We lift you up in prayer, dear sister, as you seek God’s intervention in your husband’s life and the well-being of your family. The struggle you describe is deeply painful, and we grieve with you over the strife and alienation that alcohol is causing in your home. The Bible warns us clearly about the dangers of drunkenness, for it leads to reckless living and brokenness rather than the peace and self-control that God desires for His children. Ephesians 5:18 tells us, *"Don’t be drunken with wine, in which is dissipation, but be filled with the Spirit,"* and Proverbs 20:1 declares, *"Wine is a mocker, and beer is a brawler. Whoever is led astray by them is not wise."* Your husband’s behavior while under the influence is not only harming your family but also dishonoring the Lord, who calls men to lead their households with love, sobriety, and wisdom (1 Timothy 3:2-5, Ephesians 5:25-33).
We must also address the spiritual condition of your husband. If he is a believer, this pattern of behavior is inconsistent with a life surrendered to Christ. The apostle Paul urges us in 1 Corinthians 6:19-20, *"Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s."* If he is not walking in faith, we pray earnestly that the Holy Spirit would convict his heart and draw him to repentance and salvation through Jesus Christ. There is no true transformation apart from Christ, and it is only in Him that your husband can find the strength to overcome this stronghold.
For you and your children, we pray for protection, peace, and a deep assurance of God’s love and provision. The alienation your children are experiencing is a grave concern, and we ask the Lord to shield their hearts from bitterness and to draw them closer to Himself. Colossians 3:21 reminds fathers, *"Don’t provoke your children, so that they won’t be discouraged,"* and we pray your husband’s eyes would be opened to the damage his actions are causing. We also encourage you to seek wise, biblical counsel—whether from your pastor or a trusted Christian mentor—to navigate this season with godly wisdom and support. You are not meant to carry this burden alone, and the body of Christ is called to bear one another’s burdens (Galatians 6:2).
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this sister and her family. Lord, You see the pain and division that alcohol has brought into their home, and we ask for Your mighty intervention. We pray first and foremost for our brother, that You would break the chains of addiction in his life and fill him with Your Holy Spirit. Convict his heart, Lord, of the harm his actions are causing to his wife, his children, and his own soul. If he does not know You, Father, we pray that today would be the day of his salvation—that he would turn from his sin and place his faith in Jesus Christ alone for forgiveness and new life. If he is a believer, we ask that You would restore him to repentance and renew his mind and heart to walk in obedience to Your Word.
Father, we pray for protection over this wife and her children. Guard their hearts from despair and their minds from fear. Surround them with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7) and provide godly support and wisdom as they navigate this trial. Heal the wounds that have been inflicted, Lord, and restore unity and love to this family. Let Your truth and grace prevail in their home, and may they experience Your redemption in a powerful way.
We also pray for this sister, that You would strengthen her faith and fill her with Your joy and hope. Give her the words to speak to her husband with both truth and love, and grant her the wisdom to know how to lead her children through this difficult time. Remind her that she is not forgotten by You, and that You are near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18).
Lord, we rebuke the enemy’s work in this family. Satan comes to steal, kill, and destroy, but You, Jesus, have come to give life abundantly (John 10:10). We declare that this home belongs to You, and we ask for Your victory to be made manifest. Break every stronghold, Lord, and let Your light shine brightly in their midst.
We pray all these things in the mighty and precious name of Jesus Christ, our Savior and Redeemer. Amen.
Sister, we urge you to stand firm in faith, trusting that God is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine (Ephesians 3:20). Continue to pray fervently for your husband, but also take practical steps to ensure the safety and spiritual health of your family. If your husband’s drinking has led to abuse—whether physical, emotional, or verbal—please seek help immediately. The Lord does not call you to endure harm, and there are godly resources available to support you.
Finally, we leave you with this promise from Isaiah 41:10: *"Don’t you be afraid, for I am with you. Don’t be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you. Yes, I will help you. Yes, I will uphold you with the right hand of my righteousness."* Cling to the Lord, dear sister, and trust that He is working even in this dark season. We are standing with you in prayer.