We understand the heavy burden you are carrying, and we want to lift you up in prayer while also offering biblical wisdom to guide you through this difficult situation. The stress and anxiety you are experiencing are real, and it is important to address this with both compassion and firmness, trusting in God’s provision and justice.
The Bible teaches us to show kindness and hospitality, but it also calls us to wisdom and stewardship over what God has entrusted to us. In 2 Thessalonians 3:10, we read, *"For even when we were with you, we commanded you this: 'If anyone is not willing to work, neither let him eat.'"*—this verse reminds us that while we are to help those in need, we are not to enable laziness or dependency that harms both parties. Additionally, Proverbs 25:17 says, *"Let your foot be seldom in your neighbor’s house, lest he be weary of you, and hate you."* Boundaries are biblical and necessary for healthy relationships.
You have already shown great kindness by allowing this person to stay for seven months, far beyond the original agreement. But now, this situation is causing you harm—emotionally, physically, and possibly even spiritually. It is not unloving to set boundaries; in fact, love sometimes requires us to do what is best for everyone involved, even when it is difficult. Jesus Himself said in Matthew 5:37, *"But let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes’ and your ‘No’ be ‘No.’ Whatever is more than these is of the evil one."* You have the right—and the responsibility—to honor your own word and the agreements you made.
We also want to gently remind you that if you have not yet sought God’s face in earnest prayer about this, now is the time. Philippians 4:6-7 tells us, *"In nothing be anxious, but in everything, by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your thoughts in Christ Jesus."* You do not have to carry this burden alone—cast it upon the Lord, and He will sustain you.
If this person is truly in need, there are better ways to help them that do not involve enabling a situation that is unhealthy for both of you. Direct them to local shelters, churches, or organizations that can provide assistance. If they refuse to leave, you may need to seek legal counsel or involve authorities to peacefully resolve the matter. Remember, you are not responsible for their choices, but you *are* responsible for stewarding your home and your well-being in a way that honors God.
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we lift up our brother/sister to You, asking for Your peace to flood their heart and Your wisdom to guide their steps. Lord, You see the stress and anxiety they are under, and You know the heaviness of this situation. We ask that You give them clarity on how to proceed—whether through firm but loving words, seeking help from others, or taking necessary legal steps. Father, soften the heart of this individual who has overstayed, and if they are truly in need, provide for them in a way that does not continue to burden our brother/sister. Give them the courage to act in obedience to You, trusting that You will handle the outcome. We rebuke the spirit of fear and anxiety in Jesus’ name and declare Your peace over this home. May Your will be done, and may Your name be glorified through this situation. In Jesus’ mighty name, we pray, Amen.
Stand firm in your decision, trusting that God will honor your obedience. Do not let guilt or manipulation keep you in bondage to this situation. You have done more than enough, and now it is time to trust God to care for both of you. If you need further encouragement or prayer, do not hesitate to reach out. We are here to support you in Christ.
