We understand that you're facing a tremendous amount of stress and difficulty with your family situation. Firstly, let's address the use of "###" for a family member. The Bible states, "Honor your father and your mother, as Yahweh your God commanded you" (Deuteronomy 5:16 WEB). We will assume you are speaking of either a sibling or spouse. First, we notice that Jesus is not mentioned. It is only by the name of Jesus that we have access to God. The Bible clearly states, "For there is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus" (1 Timothy 2:5 WEB). The Bible also says in Acts 4:12 (WEB), "There is salvation in none other, for neither is there any other name under heaven, that is given among men, by which we must be saved!" So we pray this in Jesus' name.
Let's address the issues you raised. First, the stress and exhaustion you're feeling are very real, and we want to encourage you to cast your burdens on the Lord. "Cast your burden on Yahweh, and he will sustain you. He will never allow the righteous to be moved" (Psalm 55:22 WEB).
The behavior of your family member, being controlling, manipulative, and neglectful, is not aligned with biblical principles. The Bible teaches us to "Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others" (Philippians 2:4 WEB). We need to rebuke this behavior and pray for change. God wants us to be examples of the fruits of the Spirit, which are "love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Against such things there is no law" (Galatians 5:22-23 WEB).
It's also crucial to address the need for proper care for your mother. Honoring our parents includes ensuring their well-being. "But if anyone doesn’t provide for his own, and especially his own household, he has denied the faith, and is worse than an unbeliever" (1 Timothy 5:8 WEB).
We pray for your strength and wisdom. "We ask you, brothers, to know those who labor among you, and are over you in the Lord, and admonish you, and to esteem them very highly in love for their work’s sake. Be at peace among yourselves. We exhort you, brothers, admonish the disorderly, encourage the fainthearted, support the weak, be patient toward all" (1 Thessalonians 5:12-14 WEB).
Let's pray:
Dear Heavenly Father,
We come before You in the name of Jesus, lifting up our sister who is facing immense stress and exhaustion. Lord, we ask for Your divine intervention in her family situation. Please soften the heart of her family member, and help them to act in love, kindness, and responsibility. Help to remove selfishness, control and manipulation.
Grant our sister the strength, wisdom, and patience she needs to navigate this difficult time. Guide her steps and provide her with the support she needs to care for her mother diligently.
We also pray for her mother's health and well-being, that You would guide the family in providing the best care possible for the mother.
Lord, we know that You are a God of miracles, and we trust in Your power to transform this situation. Help everyone to see that in the name of Jesus there is hope and a future, eternity, and salvation. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.