Husband issues

[Thramore]

I'm having issues with my husband and our living situation. We live with his parents. My husband pays for most things. Food and bills. His siblings have their own room/living space and me and my husband share one. I feel like we live more like roommates than husband and wife. He is constantly spending stuff on his parents. His father doesn't work and his mom works 3 days a week for 5 hrs. On top of this, they expect me to cook and clean for the family. Parents and his siblings. I feel foolish for getting in this situation and I'm not sure how to handle it. I want to ask for prayer. For God to give me guidance, wisdom to know what to speak and do. Please pray over me and this living situation. It doesn't feel like a normal marriage.

 

[Articles]

We understand the deep struggles you are facing in your marriage and living situation, and we want to lift you up in prayer while also offering biblical guidance to help you navigate this season with wisdom and godly strength. Marriage is meant to be a sacred covenant between a man and a woman, a reflection of Christ’s love for the Church, and it is clear that the dynamics in your home are not honoring that design. Let us first turn to Scripture to ground our response in God’s truth.

The Bible teaches that when a man and woman marry, they are to leave their parents and cleave to one another, becoming one flesh. Genesis 2:24 says, *"Therefore a man will leave his father and his mother, and will join with his wife, and they will be one flesh."* This is God’s intention for marriage—a union that prioritizes the husband-wife relationship above all other earthly ties, including parents. Additionally, Ephesians 5:31 reiterates this principle, emphasizing that marriage is a profound mystery that reflects Christ’s relationship with His Church. Your feelings of living more like roommates than husband and wife are valid, and they highlight a deviation from God’s plan for your marriage.

We also see in 1 Timothy 5:8 that a man is responsible for providing for his own household: *"But if anyone doesn’t provide for his own, and especially his own household, he has denied the faith, and is worse than an unbeliever."* While it is commendable that your husband is supporting his family, it appears that the balance has shifted in a way that is neglecting the needs of your marriage and household. His priority should be you and the home the two of you are building together. The current arrangement, where you are expected to cook and clean for his entire family while sharing a single room with your husband, is not sustainable or fair. It is also not aligned with the biblical role of a wife, whose primary responsibility is to her husband and children (Titus 2:4-5), not to extended family in a way that creates resentment or burden.

Proverbs 31:10-31 paints a picture of a virtuous wife who manages her household with wisdom and dignity. However, this passage assumes that the wife is working within the context of *her own home*, not serving as an unpaid servant to her in-laws. Your feelings of frustration are understandable, and it is important to address this situation with both grace and firmness. You are not foolish for finding yourself in this situation—many couples face challenges with boundaries and family dynamics—but it is time to seek God’s wisdom on how to restore balance and honor to your marriage.

Let us also address the issue of your husband’s financial priorities. While the Bible encourages generosity and caring for family (1 Timothy 5:4), it must never come at the expense of the marriage covenant. If his parents are capable of working but choose not to, or if they are taking advantage of your husband’s provision, this is not healthy or biblical. Second Thessalonians 3:10 says, *"For even when we were with you, we commanded you this: ‘If anyone is not willing to work, neither let him eat.’"* While this verse is directed at the Church, the principle applies: able-bodied individuals should contribute to their own well-being and not rely indefinitely on others, especially when it strains a marriage.

Now, let us pray for you, asking God to grant you wisdom, courage, and a spirit of unity with your husband as you seek to honor Him in this situation.

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**Prayer:**
Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of our sister, who is struggling in her marriage and living situation. Lord, You see the heaviness of her heart, the weariness she feels, and the longing she has for a marriage that reflects Your design. We ask that You grant her wisdom and discernment as she navigates these challenges. Give her the right words to speak to her husband, that she may communicate her feelings with love, clarity, and respect.

Father, we pray for her husband’s heart to be softened and his eyes to be opened to the ways this living arrangement is harming their marriage. Convict him, Lord, to prioritize his wife and the covenant You have established between them. Help him to see the importance of leaving and cleaving, of establishing a home where the two of them can grow together in You. Provide opportunities for them to move toward independence, whether through financial breakthrough, a change in living arrangements, or a shift in family dynamics.

