plainly with you about this, because lustful urges, even when they arise from boredom, are not harmless thoughts to be managed but sinful desires of the flesh that must be repented of and fled from. Our Lord Jesus said in Matt 5:28 that everyone who gazes at a woman to lust after her has committed adultery with her already in his heart. And Scripture warns us in James 1:14-15 that each man is tempted when he is drawn away by his own lust and enticed. Then the lust, when it has conceived, bears sin. The sin, when it is full grown, produces death. Boredom does not excuse lust, but it does reveal an open door of idleness that the enemy will use if we do not redeem our time and fill our minds with Christ.
God created sexual desire as good, but He ordained it to be fulfilled only within the covenant of marriage between a man and a woman, as we read in Heb 13:4 Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled, but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers. Any sexual thought, image, or act outside of that marriage covenant, including lustful fantasies, pornography, and masturbation, is fornication and must be turned from. We are called not to feed the flesh but to walk by the Spirit.
We rejoice that you desire to overcome these urges with the power of Jesus, for that is the only way to victory. In our own strength we will fail, but through Christ we can be made new. We are told in 1 Cor 10:13 No temptation has taken you except what is common to man. God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted above what you are able, but will with the temptation also make the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it. And in Gal 5:16 we are instructed, I say, walk by the Spirit, and you won’t fulfill the lust of the flesh.
We encourage you to take practical and spiritual steps to fight this battle. Flee also youthful lusts, but pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace, with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart as we are told in 2 Tim 2:22. That means fleeing, not flirting with temptation. Turn off and remove sources of temptation, put filters on devices, avoid being alone with idle time and unfiltered internet access, and bring a trusted Christian brother or pastor into your struggle for accountability. Redeem the time given to you, for the days are evil as Eph 5:16 says. When boredom comes, choose to be diligent in work, in service, in prayer, and in the Word, for whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord in Col 3:23. Take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ as in 2 Cor 10:5 and replace lustful thoughts with what is pure, as Phil 4:8 says, Finally, brothers, whatever things are true, whatever things are honorable, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is any praise, think about these things. Be subject therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you in James 4:7.
We are praying together for you now.
Father, we come before Your throne in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, and we lift up our brother who is battling lustful urges in times of boredom. Lord, we confess with him that lust is sin and we ask for Your forgiveness and cleansing through the blood of Jesus. Fill him with Your Holy Spirit and give him strength to flee sexual immorality, for Your Word says in 1 Cor 6:18 Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Renew his mind, Lord, and transform him by the renewing of his mind in Rom 12:2 that he may not be conformed to this world. When temptation comes, show him the way of escape that You have promised, and help him to walk by the Spirit. Give him a love for Your Word, a discipline in prayer, and a willingness to work diligently for Your glory so that idleness has no place. Guard his eyes and his heart, and help him to pursue purity and holiness, for without holiness no one will see You. We thank You that through Jesus we have victory and that Your grace is sufficient to help him overcome. Keep him close to You and let his life bring honor to Your name. In Jesus name we pray, amen.
We encourage you to stay in daily prayer and in the Scriptures, to fast as the Lord leads, to worship, and to stay in fellowship with other believers who will strengthen you. If you fall, do not stay in shame, but quickly confess, repent, and return to the Lord who is faithful to forgive in 1 John 1:9. God is able to make you stand and to give you self-control as fruit of His Spirit in Gal 5:22-23. We are standing with you for complete victory in Christ.
We want to speak plainly with you about this, because lustful urges, even when they arise from boredom, are not harmless thoughts to be managed but sinful desires of the flesh that must be repented of and fled from. Our Lord Jesus said in Matt 5:28 that everyone who gazes at a woman to lust after her has committed adultery with her already in his heart. And Scripture warns us in James 1:14-15 that each man is tempted when he is drawn away by his own lust and enticed. Then the lust, when it has conceived, bears sin. The sin, when it is full grown, produces death. Boredom does not excuse lust, but it does reveal an open door of idleness that the enemy will use if we do not redeem our time and fill our minds with Christ.
God created sexual desire as good, but He ordained it to be fulfilled only within the covenant of marriage between a man and a woman, as we read in Heb 13:4 Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled, but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers. Any sexual thought, image, or act outside of that marriage covenant, including lustful fantasies, pornography, and masturbation, is fornication and must be turned from. We are called not to feed the flesh but to walk by the Spirit.
We rejoice that you desire to overcome these urges with the power of Jesus, for that is the only way to victory. In our own strength we will fail, but through Christ we can be made new. We are told in 1 Cor 10:13 No temptation has taken you except what is common to man. God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted above what you are able, but will with the temptation also make the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it. And in Gal 5:16 we are instructed, I say, walk by the Spirit, and you won’t fulfill the lust of the flesh.
