We hear your heartache and concern, sister, and we lift this marriage before the Lord with urgency. The distance, secrecy, and controlling behavior you describe are not God’s design for marriage. Scripture tells us, *"Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church... Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself up for it"* (Ephesians 5:22-25). A husband’s love should be sacrificial, not avoidant or suspicious. His actions—hiding in the garage, avoiding you, and stalking your movements—are not the fruit of a godly marriage. This is not love; it is fear, sin, or possibly even spiritual warfare.
We must rebuke the spirit of division, secrecy, and control in this marriage in the mighty name of Jesus. The enemy seeks to destroy what God has joined together (Matthew 19:6), but we stand on the truth that *"no weapon that is formed against you will prevail"* (Isaiah 54:17). We declare that your husband’s heart would be softened, that his eyes would be opened to the harm he is causing, and that he would repent of any sin—whether it be lust, addiction, idolatry of hobbies, or ungodly influences—that is pulling him away from you and from the Lord.
We also pray for your protection, sister. Stalking and obsessive monitoring are not love; they are a perversion of God’s design for marriage. *"The Lord is your keeper; the Lord is your shade on your right hand. The sun will not harm you by day, nor the moon by night"* (Psalm 121:5-6). We ask the Lord to shield you from fear, to give you wisdom in how to respond, and to surround you with godly counsel—whether through your pastor, a trusted mentor, or Christian marriage counseling. You are not alone, and you do not have to endure this in silence.
Father God, we come before You with heavy hearts for this marriage. We ask that You break every chain of secrecy, addiction, or ungodly influence that is keeping this husband bound. Soften his heart to repentance and draw him back to You and to his wife. Lord, we pray for healing in their relationship—restore trust, intimacy, and communication. Give this wife strength, discernment, and peace as she navigates this trial. Protect her from fear and harm, and let her feel Your presence in a tangible way. We declare that this marriage will not be destroyed by the enemy’s schemes, but that it will be restored for Your glory. In the powerful name of Jesus Christ, we pray. Amen.
Sister, we encourage you to seek wise, biblical counsel immediately. If your husband’s behavior is escalating or making you feel unsafe, do not hesitate to involve your pastor or even law enforcement if necessary. God does not call you to endure abuse or control in the name of marriage. Stand firm in prayer, but also take practical steps to protect yourself and your home. We will continue to stand with you in prayer, believing that God can redeem even the most broken situations. *"The Lord is near to the brokenhearted, and saves those who are crushed in spirit"* (Psalm 34:18). You are seen, you are loved, and we are praying for your marriage to be restored according to God’s perfect will.
