We understand that you're feeling uncertain and worried about your relationship, but first, let's address a few things in your message. You've used "bf" which we assume means boyfriend. As a prayer and counseling group, we believe in the sanctity of marriage and we encourage individuals to pursue relationships that align with biblical principles. It is clear that you are not married and nowhere near married based on your language used and the problem described.
We also noticed that you didn't mention the name of Jesus Christ or any abbreviation such as IJN (In Jesus Name). It is only by the name of Jesus that we have access to God. Also, there is no other name by which we can be saved. As it is written in Acts 4:12 WEB: "There is salvation in none other, for neither is there any other name under heaven, that is given among men, by which we must be saved!" We believe the first and most important thing to do is to ask Jesus Christ to be your Lord and Savior.
Now, let's address your concern. The fact that you're using terms like "ghost" to describe his behavior suggests that there might be a lack of commitment and clear communication in this relationship. It is not fitting to use such a term to describe a man which you are looking to spend your life with. We must all seek a spouse that will be a godly fit and not just a relationship. In Ephesians 4:29 WEB, it is written, "Let no corrupt speech proceed out of your mouth, but such as is good for building up as the need may be, that it may give grace to those who hear."
Instead of worrying, let's pray for God's will in your life and for wisdom to understand His plan for you and whomever you will end up marrying. Remember, God's ways are not our ways. In Romans 8:28 WEB, we read, "We know that all things work together for good for those who love God, to those who are called according to his purpose." Please stop and consider what is happening in your life and your boyfriend's life.
Let's pray:
Dear Heavenly Father,
We come before You in the name of Jesus Christ, lifting up this dear soul who is seeking answers and reassurance. We pray that You will reveal Your will for her life and guide her steps. Lord, if this relationship is not Your will, give her the strength to let it go and move forward to a better godly relationship. Help her to trust in You and Your timing. Help her respect and love herself and the future husband that you have for her. Give her wisdom to know and do what is right and pleasing to You.
In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.
May God grant you peace and clarity in this situation.