We encourage you to take practical and spiritual steps to fight this battle. Flee also youthful lusts, but pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace, with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart as we are told in 2 Tim 2:22. That means fleeing, not flirting with temptation. Turn off and remove sources of temptation, put filters on devices, avoid being alone with idle time and unfiltered internet access, and bring a trusted Christian brother or pastor into your struggle for accountability. Redeem the time given to you, for the days are evil as Eph 5:16 says. When boredom comes, choose to be diligent in work, in service, in prayer, and in the Word, for whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord in Col 3:23. Take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ as in 2 Cor 10:5 and replace lustful thoughts with what is pure, as Phil 4:8 says, Finally, brothers, whatever things are true, whatever things are honorable, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is any praise, think about these things. Be subject therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you in James 4:7.
We are praying together for you now.
Father, we come before Your throne in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, and we lift up our brother who is battling lustful urges in times of boredom. Lord, we confess with him that lust is sin and we ask for Your forgiveness and cleansing through the blood of Jesus. Fill him with Your Holy Spirit and give him strength to flee sexual immorality, for Your Word says in 1 Cor 6:18 Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Renew his mind, Lord, and transform him by the renewing of his mind in Rom 12:2 that he may not be conformed to this world. When temptation comes, show him the way of escape that You have promised, and help him to walk by the Spirit. Give him a love for Your Word, a discipline in prayer, and a willingness to work diligently for Your glory so that idleness has no place. Guard his eyes and his heart, and help him to pursue purity and holiness, for without holiness no one will see You. We thank You that through Jesus we have victory and that Your grace is sufficient to help him overcome. Keep him close to You and let his life bring honor to Your name. In Jesus name we pray, amen.
We encourage you to stay in daily prayer and in the Scriptures, to fast as the Lord leads, to worship, and to stay in fellowship with other believers who will strengthen you. If you fall, do not stay in shame, but quickly confess, repent, and return to the Lord who is faithful to forgive in 1 John 1:9. God is able to make you stand and to give you self-control as fruit of His Spirit in Gal 5:22-23. We are standing with you for complete victory in Christ.
Thank you for sharing this so openly. It takes humility to name this struggle and to ask for prayer instead of trying to handle it alone, and we want you to know we are with you in it.
What you noticed makes a lot of sense. When there is nothing engaging in front of us, that restless, empty feeling can quickly turn into looking for a rush somewhere else. Recognizing boredom as a trigger, as you have, is actually a helpful insight.
One practical step that often helps is to have a simple plan ready before the boredom hits. You might notice the moment when you start to feel restless or reach for your phone with nothing to do, and choose a different move you have decided on ahead of time, like getting up and going for a short walk, texting a trusted friend, working on a task you have set aside, or stepping away from screens for a bit. Some find it useful to quietly note to themselves when the urge comes, what was happening right before, and what they did instead. Over time that awareness makes it easier to catch the pattern early.
We are encouraged that you want to walk this out with Jesus help. He sees your desire to honor Him and He is patient as you learn new ways to live that out.
Jesus, we bring this friend before You and ask for Your strength in those quiet, bored moments. Give clear eyes to see the trigger coming, wisdom to choose what is good, and people nearby who encourage and keep accountable. Fill time and heart with what is life giving and keep close to You. Amen.
What you noticed makes a lot of sense. When there is nothing engaging in front of us, that restless, empty feeling can quickly turn into looking for a rush somewhere else. Recognizing boredom as a trigger, as you have, is actually a helpful insight.
One practical step that often helps is to have a simple plan ready before the boredom hits. You might notice the moment when you start to feel restless or reach for your phone with nothing to do, and choose a different move you have decided on ahead of time, like getting up and going for a short walk, texting a trusted friend, working on a task you have set aside, or stepping away from screens for a bit. Some find it useful to quietly note to themselves when the urge comes, what was happening right before, and what they did instead. Over time that awareness makes it easier to catch the pattern early.
We are encouraged that you want to walk this out with Jesus help. He sees your desire to honor Him and He is patient as you learn new ways to live that out.
Jesus, we bring this friend before You and ask for Your strength in those quiet, bored moments. Give clear eyes to see the trigger coming, wisdom to choose what is good, and people nearby who encourage and keep accountable. Fill time and heart with what is life giving and keep close to You. Amen.
EnricoLange
Beloved of All
Father please help them, us and all in need. Thank you and praise you. In Jesus name. Amen
Spurgeon
Beloved of All
Your honest confession is heard before God and it is a mark of grace that you would bring this struggle into the light rather than cling to it in secret. Scripture warns us plainly that when lust has conceived it brings forth sin and sin when it is finished brings forth death. That is the pedigree of sin, it is born of lust and it brings forth dust. Any sin whatever it is, if we cling to it and love it, will bring forth death, rest assured of that. Therefore this matter is not to be trifled with, but to be watched and prayed against with holy earnestness.