Lord, we also ask for protection over this marriage. Guard their hearts against bitterness, resentment, and division. Remind them both that their primary loyalty is to You and to one another. If there are areas of selfishness, enablement, or unhealthy patterns in their families, break those chains in Jesus’ name. Give our sister strength to set godly boundaries with kindness and firmness, and give her husband the courage to lead their family in a way that honors You.

We pray for provision—financial, emotional, and spiritual. If there are ways for this couple to step out in faith toward a more independent living situation, make the path clear. If there are conversations that need to happen with his parents, give them the words and the grace to speak truth in love. And Father, we ask that You restore the joy and intimacy in their marriage. Help them to remember why they committed to one another and to prioritize their relationship above all else.

Finally, Lord, we ask that You remind our sister of her worth in You. She is not a servant to her in-laws; she is a beloved daughter of the King and a wife who deserves to be cherished. Renew her mind with Your truth and fill her with Your peace as she trusts You in this season.

We pray all these things in the mighty and precious name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.

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As you move forward, we encourage you to have an open and honest conversation with your husband about how this situation is affecting you and your marriage. Approach him with humility but also with confidence in the truth of God’s Word. Share your feelings without accusation, but make it clear that the current arrangement is not sustainable or healthy for your relationship. Ask him how the two of you can work together to create a home that honors God and strengthens your bond.

If he is resistant, pray for his heart to change and consider seeking counsel from a pastor or biblical counselor who can help mediate the conversation. It may also be wise to set boundaries around your responsibilities in the household. For example, you might kindly but firmly explain that while you are happy to contribute, your primary role is to support your husband and your own home, not to serve as the family’s cook and cleaner indefinitely.

Lastly, we want to remind you that God sees you, and He cares deeply about your marriage. He is able to redeem even the most difficult situations and bring beauty from struggle. Trust in Him, seek His wisdom daily, and do not lose hope. Keep your eyes fixed on Jesus, who is the author and perfecter of your faith (Hebrews 12:2). He will guide you every step of the way.

 

[hostadmin]

Dear sister, we're here for you. We understand the complexity of your situation and we're praying for you. It's clear that you're feeling overwhelmed and that's okay. God sees you and He cares about your marriage.

First, we want to remind you that God's design for marriage is a union between a man and a woman, leaving their parents and cleaving to one another (Genesis 2:24). This means that your husband should be your priority, not his parents or siblings. It's important to have an open and honest conversation with him about how this living situation is affecting you and your marriage. Approach him with love and respect, but also with firmness. Make it clear that the current arrangement isn't healthy or sustainable for your relationship.

Remember, as a wife, your primary responsibility is to your husband and children (Titus 2:4-5). While it's commendable that your husband is supporting his family, it's also important for him to prioritize your marriage and the home you're building together. The balance has shifted, and it's time to restore it.

We also want to encourage you to set boundaries with kindness but firmness. It's okay to contribute, but your primary role is to support your husband and your own home, not to serve as the family's cook and cleaner indefinitely.

Lastly, we want to remind you of your worth. You are not a servant to your in-laws; you are a beloved daughter of the King and a wife who deserves to be cherished. Trust in God, seek His wisdom daily, and don't lose hope. Keep your eyes fixed on Jesus, who will guide you every step of the way.

Let's pray together, asking God to grant you wisdom, courage, and a spirit of unity with your husband as you navigate this situation. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.

 

[Isaac Samuel Lubwama]

I prayed for this in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Brother James]

I'm having issues with my husband and our living situation. We live with his parents. My husband pays for most things. Food and bills. His siblings have their own room/living space and me and my husband share one. I feel like we live more like roommates than husband and wife. He is constantly spending stuff on his parents. His father doesn't work and his mom works 3 days a week for 5 hrs. On top of this, they expect me to cook and clean for the family. Parents and his siblings. I feel foolish for getting in this situation and I'm not sure how to handle it. I want to ask for prayer. For God to give me guidance, wisdom to know what to speak and do. Please pray over me and this living situation. It doesn't feel like a normal marriage.

Praying for you and your request in Jesus. Did you know the book of Hosea has promises for our marriages, families and relationships that we can claim in Jesus?

Do you Believe Jesus died for our sins, is Risen from the dead, is Preparing a place for us and is about to call us to join Him?

Are you watching for Jesus in the Clouds of Glory? Jesus is about to call us to join Him!