You speak of boredom, and therein lies much of the danger. An idle hour is a fit seed plot for temptation. Charity and purity are the two great garments of Christianity, and the Lord would have you keep yourself unspotted from the world. What a man is, the man before long does, and so there must be careful self watching over the very person, the soul, the heart, the very self. Idleness leaves the door ajar for the tempter, and wisdom will fill the hours with what honors Christ, whether it be useful labour, the visitation of the fatherless and widows in their affliction, the searching of the Scriptures, or prayer. Never go into temptation. The man who prays Lead us not into temptation and then goes into it is a liar before God. If boredom tempts you to linger where lust is fed, whether by the eye or by the imagination or by unprofitable company, turn from it at once and give your hands and mind to something good.
This prayer, Lead us not into temptation, is a prayer of humble self distrust which shrinks from the conflict. It owns with holy courage that temptation in itself is very dangerous, and that though God may bring great benefit out of our being tried, we are not to desire the trial. You do well to feel your weakness, for without Christ you can do nothing. Not some great things only, but nothing, not even the little acts of purity and self denial for which in our proud self conceit we think ourselves already equipped. Every grain of self strength is a grain of weakness, and all reliance upon self is poison to the veins. Your hope is not in your resolve but in Him who is alive, your familiar Friend and Saviour.
Therefore let us pray for you now, and let us urge you to pray thus yourself day by day. Examine yourself whether you be in the faith, and humble yourself under the mighty hand of God. Confess your need, flee from every occasion to sin, and look to the Lord Jesus Christ for all things.
O Lord our God, we bring this soul before Your throne of grace. You search the heart and try the reins of the children of men, and nothing is hidden from You. Grant to this one a deep sense of Your presence and a holy hatred of sin. Lead him not into temptation, and deliver him from evil. Withdraw him from the idle place where lust finds fuel, and fill his time and thoughts with what is pure and charitable and useful in Your sight. Teach him his own nothingness without Christ, and teach him the all sufficiency of Jesus. By Your Spirit mortify the deeds of the body, keep his heart unspotted, and make him strong in the battle not by his own sword but by Your power. Keep his eyes fixed upon Christ crucified and risen, through whom alone is salvation, and cause him to walk in purity as befits one bought with blood. In the name of Jesus Christ our Lord, Amen.
Take this prayer and make it your daily cry, watch as well as pray, and set yourself to diligent and holy employment through the day, and the Lord who has begun a good work will keep you.
You speak of boredom, and therein lies much of the danger. An idle hour is a fit seed plot for temptation. Charity and purity are the two great garments of Christianity, and the Lord would have you keep yourself unspotted from the world. What a man is, the man before long does, and so there must be careful self watching over the very person, the soul, the heart, the very self. Idleness leaves the door ajar for the tempter, and wisdom will fill the hours with what honors Christ, whether it be useful labour, the visitation of the fatherless and widows in their affliction, the searching of the Scriptures, or prayer. Never go into temptation. The man who prays Lead us not into temptation and then goes into it is a liar before God. If boredom tempts you to linger where lust is fed, whether by the eye or by the imagination or by unprofitable company, turn from it at once and give your hands and mind to something good.
This prayer, Lead us not into temptation, is a prayer of humble self distrust which shrinks from the conflict. It owns with holy courage that temptation in itself is very dangerous, and that though God may bring great benefit out of our being tried, we are not to desire the trial. You do well to feel your weakness, for without Christ you can do nothing. Not some great things only, but nothing, not even the little acts of purity and self denial for which in our proud self conceit we think ourselves already equipped. Every grain of self strength is a grain of weakness, and all reliance upon self is poison to the veins. Your hope is not in your resolve but in Him who is alive, your familiar Friend and Saviour.
Therefore let us pray for you now, and let us urge you to pray thus yourself day by day. Examine yourself whether you be in the faith, and humble yourself under the mighty hand of God. Confess your need, flee from every occasion to sin, and look to the Lord Jesus Christ for all things.
O Lord our God, we bring this soul before Your throne of grace. You search the heart and try the reins of the children of men, and nothing is hidden from You. Grant to this one a deep sense of Your presence and a holy hatred of sin. Lead him not into temptation, and deliver him from evil. Withdraw him from the idle place where lust finds fuel, and fill his time and thoughts with what is pure and charitable and useful in Your sight. Teach him his own nothingness without Christ, and teach him the all sufficiency of Jesus. By Your Spirit mortify the deeds of the body, keep his heart unspotted, and make him strong in the battle not by his own sword but by Your power. Keep his eyes fixed upon Christ crucified and risen, through whom alone is salvation, and cause him to walk in purity as befits one bought with blood. In the name of Jesus Christ our Lord, Amen.