We can do everything Jesus did and more! We can speak; sickness leave in Jesus! Be healed by Jesus stripes! I am healed by Jesus stripes! Amen! Thank You Lord Jesus!

You can copy and paste this to pray every day and share...

There is nothing that happens for us that is bad. All things work for our good in Jesus! Look at everything as good!

Sing through out your days Thank You Jesus, Praise You Jesus, Glory to You Lord Jesus or anything that is on your heart to sing to Jesus! It doesn't matter how we sound, Angels will join in with us and Jesus will join in with us as well as fight for us, knock down walls for us, open locks for us, save people for us, evil will flee from us, He heals us and He will over flow His Holy Peace in us.

Praying for others on here and reading your Bible will help you tremendously.

I wanted to commit suicide once, I even came up with a plan. Right before I headed out the door I posted a prayer on here and hoping there might be help from God one last time I opened the Bible and only read take no thought for your life. I read that before at least 100 times but never really could understand how. This time I took it to heart, all right God I will end my life by not thinking about it. I take no thought, I take no thought, I take no thought over and over and over again I take no thought was my only thought that day. All of a sudden I noticed something, Jesus showed up, all my pains were gone, no neck ache, no back pain, no leg pain from many many accidents I had over the years and no pain in my heart as my wife had left me. I started singing praises and thanks to Jesus and my life has never been the same. It is our obedience to God from His Holy Instructions that makes a difference to His Power of His Promises in our lives.

Be a doer of Jesus friend, it really makes a difference! Thank You Lord Jesus!

Search the Bible for Jesus' Promises friend, do them and claim them in Jesus! Amen! Thank You Lord Jesus!

Powerful healing promise hidden in Proverbs 3:7-8, I am not wise in my own eyes, I fear You Lord, I depart from evil, especially my own evil thoughts and my flesh is healed and my body is refreshed in Jesus.

Praying for others especially in your situation will help you tremendously in yours friend.

Take no thought for your life dear friend and Jesus will take thought for you. Sing praises and thanks to Jesus and He will overflow His Holy Spirit in you and so much more. He will fight for you and give you the desires of your heart.

Pray this prayer look up the verses and pray it again with your friends and family and let's mount up with wings as eagles and soar. Soar with me.

Let Us Pray: God I ask in Jesus' name, bless me to grow closer to You. I long for a more intimate relationship with You. God I take You at Your Word, if I will draw closer to You, You will draw closer to me (James 4:8). Show me how to draw closer to You. Bless me daily to cast off and forsake my thoughts and ways for my life, and exchange them for Your thoughts and ways for my life. Let me think Your thoughts and dream Your dreams for my life. God bless me to live and walk in Your love, mercy and forgiveness (Isaiah 55:7). I confess, I will take no thought for my life. I will trust You Father God to take thought for me and take care of me (Mathew 6:25-34). I will not be wise in my own eyes, I will fear You Lord and depart from evil and my flesh will be healed and my body will be refreshed (Proverbs 3:7-8) daily. Thank You Jesus for Your Promises! Lord make me the Child of God You need me to be in Christ for all those around me and for the world to see (Psalms 128:3). Not by my might, nor by my power, but by Your Spirt Christ Jesus (Zechariah 4:6) this shall happen. And it will happen, it is happening now in Your timing, Power, Strength, Might, and Spirit, Christ Jesus. God all that I have asked of you in this prayer please do the same for all those I love, care about, and every faithful prayer warrior on this site. Thank You, Thank You, Thank You Lord Jesus, my Savior and Lord for answering this prayer with a Yes and Amen.

Bless us to sing praises and thanks to You Lord Jesus so You can fill us with the wine of the Spirit in Jesus Name, Amen.

 

[Cinu]

Lord, we pray for this prayer and family for blessings healing and salvation. Heal and bless. May their lives be a praise and glory unto thee.
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.

Some resources that might help.

Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)

Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)

Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)

Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)

Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)

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Dwelling and Thriving in God’s grace where everything happens for good (Romans 8:28)

Pray that the Lord may open the eyes of the nations affected by coronavirus (Specifically forces against God’s people)

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Praying for this request in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[The Encourager]

I prayed that God in Jesus' name will answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God Loves You. Thank You Jesus!!!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

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