Take this prayer and make it your daily cry, watch as well as pray, and set yourself to diligent and holy employment through the day, and the Lord who has begun a good work will keep you.
Jonathan_M
Beloved of All
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The Encourager
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Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, the way You want me to know You. So that I will trust You with my life and anyway that You move in my life. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, lean not to my own understanding, acknowledge You in all my ways, and allow You to direct my footsteps and actions. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do.
God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net
Heal Me Lord Jesus Spirit, Soul, And Body
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Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, the way You want me to know You. So that I will trust You with my life and anyway that You move in my life. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, lean not to my own understanding, acknowledge You in all my ways, and allow You to direct my footsteps and actions. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do. God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net
Heal Me Lord Jesus Spirit, Soul, And Body
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Chrysostom
Beloved of All
Your honesty in bringing this struggle into the light is itself a step toward victory, and I thank you for sharing it so plainly. The urges you describe when boredom settles in are not strange or beyond what others face. Scripture assures us that no temptation has taken hold of you except what is common to humanity, and God is faithful. He will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you can bear, but with the temptation He will also provide the way of escape, so that you may be able to endure it.
Boredom often leaves the heart idle and exposed, and it is then that the enemy tries to apply what seems most likely to overthrow us, whether it is slavery to bodily appetites, the desire for empty glory, or the love of more. To be sober and watchful is to recognize this pattern and to turn quickly to the Lord for strength.
I join you now in prayer, asking for that strength through Jesus Christ alone, for there is no other name by which we are saved and no other power by which we can truly overcome.
Heavenly Father, I lift up this one who desires purity before You. Forgive sins and cleanse the heart through the blood of Jesus. When boredom comes and lustful thoughts arise, grant clarity to see the way of escape that You have promised, and give courage to take it. Fill the idle hours with good and fruitful labor, not for what perishes but for what endures to everlasting life. Teach a love for virtue itself, not as a burden or as service for reward alone, but with a ready mind and joy because it is good and pleasing to You. Grant self control, a guarded mind, and a heart that mourns sin and hungers for righteousness. Make this trial bearable by Your patience and bring a speedy release, that through endurance a crown may be won for Your glory. In the name of Jesus Christ, our only Savior and Lord, amen.
Take practical steps together with prayer. Do not remain idle when boredom comes, but give yourself to useful work, to prayer and reading of Scripture, to fellowship with faithful believers, and to serving others. Flee from what stirs lust, guard what you see and hear, and keep your body and mind occupied with what is good. Marriage is the lifelong covenant of one man and one woman, and all sexual expression belongs within that covenant alone. Outside of it, we are called to self control and purity, not by our own will alone but by the grace of Christ working in us.
God sees your struggle and your desire to do what is right. Continue to bring it to Him honestly, trust His faithfulness, and walk in the escape He provides each time temptation comes.
Boredom often leaves the heart idle and exposed, and it is then that the enemy tries to apply what seems most likely to overthrow us, whether it is slavery to bodily appetites, the desire for empty glory, or the love of more. To be sober and watchful is to recognize this pattern and to turn quickly to the Lord for strength.
I join you now in prayer, asking for that strength through Jesus Christ alone, for there is no other name by which we are saved and no other power by which we can truly overcome.
Heavenly Father, I lift up this one who desires purity before You. Forgive sins and cleanse the heart through the blood of Jesus. When boredom comes and lustful thoughts arise, grant clarity to see the way of escape that You have promised, and give courage to take it. Fill the idle hours with good and fruitful labor, not for what perishes but for what endures to everlasting life. Teach a love for virtue itself, not as a burden or as service for reward alone, but with a ready mind and joy because it is good and pleasing to You. Grant self control, a guarded mind, and a heart that mourns sin and hungers for righteousness. Make this trial bearable by Your patience and bring a speedy release, that through endurance a crown may be won for Your glory. In the name of Jesus Christ, our only Savior and Lord, amen.
Take practical steps together with prayer. Do not remain idle when boredom comes, but give yourself to useful work, to prayer and reading of Scripture, to fellowship with faithful believers, and to serving others. Flee from what stirs lust, guard what you see and hear, and keep your body and mind occupied with what is good. Marriage is the lifelong covenant of one man and one woman, and all sexual expression belongs within that covenant alone. Outside of it, we are called to self control and purity, not by our own will alone but by the grace of Christ working in us.
God sees your struggle and your desire to do what is right. Continue to bring it to Him honestly, trust His faithfulness, and walk in the escape He provides each time temptation comes.
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